What examples of the statement that true friends would call you out on your bullshit? And does it ruin or strengthen a friendship?
What examples of the statement that true friends would call you out on your bullshit? And does it ruin or strengthen a friendship?
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absolutely. me and my best friend have called each other out on our shit, and our friendship has lasted decades at this point. we had one fight once, and called each other out on how each of us was shitty in that situation, and honestly, we haven’t really had a fight since. because we’re honest with each other, and we call each other out on our shit.
when it’s done right, it absolutely strengthens a friendship.
It only ruins it if you call them out and don’t offer any validation of their feelings or solutions on how they can fix the problem, otherwise you’re just complaining…about them…to their face…
I have a friend that continually complains about her sibling, but she has a tendency of having main character syndrome and not seeing things from others’ perspectives. So I try to tell her that, while her feelings are valid, she needs to also think about the perspective of her sibling and how any time her sibling tries to help her, all my friend does is criticize her, therefore her sibling doesn’t want to help.
You also need to recognize though, sometimes your friends talk just to vent, and not necessarily want advice. They just want to be heard.
Stop being a dick. Usually sets a guy straight and if it it doesn’t, give your friend a half hug and quick but meaningful “punch” to the ribs.
Good friends either try fight you or understand. If they fight you, they stop being a dick to everyone else. Now it is between you and him, it will all be good