What gendered double standard do you hate the most?

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What gendered double standard do you hate the most?

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  1. Story_Man_75 Avatar

    That punishment for crimes committed by women is not seen as equal in the eyes of the law. Women will almost always get less time for the same crime if committed by a man.

  2. sassafrassky Avatar

    That a well qualified black woman wasn’t a better choice than an old, white, 34 time convicted man.

  3. curiouss_druidd Avatar

    whenever a woman does something good or great, it’s seen as pure luck but if it’s a man it’s seen as hard work and a result of skill

  4. 544075701 Avatar

    Women can experiment sexually with other women and that’s totally cool. But if I go and fuck one goat….

  5. The_Pastmaster Avatar

    Man hits a woman: Wow, what an asshole.

    Woman hits a man: Huh, I wonder what he did to deserve that?

    No-one has the right to hit someone else because they can’t control themselves.

  6. WannaTittyFuck Avatar

    Women can wear skirts/dresses to work but guys can’t wear nice slack shorts (not cargo, the shorts that look like slscks cut at the knees).

  7. DigMother318 Avatar

    Women doing fucking anything being highlighted as standing out or obscure.

    YouTube has recommended me a lot of HBO Chernobyl clips. In the series there’s this one female character who serves as a stand-in for a bunch of scientists irl who brought up concerns regarding how the cleanup of the plant was being handled.

    Of course, tons of the comments were not-so-inconspicuously feeling the need to point out that this character isn’t a real person and that she’s only here for DEI because of wokeness. Meanwhile all the other inaccuracies regarding the MALE characters weren’t chalked up to that same stuff and were simply regarded as odd choices or errors that just exist on their own.

    If that stand-in character was male nobody would have batted an eye. God forbid a confident person with potentially very important info to share be female apparently

  8. FairyGothMommy Avatar

    Men are studs, women doing the same thing are skanky whores.

  9. Speed-O-SonicsWife Avatar

    That women are expected to always be open and friendly but men are allowed to be stoic and quiet.

    I’m a tired bitch; Leave me the fuck alone.

  10. MrsLabrat01 Avatar

    Whenever there’s a group of family or friends getting together it’s always the women who do the “heavy lifting” of the organization.

  11. sutasafaia Avatar

    That men who enjoy being around children are pedophiles while women are motherly and loving.

  12. GhostHostLMD Avatar

    Men walking around without shirts. Maybe I wanna have my tits out too. 👿

  13. FluffySoftFox Avatar

    “Men should spend more time with their kids”

    “Oh look at you out with your kids must be that the wife is busy huh?

  14. RedRing86 Avatar

    Body shaming. By far.

    Don’t make fun of a woman’s body!

    Small penis? Going bald? Short? haha fucking loser! Good luck getting a date, maybe try improving your dating profile even though it won’t work!

    Edit: In the response: Women trying to gaslight men that this doesn’t happen.

  15. DC_MEDO_still_lost Avatar

    I am so tired of being interrupted and then being treated like I am the one interrupting when I just continue to talk.

    I am tired of people questioning my credibility when I say something, but they immediately accept it when the exact same words are used by a dude.

  16. Thorbertthesniveler Avatar

    Just cause I have boobs doesn’t make me incapable of doing my job. No I don’t need help, I do just fine on my own.

  17. Automatic-Flight-698 Avatar

    When some males comment to females to smile. That’s irritating. Haven’t heard of the reverse happening. Ever.

  18. waitingtopounce Avatar

    Only male nipples are suitable for public display.

  19. MaryJanesSister Avatar

    One that has affected me the most as a mom, is the heavy societal expectation to do more than dad. I always took care of myself too ergo it affected me. People are nasty

  20. fickeveryon Avatar

    That women cant age. They get thrown out like trash and traded up for a younger woman. But men supposedly get more handsome and desired as they get older

  21. H2Osexual Avatar

    I heard a former coworker say this to our boss, “men cant get raped, if they don’t like it then whys their dick hard?” And he laughed awkwardly, clearly bothered. He never did anything and let it go.

    As a man who was raped by a woman. I left.
    I no longer work there.

    Thats not how a dick works. Some dudes can get erect for no god damn reason, or out of fear or nervousness. There’s many ways a woman can rape a man and any woman who does, needs to be in prison. Same goes for men to.
    But it doesn’t only go one way.

    Edit: they’re to their.

  22. pmmefacialcumshots Avatar

    If a woman has sex with a bunch of guys, people say she’s a slut. If a man does the exact same thing, he’s gay.

  23. NeighborhoodFine5530 Avatar

    It’s totally fine when men go shirtless or have underarm hair but when women go bra less and have underarm hair it’s a huge deal

  24. Plmb_wfy Avatar

    That men get to take their shirts off in public. I saw a guy who’s tits when down to his waste but he was happily outside running. If I did that I’d be arrested.

  25. Thickjimmy68 Avatar

    Men are always to blame if they cheat (which is 100% as it should be). They are also to blame when women cheat.

    IE..My needs weren’t being met. He wasn’t there emotionally. He didn’t give me enough time. He was married to his work. He was too clingy, I needed my space. He was controlling and manipulative. He didn’t understand me like (insert name of affair partner). Her support group will back her completely using these.

  26. Quite_Quandry Avatar

    Men get to be promiscuous “bachelors” and “the ladies just love him” and everyone gives them a high five.

    Promiscuous women are simply looked at as “sluts” and “for the streets.”

  27. Puzzled-Chair3922 Avatar

    That when it’s the woman who’s violent or abusive in a relationship it’s not as big a deal

  28. CryptographerBusy105 Avatar

    I don’t know that there is a specific one but annoys me the most are the ones everyone is just cool with. The so called positive ones. It goes for all stereotypes really. It’s like that is just as much an assumption as the negative ones but you’ll casually use it no problem?

  29. jets3tter094 Avatar

    Here’s one that’s really gotten on my nerves lately:

    • Men talk about wanting a woman who is submissive and feminine. If she’s educated, thriving in her career, and earning a high salary she’s considered “too masculine”, “undesirable”, “a red flag”, etc.

    • But also: apparently women are superficial gold diggers. And we’re somehow terrible for having standards. Like GOD FORBID I want a partner that’s equally as driven, educated, and shares similar lifestyle values. 🫠

    Obviously this isn’t an “all men” thing (before people want to attack me on this). But holy moly! Just speaking from personal experience and from talking with other women in a similar position, it’s definitely a real issue.

    Edit: For those that are replying to my comments and sliding into my DMs, thank you for proving my point. Perhaps stop listening to Joe Rogan or Andrew Tate for dating advice.

  30. ThunderThighs54 Avatar

    Body hair is ok on men, but “unclean” on women.

  31. SleepingInAt11 Avatar

    A male babysitter or preschool teacher is a pervert or gay. I enjoy being around kids, but I once got called a perv because I grabbed a kid trying to go beyond the safety bars on a balcony at a movie theater. Since then I’ve always limited my interaction with children I’m not family with.

  32. sugonmacaque Avatar

    I try not to get rage baited on algorithm content, but I can’t help it when a man is getting physically assaulted by a woman and no one does anything, but the second he retaliates or protects himself, everybody swarms in.

  33. cmwulf Avatar

    a woman sleeps around she’s considered a slut….a guy sleeps around he’s a stud….

  34. cookieaddictions Avatar

    Men make a big stink about a woman’s “body count” and think a woman is all sorts of negative things (trashy, dirty, used up) if she’s had more than a few sexual partners, but so many men’s biggest goal is to have sex with as many women as possible and they see men who “get” a lot of women as cool. The act is quite literally the exact same thing: they’re both having sex, but men are made cooler by it and women are made dirtier by it. It makes no sense and is just misogyny.

    It’s truly caveman thinking that sees sex as an act of conquering another (instead of a mutual act of connection and pleasure between two equals): being conquered is shame worthy and conquering another is worthy of praise.

    I think extremely lowly of men who see sex and women this way.

  35. chookywoowoo Avatar

    That men complain about something it’s a legitimate complaint and some action might be taken. If women complain they are upset and emotional. This is how my workplace operates.

  36. Competitive-Alarm399 Avatar

    Women are automatically favored by divorce courts

  37. Zemekes Avatar

    Fighting for custody in family court. Judge and court guardian seem incapable of accepting that teen kids who ask they not be forced to stay with mom could have any reason besides dad alienating them against mom.

    Truth doesn’t matter in family court. The perception of the truth is all that matters.

  38. Competitive-Alarm399 Avatar

    Believe all women

    Come on. We all have had exes, sisters, cousins, girlfriends, wives and other women in our lives that lie like a rug

    No one would ever say believe all men

  39. 2forInterference Avatar

    That it’s ok for women to wear bikinis that show the size and shape of their breasts, nipples and in many cases – labia, but men are judged for wearing speedos/swim briefs that are often less revealing.

  40. CountlessStories Avatar

    Men should be open with their feelings because acting tough and masculine is toxic and unappealing!

    Wait are your feelings are full of insecurities in social interactions. coping with trauma from abusive parents. or from not getting to live your life and grinding away?

    Never mind.

    We really just wanted to see you pet a kitten, or cry over a movie or something.

  41. CitizenHuman Avatar

    It’s fucking hot in summer and I have to wear slacks for work, even in the field. Give me a skirt, damnit, I’ve got the legs for it!

  42. Whole-Onion-5636 Avatar

    God I just want to feel wanted sometimes without initiating

  43. Adymus Avatar

    The way people will bend over backward to justify and excuse women’s abusive behavior, or any kind of unethical behavior for that matter, while crucifying men with no mercy for the same behavior.

  44. jittery_raccoon Avatar

    That women should work with customers and men should work in the back

  45. Top_Professional5710 Avatar

    That housework is a woman’s responsibility.

  46. Prior_Butterfly_7839 Avatar

    Women are bossy and men are direct.

  47. ThrowRABigStoveTV Avatar

    The whole “man up” thing for how men are expected to react/deal with situations is frustrating. Society can punish men a lot more than it does women when one shows weakness.

  48. Word2DWise Avatar

    If a woman sexually harasses/assaults a guy, no big deal.  Business as usual. 

  49. FieryAmethyst Avatar

    The single mom is the problem, and not the dad who abandoned the kid/mom.

  50. Flimsy-Average6947 Avatar

    How women who are tired and/or serious and/or quiet are perceived as being grumpy or being in a bad mood when a dude can literally go a whole day not smiling and saying one word, the guy cracks one joke and people think he’s hilarious and a gem to be around

  51. cvsnowfairy Avatar

    That women are too emotional to lead a country (US specifically) but our current president is a spoiled brat/crybaby who acts almost exclusively on emotion

  52. BlizzPenguin Avatar

    Fashionable plus-size clothing feels like it is only made for women. Above a certain size, men’s clothing looks like it is exclusively designed for dads who have given up on fashion.

  53. bibbybrinkles Avatar

    women can have their women’s spaces all to themselves but women are always expected to be welcomed into and space carved out for any activity dominated by men

  54. Slow-Ear-2485 Avatar

    Everyone’s happy if a woman can finish in 2-5 mins. No one’s happy when I do it 🙃🙃

  55. morse_hack Avatar

    I hate how girls get the good soap and guys are stuck with tree smell and/or concepts

  56. loves_spain Avatar

    That the man should be the breadwinner in the house and if a woman outdoes him salary-wise, that she’s got her priorities all screwed up and that it also makes him somehow less than a man.

    Also from my mother: that my (female) name appears first on my joint account with my husband

  57. Secretary007 Avatar

    Male pdf files seem to be more vilified more than female predators. They’re equally disgusting!!! Even female accomplices of male predators. All of them, scum!!!

  58. Odd-Guarantee-6152 Avatar

    Single fathers are heroes, single mothers are trashy.

  59. DasHexxchen Avatar

    If mom changes diapers she does her duty, if dad does it he is dad of the year.

    It’s not the worst one or the first, that came to mind. This one just pisses me off so much!

    Hot contenders:

    • shaving and makeup, for which men are ridiculed if the do it and women if they don’t.
    • same with wearing clothing associated with the other gender
    • liking kids
    • compulsory military service for women, who already use career time due to pregnancies and are potentially more costly or less reliable to employ in my country
    • having to do the first step as a man all the time
    • medical studies, where women’s bodies are less studied and known
    • hugs and compliments
    • worload in relationships, where women often have more of a mental load and daily chores and men have rarer or seasonal chores, which always get a thank you, cause they don’t happen daily, while those daily chores are invisible
    • assumed fields of expertise
    • ignorance or shaming for/of natural bodies and bodily functions
    • how men are predetors and women know what they want if they didn’t ask for consent
    • how woman have inherent worth (yet are still treated like objects to strive to own a pretty one) and men are judged by what they provide
    • how mental health issues areshrugged off for men
    • how a promisvious woman is a slut, but a man is a playboy
    • how we tell children early on what they can and can’t do based on gender and how we literally raise them differently based on those assumptions forming them into the steretype
    • boys will be boys aka no accountability for bad behaviour based on gender, while girls are made to believe that a boy who treats them badly likes them aka raising submissive women
  60. RanOutOfJokes Avatar

    This one’s gonna get a little heavy, but Male R#pe is considered a joke. Think about how many times you’ve heard a joke about “dropping the soap” or something similar, Peepshow (a BBC show funded by my taxes) makes male r#pe a punchline source

  61. AppropriateTough6168 Avatar

    If a girl dresses like a guy, no one cares. But if a dude wears a dress its weird as hell. Anybody can wear whatever the fuck they want.

  62. AdAvailable3706 Avatar

    That men shouldn’t show any emotion other than anger. The double standards are ridiculous. The fuck you mean showing emotion is “feminine”??? It’s human!

  63. bentnotbroken96 Avatar

    I got sexually harassed at work HR did nothing. If I had made several crude comments about how she looked, and grabbed her butt when she walked by, Id’ve been fired instantly.

  64. Difficult_Waltz_6665 Avatar

    Man decides to live alone with his dog, he’s shunned social norms, praised by bros and lives with ‘man’s best friend”. Women decide to live alone and have a cat she’s a mad cat woman destined to die alone because she made bad choices.

  65. DigNitty Avatar

    A lesser thought of one :

    The laundry tax

    I can fold my own laundry in like 4 minutes. Every girlfriend I’ve had has closes that take easily 3x as long. Women’s clothes and stringier and tighter. I need to turn most of my gf’s clothes inside out because they got screwed up when she took them off because they’re tighter than men’s clothes. I have no idea how to fold some of the weird string strapped tank tops she has. They’re made of odd material and require more complicated wash options.

    Sure she could buy loose fitting cotton tees and jeans like me, but fashion/culture would peg her as sloppy.

  66. LibertyCash Avatar

    Aging. It’s getting better but I super hate how traditionally women are considered out to pasture over 40 while men are considered to just be hitting their stride. Will be so grateful when that shit gets evened out.

  67. theghostsofvegas Avatar

    That women are allowed to have and exhibit feelings, but if men do the same they’re ridiculed.

    God forbid I want to cry every once in a while without having to hide it.

  68. Dazzling-Leek8321 Avatar

    That single mom’s are judged so harshly but single dad’s get the whole “OMG, that poor man having to raise those children all alone!” Experienced this myself 🙄

  69. KillJoybf Avatar

    I hate that men aren’t allowed to be meek/shy but if a woman is shy she’s cute and not “weak” or “pathetic”

  70. garboge32 Avatar

    The double standard of a single mother, oh she needs all the help we can give her but if it’s a single father raising a daughter he’s automatically a creep to some or he can figure it out on his own. Classes labeled “for all parents” turn away single fathers all the time because “this is a mother focused group and they aren’t comfortable practicing breast feeding techniques with a man in the room”. Doesn’t matter the dude lost his wife in labor delivering the child he’s got with him.

  71. tiberiusbrazil Avatar

    Everything related to divorce and laws in general 

  72. Even-Cut-1199 Avatar

    The one where so many female teachers that have sex with underage students don’t go to prison. While most male teachers that have sex with underage students go to prison for years.

  73. EmperorKira Avatar

    Can’t call a women fat or make fun of her looks, but it’s fine to say a guy has a small dick, laugh at him being bald or saying things like ‘short guy energy’.

  74. esoteric_enigma Avatar

    Men paying for everything when it comes to dating. This made perfect sense when women weren’t allowed to have careers to support themselves. We haven’t lived in an economy where this made sense for a while.

    Paying for two of everything everywhere you go gets expensive fast. Women will complain about men wanting to just hang out at their apartment with them instead of going out on dates. I think this is a major motivating factor. You’ve made yourself an expense to be managed instead of company.

  75. chinese_rocks Avatar

    That women who engage with children are just women. Men who engage with children are seen as dangerous and potential pedophiles.

  76. musicallyours01 Avatar

    Women are expected to be the homemaker even if they work full time. Men can come home and relax with the excuse of “they’ve been working all day”. Ik some relationships are a team effort which is awesome, but not everyone.

  77. BipolarSkeleton Avatar

    If you have gender disappointment because you’re having a son and not a daughter is seen as reasonable but if you have gender disappointment because your having a daughter and not a son you’re seen as being completely ridiculous

    And in the same breath it’s 100% acceptable and awesome to call yourself a girl mom/dad but you’re cringy and disgusting for calling yourself a boy mom/dad

  78. XxxGoldDustWomanxxX Avatar

    There are individuals out there who honestly think it’s okay to say that a male student enjoyed their female teacher raping them but wouldn’t dare say that if it were a male teacher and female student.

    When I was on FB and came across news stories about a female teacher being charged for inappropriate behavior with a minor, I always saw people in the comment section saying stuff like “Where was this teacher when I was in school?!” or “Ohhh, he’ll be alright. It was going to happen eventually.”

    If you’re on FB, go find a story about a woman who sexually abused her male student; I can guarantee you you’re going to see at least 3 comments of men, yes men, saying that shit…it’s sad…absolutely no one would say stuff like this if the genders were reversed.

  79. AleksandrNevsky Avatar

    Women being SA’d is a tragedy and of the utmost concern. Men being SA’d is a joke, even by ‘help’ services.

  80. Negative-Bowl7360 Avatar

    A woman who is with a younger man is a cougar. A man who dates a younger woman is a groomer.

    Only women can be victims of sexual assault, all men want it.

    Only men abuse women not the other way around.

    I almost got fired cause a girl with a crush kept touching me and I told her multiple times not to. It was all on camera yet I still had to go have a sit down with hr and got a warning cause I hurt her feelings when I said that she needed to keep her hands to herself. I’m sorry if I grabbed a girl in the same way she grabbed me I’d be in jail.

  81. FlameandCrimson Avatar

    Man cheats=he’s a piece of shit
    Woman cheats=well, she must have been really unhappy and good for her.

    Edit: I, in no way, am condoning cheating. Just pointing out the double standard.

  82. gucknbuck Avatar

    Bisexual women are viewed as a very attractive thing to men.
    Bisexual men are viewed as dirty gay men to women.