i’m going through a rough breakup. for over a week i’ve been bed rotting. i see my space get messier as the days go by. i know i should get up and clean, be productive, do anything. but i cant.
i’m still hurting. but at the same time i found peace with the whole situation. yet i still find myself in bed, no motivation to get anything done.
how do i get myself out of this hole?
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put all the trash in a bag, then take a walk after taking it outside.
sorry if this is obvious advice but you have to do something
there’s no advice for you can’t
Parent is going to lock me in the psych ward if I don’t get up and leave me there permanently this time, and
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Maybe start by taking little steps to get to the big step (going outside). Try reading self help books, calling some friends, cook, anything that may help you find some motivation to go out and live your life.
I got a dog. I have to get up and out of the house at least 4 times to walk him. Also I’m obsessed and he’s good for cuddling and his fur is super absorbent and perfect for crying into.
Honestly for me one of the only things that works is making plans with someone that you stick to. The expectation forces me to actually get up and get dressed, maybe even shower. If it’s at my place, it forces me to clean up at least on the surface. And afterwards i usually feel at least a little better escaping the rotting.
I don’t keep water in my room, I get (painfully) thirsty, I’m forced to get up and grab a glass, which means i end up getting along with my “day”.
Dig deep inside yourself to who you were before them…. What motivated you back then? That first cup of coffee? Opening the windows? Sometimes I put side blinders on and just leave my place- go out, go far enough away so that it takes a full half a day to come back – so that I’m too tired to think about anything except falling into a deep, healing sleep. Get a different view, a different idea. Pick one thing to do each day. Find someone to talk with about anything. Say hi to the people you pass, Make eye contact so you feel seen. Draw in the light and positive energies around you.
…Just some things I find helpful for myself.
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