Letting your kid run wild without setting any boundaries or discipline. Ignoring their emotional needs or constantly putting them down can also give off that vibe. Basically, acting like you don’t care or are too overwhelmed to put in the effort.
They allow their children to disrespect adults instead of correcting them. They will justify their child’s actions by saying he or she didn’t know better.
When your solution to a crying toddler isfeed them sugary snacks that becomes the only food they eat.then wonder why they won’t eat anything and have consistent tantrums.
Yelling, threats, authoritarian commands, fearmongering, inappropriate levels of physical engagement, losing track of them, you can tell they haven’t stopped being children themselves despite having kids, reckless pursuit of personal satisfaction at the expense of the kids, selfishness in general (how can you be selfish once you’re responsible for an innocent life?),
The biggest red flag for me is when people start dating someone and move in with them early in the relationship. You don’t move in with someone you met 3 or 6 months ago. You do not know this person at all, why the fuck would you have them living with your children?! Because this is an extremely common tactic for abusers to gain access to children I think you’re a terrible parent. The data doesn’t lie. I’m going with proven facts instead of my feelings. The parents who do that need therapy.
-Ignoring child emotional needs.
-Slapping, hitting, pushing. Im so supposed these “methods” are still living in some culturies.
-Phone/Tablet. The freaking phone on childs hand everywhere and its placed there so automaticly that you dont even notes it.
-Yelling and denying comfort.
“I grew up with [corporal punishment] and I turned out fine!”
Well, Maureen, you think that inflicting pain on children via physical violence is appropriate punishment, so I’d argue that no, you didn’t turn out “fine”.
Parents who’d rather have a screen in their face then engage with their child, parents who give their child to their grandparent all the time so they can go out, parents who put their child in adult situations, parents who don’t monitor their child
I remember hearing a child crying in the grocery store–not an uncommon sound, for sure, but this particular child’s cry had more of a “I just watched my dog die in front of me” tone than a “mom won’t buy me sugary cereal” tone–and the mom had so little patience for the kid and snapped at them.
showing your child on social media / creating an account centering your children. so much info about why it’s bad yet parents continue to do it, not caring about the long term effect on their child.
When they won’t let their kids play the way they want to play. Specifically dads (usually dads) trying to teach their young children (2-5) the proper way to do physical things at the park instead of letting then play freely.
Recently witnessed a dad telling his four year old he’d never succeed in life of he didn’t try to get to the top of the climbing structure. This dude honestly thought he was imparting wisdom on this kid
Your child always being on a tablet and eventually becoming reliant on the tablet in order to not throw a tantrum. I see too many parents outsourcing entertainment, education, and pretty much most other things with their young children to tablets and phones. I get small children can be overwhelming but there has been studies that show allowing your children that much screen time and internet access all the time causes developmental damage. Like you are giving your children cognitive problems because you are allowing them to be constantly stimulated by the tablet. And I think it’s kind of crappy how some parents will play the “but parenting is stressful” or “but I’m always so busy” card when part of the reason their children are such terrors is because of the tablet.
The moment you feel like you need force to raise your child. If you ever think you need to scream at them, to punish them. I’m sorry to tell you, but you’ve failed your highness. Now prepare for them to free themselves from your tyranny.
Letting your child destroy a restaurant when I go out to eat. Food stomped onto the ground, crayons broken, spilled drinks. Always makes me think the parents suck.
Parents who are reading these comments, people are judgmental of whatever you do, just keep putting in your best effort in doing what you think is best for your kids.
Parents will be criticized if their kids are being too loud in public, but if you entertain them with a tablet, you are also a bad parent. Moms will be judged if they are a stay at home mom and not contributing finically, or if they are a working mom who is not around enough. They will be judged if the bottle feed vs breast feed. There is no winning in others views.
I used to think calling kids naughty was fine before I understood how children’s behaviour is a way of communicating their needs. When parents call their kids naughty or label them with other things but don’t try to understand where their child is coming from, I think that’s bad parenting. Yes my kids can be annoying as hell and push my buttons but I know they are either just bored, hungry, tired, crave connection or dysregulated. It’s about understanding how we work as humans and then applying that to kids. Kids just want love and connection at the end of the day. They are (usually) not intentionally naughty.
When a child misbehaves even slightly and the first reaction is to spank/slap them. Like no other course of action. Then when you ask if that’s the only way they discipline them they ask what else there is to do.
You’re outside smoking weed more than you’re inside then get into a vehicle and drive with your child who only comes over two weekends out of the month. Said child runs around constantly looking for attention from you. No bedtime to speak of.
Over scheduling and prioritizing activities/sports over school. There’s one offs, but if your child is regularly missing school for an extra curricular (especially if the teacher has voiced concerns and yet you persist), you’ve got your priorities backwards. Math > Gymnastics or Soccer.
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Spends as little money as possible for the care of their child
Mothers who see their own daugthers as competition..
Letting your child run around and wreck things and not saying anything to them.
Letting your kid run wild without setting any boundaries or discipline. Ignoring their emotional needs or constantly putting them down can also give off that vibe. Basically, acting like you don’t care or are too overwhelmed to put in the effort.
They allow their children to disrespect adults instead of correcting them. They will justify their child’s actions by saying he or she didn’t know better.
It’s not a big deal Samantha or Sam cursed you.
Your adult children don’t talk to you
Ironically, never thinking you’re a bad parent.
Letting your child run freely and scream/ be obnoxious in public.
They try to live through their children
Trying to one up everyone with your kids accomplishments. Like no sally, your kid is 3 months old she didn’t almost say mama
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Letting your kids run wild and never doing anything. Or refusing to believe teachers that their precious offspring is the devil incarnate.
Soda as a regular thing. Kids who aren’t served water on a daily basis. Treats (cake, cookies, ice cream, candy, etc) on a daily basis.
Not letting your kids have emotions.
If their son turns out to be like Kaleb from King of the Hill.
When your solution to a crying toddler isfeed them sugary snacks that becomes the only food they eat.then wonder why they won’t eat anything and have consistent tantrums.
Protecting without educating.
Sticking them in front of a tablet with the volume on full in a restaurant.
Religious indoctrination.
I saw a lady filling her baby bottle at the soda fountain at a gas station once. I think it was Hi-C.
Children that are unkind
Yelling, threats, authoritarian commands, fearmongering, inappropriate levels of physical engagement, losing track of them, you can tell they haven’t stopped being children themselves despite having kids, reckless pursuit of personal satisfaction at the expense of the kids, selfishness in general (how can you be selfish once you’re responsible for an innocent life?),
Thinking parenting is easy.
The biggest red flag for me is when people start dating someone and move in with them early in the relationship. You don’t move in with someone you met 3 or 6 months ago. You do not know this person at all, why the fuck would you have them living with your children?! Because this is an extremely common tactic for abusers to gain access to children I think you’re a terrible parent. The data doesn’t lie. I’m going with proven facts instead of my feelings. The parents who do that need therapy.
Planting your kid in front of a tablet instead of teaching them how to behave in public.
-Ignoring child emotional needs.
-Slapping, hitting, pushing. Im so supposed these “methods” are still living in some culturies.
-Phone/Tablet. The freaking phone on childs hand everywhere and its placed there so automaticly that you dont even notes it.
-Yelling and denying comfort.
a child that never acts up
Children who are dependent on screens.
Anti vaxers
iPads in the kids hands wherever they go.
A kid throwing a public hissy fit and a parent looking at this phone and taking selfies.
Yelling at your kids for anything short of serious issues. Speaks to poor anger management.
Parents who compare their children in their presence
Parents who turn older siblings into Co Parents and make them parent their younger siblings
They blame teachers for their kids not doing well
People whose kids have gone NC with them and want nothing to do with them
“I grew up with [corporal punishment] and I turned out fine!”
Well, Maureen, you think that inflicting pain on children via physical violence is appropriate punishment, so I’d argue that no, you didn’t turn out “fine”.
Already having special needs children, but then doubling down and having more children.
Blaming everything on schools, social workers, and “the system”.
A kid on a leash and harness
Being on their phone the whole time.
“ArE yOu QuEsTiOnInG mY pArEnTiNg!?!?!”
Parents who’d rather have a screen in their face then engage with their child, parents who give their child to their grandparent all the time so they can go out, parents who put their child in adult situations, parents who don’t monitor their child
Swearing at your kids. You can’t control them so you swear at them? Bad Parent!
I am sure it has been said before, but iphones, ipads, nintendos under the age of 10.
Giving your kids devices
Jesus the comments…
Anyways…
Personally… For me… It’s a thuggish attitude or thievery.
Letting your kids run around and scream in a public indoor space like a restaurant.
Doom-scrolling and ignoring your child
I remember hearing a child crying in the grocery store–not an uncommon sound, for sure, but this particular child’s cry had more of a “I just watched my dog die in front of me” tone than a “mom won’t buy me sugary cereal” tone–and the mom had so little patience for the kid and snapped at them.
That was years ago and it still bothers me.
Parents who know the risks of things, know it’s not supposed to be done and just don’t care at all. For example, car seat, sleep and helmet safety.
Having kids you know you can’t afford the basic necessities for.
Not buying/letting kids wear clothes/shoes with characters they like on them because it’s “not cool”
showing your child on social media / creating an account centering your children. so much info about why it’s bad yet parents continue to do it, not caring about the long term effect on their child.
Screaming “don’t tell me how to raise my child” never seems to come from stable people.
When they won’t let their kids play the way they want to play. Specifically dads (usually dads) trying to teach their young children (2-5) the proper way to do physical things at the park instead of letting then play freely.
Recently witnessed a dad telling his four year old he’d never succeed in life of he didn’t try to get to the top of the climbing structure. This dude honestly thought he was imparting wisdom on this kid
Smoking around your kids.
Overweight kid
TESLAR is the best
“My kid would never do that.”
As a cashier: uncontrollable kids
When all the kids have ipad’s in front of them and the parents are trying to argue that it is normal and the only way to make kids behave.
kids (6-8yo) with an starbucks
crystal meth
Not vaccinating your child.
3 children diagnosed with PTSD before they turned 18.
Adults children who want nothing to do with you.
Parents at a a spot on their phone the whole time.
Your child always being on a tablet and eventually becoming reliant on the tablet in order to not throw a tantrum. I see too many parents outsourcing entertainment, education, and pretty much most other things with their young children to tablets and phones. I get small children can be overwhelming but there has been studies that show allowing your children that much screen time and internet access all the time causes developmental damage. Like you are giving your children cognitive problems because you are allowing them to be constantly stimulated by the tablet. And I think it’s kind of crappy how some parents will play the “but parenting is stressful” or “but I’m always so busy” card when part of the reason their children are such terrors is because of the tablet.
The moment you feel like you need force to raise your child. If you ever think you need to scream at them, to punish them. I’m sorry to tell you, but you’ve failed your highness. Now prepare for them to free themselves from your tyranny.
Having your kid out with you past 8pm
Body shames you
Letting your child destroy a restaurant when I go out to eat. Food stomped onto the ground, crayons broken, spilled drinks. Always makes me think the parents suck.
Carrying your child on your shoulders like a human meat shield.
Parents who sit in a restaurant and eat while their children run inside and bother other people.
If they try to physically pull their kid when he/she is crying.or they verbally attack them
Bursting into tears at parents evening
Buying cigarettes, booze, going out, or unnecessary spending and then can’t afford to buy their children basic necessities
Using meth, crack, or heroin.
Letting the kid run wild and not correcting them.
Chasing the dragon while your kid is in the back seat
Parents that put screens in front of children 24/7 cause they don’t want to parent.
Asking other random parents to take over for a second, you need a smoke.
Single parents who prioritize dating over their children
Parents who are reading these comments, people are judgmental of whatever you do, just keep putting in your best effort in doing what you think is best for your kids.
Parents will be criticized if their kids are being too loud in public, but if you entertain them with a tablet, you are also a bad parent. Moms will be judged if they are a stay at home mom and not contributing finically, or if they are a working mom who is not around enough. They will be judged if the bottle feed vs breast feed. There is no winning in others views.
Moms who call their sons their ‘little man’
Any child being given an ipad or iphone in a public place to keep them quiet
Shaming your child in public. Not just redirecting, but belittling them, putting them down.
Hanging your baby from a balcony. Then claiming you have strong arms.
letting your kids play in other people’s yards (unless there’s an agreement), hoarders, (active) addicts/alcoholics, etc.
Yelling at your kid instead of parenting your kid. Big red flag if all you do is yell at your kid.
Buying lottery tickets to lut in your kids eggs instead of candy or even… just the dollar you used to buy that ticket.
I used to think calling kids naughty was fine before I understood how children’s behaviour is a way of communicating their needs. When parents call their kids naughty or label them with other things but don’t try to understand where their child is coming from, I think that’s bad parenting. Yes my kids can be annoying as hell and push my buttons but I know they are either just bored, hungry, tired, crave connection or dysregulated. It’s about understanding how we work as humans and then applying that to kids. Kids just want love and connection at the end of the day. They are (usually) not intentionally naughty.
When a child misbehaves even slightly and the first reaction is to spank/slap them. Like no other course of action. Then when you ask if that’s the only way they discipline them they ask what else there is to do.
severely overweight kids
Letting an iPad raise your child.
ciggarettes
You’re outside smoking weed more than you’re inside then get into a vehicle and drive with your child who only comes over two weekends out of the month. Said child runs around constantly looking for attention from you. No bedtime to speak of.
I love my new upstairs neighbors.
Over scheduling and prioritizing activities/sports over school. There’s one offs, but if your child is regularly missing school for an extra curricular (especially if the teacher has voiced concerns and yet you persist), you’ve got your priorities backwards. Math > Gymnastics or Soccer.
When we give one of our kids’ friends the “Our house is a safe place” speech and they take us up on it.
Carrying a springy branch into a store and hitting your kids with it