Depends if the attraction is for her as a person (in which case he’ll be coming up with any excuse to spend more time with her through a full 24 hr day) or if it’s mostly a strong physical attraction (in which case he’ll be coming up with excuses to see her in the later hours of the day)
A lot of daydreaming and a lot of overthinking and second guessing. I spend way too much time thinking about someone I barely talk to.
Does she like me? Do I actually like her? Why do I like her? God she’s beautiful. Am I filling in the parts I don’t know about her with traits that fit my ideals?
I don’t have the strength in me to revisit those memories to explain. She is still in my mind in everything I do. My brain can’t handle the cognitive load and effort- it can’t justify the expenditure of that energy. But when I was with her, there was no deliberation or justification process. There was no process to deliberate if it was a good or bad idea to leave a comment. I was fully locked in.
As an autistic dude, whenever I have strong feelings for a girl, I will constantly overthink every little decision I made when interacting with her. If we went on a date during the day, I would lay in bed recapping every single thing I said to her to see if anything seemed rude, weird, or whatever.
Did what I do was appropriate?
Is it bad timing I did this?
Did I make her uncomfortable?
Oh shit I might’ve.
Fuck.
I’m a horrible human being.
I don’t deserve anything.
I don’t want to live anymore.
…
As I spiral out of control in my head while maintaining a smile on my face when in reality I am screaming in agony in my head 😁
You overthink everything. From words to simple interactions, you worry that you’re somehow going to make her hate you by saying or doing the wrong thing
When a guy really likes a girl, he thinks about her a lot, gets nervous around her, overanalyzes things she says, and wants to make her happy and impressed.
You know, I can’t speak for every man but for me personally it’s not a sexual as you think. I contemplate ways of impressing her communicating with her in a deep yet intimate way. Protecting her in some form, intellectually meeting her soul Then fucking Her like the world’s gonna end.
Simple, like a girl and want to do anything with her. Think about the stuff about either just a nice get together or get busy with it( that kind of stuff comes in second). Get blownoff and I’m 6 feet under shitty feeling afterwards to the point it hurts.
„She won’t like me that way anyway. Is she cool enough to get another friend or is she just hot?“
Because the girls that reject me often times actually want to be friends… like not just in a token excuse kind of way… so then u have to reject their friendship and that whole cycle is quite the hassle.
You start to think about where you would like to take her, what you would like to do with her (activities) and why not, you also start to fantasize about her in the sexual sphere.
For me, it’s thinking about taking drives, walks together, holding her while watching a sunset, or listening to the rain. If I think about her all the time, it’s most definitely not just about sex. Although that’s great too.
You know that feeling when you bite into the best-tasting dessert you’ve ever had? You aren’t really able to form full sentences for a bit, and you almost pass out from it. Sort of like that.
Also, a lot of convincing myself that there’s no way she likes me. So much so that it becomes silly to even think about pursuing anything even vaguely approaching a conversation.
Throw in an immense about of self consciousness about everything I do and everything I wear. Like, all of it is embarrassing.
Lastly, sprinkle in all the normal inability to understand flirting, signs, and hints. Shoot, she could write me an essay about why she wanted to go out with me and I’d miss the point.
For me, every thought became about her. I’d see something “ooh she’d like that/wouldn’t like that”, “we could do this together”, “I’d want to take her here”, “I can buy this for her”, start wondering how she really is, what’s on her mind, thinking about the future, thinking about our life together. Every thought involves her. Everything is done with consideration for her. I thought about marriage, what our family would be like, where we’d vacation. Wake up and fall asleep thinking about her. I haven’t slept and I feel like shit, so I’m probably missing some stuff. But essentially, she lived in my head rent free.
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Things slow down as all his blood is heading towards a different part of his body.
idk I like guys.
EVERYTHING STOP. WHAT IS HAPPENING TO ME
As a man with ADHD anything and everything like when me and my wife got together I kept thinking about how america should nuke France
I start thinking, “Man, I hope she doesn’t know I like her.”
Hell.
Starts planning a life with her in his mind (it’s very common).
In short, a mild to severe case of madness
It’s all you think about and you find ways to run into her.
…which head?
Depends if the attraction is for her as a person (in which case he’ll be coming up with any excuse to spend more time with her through a full 24 hr day) or if it’s mostly a strong physical attraction (in which case he’ll be coming up with excuses to see her in the later hours of the day)
Smash or pass?
I start thinking about all the different ways that she won’t like me back and convince myself it’s pointless.
I like to imagine the girl in sort of a miniature form, a similar size to an action figure or a stretch Armstrong.
Then I have maladaptive day dreaming in which I proceed to pull her arms and legs off and squash her head.
Don’t know why, but you do you.
inability to sleep cuz constantly thinking about her
Nothing rational
You simultaneously think of all the ways to make it work and to fuck it up.
Everything goes quite I stop thinking and just watch her how she moves how she looks back that’s all I need
A lot of daydreaming and a lot of overthinking and second guessing. I spend way too much time thinking about someone I barely talk to.
Does she like me? Do I actually like her? Why do I like her? God she’s beautiful. Am I filling in the parts I don’t know about her with traits that fit my ideals?
Very little, lol. That’s the problem
Think about the future with her having a family, getting married, living old together you know the American dream
I don’t have the strength in me to revisit those memories to explain. She is still in my mind in everything I do. My brain can’t handle the cognitive load and effort- it can’t justify the expenditure of that energy. But when I was with her, there was no deliberation or justification process. There was no process to deliberate if it was a good or bad idea to leave a comment. I was fully locked in.
As an autistic dude, whenever I have strong feelings for a girl, I will constantly overthink every little decision I made when interacting with her. If we went on a date during the day, I would lay in bed recapping every single thing I said to her to see if anything seemed rude, weird, or whatever.
Nothing really. Literally nothing goes in my head, I just get mesmerized by her beauty and just enjoy her presence
First, all the blood leaves…
Lots of fucking
For me, I start questioning every move I make.
Did what I do was appropriate?
Is it bad timing I did this?
Did I make her uncomfortable?
Oh shit I might’ve.
Fuck.
I’m a horrible human being.
I don’t deserve anything.
I don’t want to live anymore.
…
As I spiral out of control in my head while maintaining a smile on my face when in reality I am screaming in agony in my head 😁
“Don’t fuck it up. Don’t fuck it up. Don’t fuck it up “
The reaction happens significantly south from his head
He has intrusive thoughts on having a relationship with her.
You overthink everything. From words to simple interactions, you worry that you’re somehow going to make her hate you by saying or doing the wrong thing
Not much, really.
Sometimes when we really feel like a girl is “the one” it’s hard for us to even think of them in a sexual way
Ahh pointless feelings, welcome back my old friend.
When a guy really likes a girl, he thinks about her a lot, gets nervous around her, overanalyzes things she says, and wants to make her happy and impressed.
find everything she does cute as hell everything she does would feel so different and majestic it would be just wonderlandd
Captain Jack Sparrow smiling as he arrives to the docks on his sinking boat
You know, I can’t speak for every man but for me personally it’s not a sexual as you think. I contemplate ways of impressing her communicating with her in a deep yet intimate way. Protecting her in some form, intellectually meeting her soul Then fucking Her like the world’s gonna end.
How can I get my p in that v
I instantly tell her I like her cans and her toilet lol sorry
Simple, like a girl and want to do anything with her. Think about the stuff about either just a nice get together or get busy with it( that kind of stuff comes in second). Get blownoff and I’m 6 feet under shitty feeling afterwards to the point it hurts.
I start frantically asking myself “Does she like me”?
“Hubba-hubba, arooga-arooga.” At least that was what it was like back in the day.
I GIGGLE AND KICK MY FEET AND THINK ABOUT THE PERSON LOTS. Moreso the concept of the person than anything specific yk
For me, way too much.
Many things lol. From fantasising about going on a date together to having sleepless nights jerking yourself to erotic thoughts of her lol.
Just trying to be realistic
Something that will disappoint when they actually meet and know
I used to do as much cocaine and alcohol as it took to forget about her. These days, I just work on my vegetable garden or take my dog to the beach.
„She won’t like me that way anyway. Is she cool enough to get another friend or is she just hot?“
Because the girls that reject me often times actually want to be friends… like not just in a token excuse kind of way… so then u have to reject their friendship and that whole cycle is quite the hassle.
How am I gonna fuck this up again lol
What does her butt taste like
For me it is “how do i not appear creepy”
“Land of the free” merica !!
Absolutely nothing but her.
Which one?
You start to think about where you would like to take her, what you would like to do with her (activities) and why not, you also start to fantasize about her in the sexual sphere.
For me, it’s thinking about taking drives, walks together, holding her while watching a sunset, or listening to the rain. If I think about her all the time, it’s most definitely not just about sex. Although that’s great too.
I don’t know about the rest of you, but what’s racing through my brain are hormones and endorphins.
Hehehehehe, gitty up
You know that feeling when you bite into the best-tasting dessert you’ve ever had? You aren’t really able to form full sentences for a bit, and you almost pass out from it. Sort of like that.
Also, a lot of convincing myself that there’s no way she likes me. So much so that it becomes silly to even think about pursuing anything even vaguely approaching a conversation.
Throw in an immense about of self consciousness about everything I do and everything I wear. Like, all of it is embarrassing.
Lastly, sprinkle in all the normal inability to understand flirting, signs, and hints. Shoot, she could write me an essay about why she wanted to go out with me and I’d miss the point.
Yeah…. sort of like that.
Nothing but her
Singing stupid things about her and temporary IQ loss
That how she is shallow and run behind a chad.
Dopamine
For me, every thought became about her. I’d see something “ooh she’d like that/wouldn’t like that”, “we could do this together”, “I’d want to take her here”, “I can buy this for her”, start wondering how she really is, what’s on her mind, thinking about the future, thinking about our life together. Every thought involves her. Everything is done with consideration for her. I thought about marriage, what our family would be like, where we’d vacation. Wake up and fall asleep thinking about her. I haven’t slept and I feel like shit, so I’m probably missing some stuff. But essentially, she lived in my head rent free.
Not much else!
A lot of blood…in the other head
What does it taste like