For men who’ve used a woman as a rebound while still emotionally tied to their ex did you feel any guilt or regret after leaving that rebound girl? Or did you just not care that much?
What were your emotions after you left her to go back to your ex? And if the rebound developed real feelings for you, did that change anything for you at all?
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“Worth it.”
I’ve only had it done to me by women but I just don’t think they care that much so I assume the same is very much true for men.
I’ve never “used” a woman as a rebound. I’ve dated women after a break up, we both got what we wanted out of it and accepted that sometimes things don’t work out. I’ve always been the one to break up with every woman I’ve dated, many had real feelings/love for me, but it wasn’t right for me, doesn’t mean they were used.
I’m gonna be honest with you. People do what they want to do. If they’re using you as a rebound, they aren’t going to think about it at all and they definitely won’t regret it.
I was hung up on a specific girl for ten years and never even dated her. She was constantly blowing me off for other men she’d date and I got very little time. She never regretted it. I gave up probably a lot of good women who would’ve given me their everything while waiting around for her. I never regretted that either. The heart wants what the heart wants.
Ironically enough after ten years we finally slept together and she changed her mind overnight. Couldn’t stop talking about how she was dumb for so long and was willing to up and move across the country to try and make it work with me. I on the other hand had the opposite wake up call. I was done feeling anything for her the next day and never did again.
Ten year post nut clarity.
Not especially.
I dated a girl 3 weeks after my wife and I split.
She wasn’t a rebound…..but she filled the spot my ex left….but for a LONG time
I remember the times that women used me and decide not to feel bad about it. I don’t lie or manipulate, so it’s not like I was dishonest. These are grown up big girls who can decide for themselves what they are willing to do with a man who is probably on the rebound
Didn’t care. Back then bouncing back and forth between exes was like a sport. How much could I piss one off this week and still get in her pants next week.
Never used a woman as a “rebound”. Have been “used” by a woman as a sort of rebound at least; after a few months of us dating she decided she wanted to give her her long time ex another chance. As far as I could tell at the time, I think she thought she gave us together a chance. Don’t have any hard feeling as she was pleasant to me and treated me nice enough the whole of the relationship. We, especially her, were also young at that time.