What have you learned about who you are, what you value, or how you move through life while single?
What has being single taught you about yourself emotionally, mentally, or even practically?
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What have you learned about who you are, what you value, or how you move through life while single?
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I could write a book on this LOL
The tl;dr version: I am enough, complete, satisfied, and content being my own woman. It is NEVER worth the price compromising that and anyone or anything that would want me to have no place in my life.
What true peace feels like. Yes, there’s still hardships but now it’s of my own doing and knowing only I can help myself has been liberating.
Relying solely on myself and no longer needing to compromise for someone else has been a breath of fresh air. No stress or need to please a man.
If an opportunity arises where I meet someone who can flow into my life seamlessly — by all means I’d be open to compromise, but only if I deem then worth putting in that work.
I actually like myself and a lot of people don’t
A lot, I realized being young and single is fucking sweet for a million reasons, but here are just a few
1: I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, don’t have to answer to anyone
2: I can dress how I want, don’t have to worry about dressing “modest”
3: I can have sex with whoever I want
4: I can flirt with anyone I want
5: I can travel without needing to worry about my partner being available to join me
6: All money I make is -MY- Money, I don’t have to share it with anyone or spend it on the relationship
List goes on and on, I’m still pretty young so when I get older I’ll find someone and settle down, but for now being single is fucking sweet lol
I’ve been in a relationship for several years now, but I was single during the brunt of the pandemic (2020) and spent a lot of time alone with my thoughts. It was pretty transformative:
I left a very abusive relationship. I left and was in a very bad way with a newborn and 2 kids that depended on me. Once I left i rebuilt relarionships that broke apart because of him. Attended therapy. I live with my kids now.
I have learnt how to be independent, not rely on anyone, how resiliant I am.
Emotionally I am building myself up, I still attend therapy and I went today I will be honest it breaks me every damn time.
Practically I can now do some of the masculine jobs typically men do in the house.
That I’ve just plain never understood the widespread belief (especially among men) that I’m supposed to make my life worse to make some random man’s life better. I’ve always thought that if you can’t make both your lives significantly better by teaming up, and better by a similar degree, that means you’re fundamentally incompatible and shouldn’t be together.
I love my me time and I appreciate my company more than anything. I love to read and watch films
That I’m happy enough alone that a relationship has to be really special to be better than that.
That I’m way better off being single than with a man.
Long story short : I can do whatever the fuck I want without running it by anyone.
It’s nice to be selfish sometimes.
But also , I am also enough on my own.
Trust your intuition
I’ve learned to prioritize my own happiness and recognize my personal goals clearly.
It’s taught me that society is structured in such a way that you are effectively punished for being single, no matter how much you love yourself, no matter how much you enjoy your own company, no matter how self-actualized you are. Being single has made it harder for me to access medical care. No amount of loving myself will solve that problem.
you only feel free when you feel good emotionally
you’re a total queen, keep thriving