Leaving my abusive friend group in highschool and making actual friends like the 98% of the students in my year that not only liked me, but were friendly and easily could have been great friends.
i avoid all social settings, i’ve had someone hit on me and i ignored them like the plague just because i was in a setting with way too many people around. i also hate malls..
At the inner city school I taught at, a couple times a term among the students. We actually received training on physically breaking up a fight because in the board I worked for, at the time I taught, it was a requirement that you physically intercede if verbal commands didn’t work.
Socialising. I’m only a teenager and I’m already scared in case I’ll end up lonely because of it. It’s prevented me from reaching out to a girl I had a light crush on and I’m absolutely terrified in case it’ll be worse
No friends, don’t talk to relatives often.. I avoid people as much as possible but ironically I love everyone I just get awards sometimes while communicating
For years? Everything. I could barely leave the house, if I had to interact with someone I would have to psych myself up for hours and then come home and crashed because it was so socially exhausting because I was so anxious the whole time.
I’ve gotten a lot better on medication but still to this day I really don’t have many friends, consequences of going totally dark for three years.
Moving on from my current job of five years for something that would be better for me. I don’t hate my current employer or job but I want to move up into something else that will better my life.
Finding and maintaining relationships. It always feels like I’m not good enough to be a friend much less anything more to anyone so I don’t try and then feel even worse about myself.
EVERYTHING. Jobs, doing better at my job, getting help from teachers/professors, networking, making friends, dating, sex, pursuing my hobbies more. Everything.
Friends. High school dances. Birthday parties. Grade 8 grad trip. High school Europe trip. Asking someone to prom. Dating. Developing any real personality in high school. Exploring high school classes like dance or woodshop. Chance to be in the school talent show. It took away my trust in people. Being open to relationships and to build a thicker skin. It took away my first kiss too. I’m almost 30 and haven’t had a relationship nor a kiss.
It’s ruined my confidence in anything outside academia. Driving, marriage, motherhood. Everything.
Having a social life, romantic partner or steady job, I’ve had girls ask me out recently or show interest but I have no friends, no life and no social skills. I had a 2 month old baby recently and it almost made me tear up because I knew it’s something I’ll never experience for myself, which is a family of my own. Functioning in society in general is hard for me, feel like a complete outsider to society and everyday people.
Reaching out to people. I need new friends and I had a few friendly relationships going with folks but life changes happen and now I’m afraid to try and go back and say hi
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getting a haircut this month
Sometimes I want to compliment someone, but my social anxiety stops me from reaching out.
Going to the gym consistently, maintaining friendships, socializing regularly with the same people, trusting people.
Yelling back at a customer
Leaving the house to make more than one trip carrying stuff from the car.
Promotions at work
Nothing important, I guess. Hindsight says it’s all good.
Showing people my authentic self
Leaving my abusive friend group in highschool and making actual friends like the 98% of the students in my year that not only liked me, but were friendly and easily could have been great friends.
Lifeing
Expressing how I actually feel… even to the people I trust.
enjoying things tbh
Going to my wife’s office parties. Mine too for that matter.
Booty
Furthering my career. And my social anxiety plays into my episodic Insomnia/MDD.
i avoid all social settings, i’ve had someone hit on me and i ignored them like the plague just because i was in a setting with way too many people around. i also hate malls..
Applying for jobs
Meeting new people
Commenting as much as I want on Reddit.
There’s far too many meanies here.
So many missed conversations. I’ll see someone I want to talk to or connect with, and I just overthink it until the moment’s gone.
A stress-free grocery run.
Content creation.
At the inner city school I taught at, a couple times a term among the students. We actually received training on physically breaking up a fight because in the board I worked for, at the time I taught, it was a requirement that you physically intercede if verbal commands didn’t work.
Phoning the doctors lol
Socialising. I’m only a teenager and I’m already scared in case I’ll end up lonely because of it. It’s prevented me from reaching out to a girl I had a light crush on and I’m absolutely terrified in case it’ll be worse
No friends, don’t talk to relatives often.. I avoid people as much as possible but ironically I love everyone I just get awards sometimes while communicating
i could carry on for days, anxiety aint shit if you can’t control your thoughts and you stay afraid of them the whole time 😕.
For years? Everything. I could barely leave the house, if I had to interact with someone I would have to psych myself up for hours and then come home and crashed because it was so socially exhausting because I was so anxious the whole time.
I’ve gotten a lot better on medication but still to this day I really don’t have many friends, consequences of going totally dark for three years.
Moving on from my current job of five years for something that would be better for me. I don’t hate my current employer or job but I want to move up into something else that will better my life.
The lead in the school musical in 6th grade, an architecture degree, and online dating, among others.
Job. Friends. Going to the grocery store regularly
Finding and maintaining relationships. It always feels like I’m not good enough to be a friend much less anything more to anyone so I don’t try and then feel even worse about myself.
SEX
love and success
Job opportunities
Finding a dentist that my insurance covers. It’s been 3 years. Thankfully, I brush and floss regularly lol
A career in my desired field
Social gatherings. Duh.
EVERYTHING. Jobs, doing better at my job, getting help from teachers/professors, networking, making friends, dating, sex, pursuing my hobbies more. Everything.
A social life. But in retrospect, maybe it was for the best. 62yo M 🇨🇦.
Friends. High school dances. Birthday parties. Grade 8 grad trip. High school Europe trip. Asking someone to prom. Dating. Developing any real personality in high school. Exploring high school classes like dance or woodshop. Chance to be in the school talent show. It took away my trust in people. Being open to relationships and to build a thicker skin. It took away my first kiss too. I’m almost 30 and haven’t had a relationship nor a kiss.
It’s ruined my confidence in anything outside academia. Driving, marriage, motherhood. Everything.
Having a social life, romantic partner or steady job, I’ve had girls ask me out recently or show interest but I have no friends, no life and no social skills. I had a 2 month old baby recently and it almost made me tear up because I knew it’s something I’ll never experience for myself, which is a family of my own. Functioning in society in general is hard for me, feel like a complete outsider to society and everyday people.
Reaching out to people. I need new friends and I had a few friendly relationships going with folks but life changes happen and now I’m afraid to try and go back and say hi
In high school, I was too anxious to go up to the office window and buy a ticket to the senior breakfast.
I’ll hear people talking about something interesting, and I really wanna join in, but I’m afraid I’ll be a bother and ruin the mood with my presence
Telling the woman I loved that I was in love with her, and then watching her eventually marry someone else
Too much to even know
Everything
Traveling to Spain alone. I’m about to say yolo and book a trip for my birthday. I’ve always wanted to go
I came here to say that I have a chronic anxiety disorder, but oddly enough, my social anxiety is pretty minimal! It’s the strangest thing.
Getting my degree in meteorology like I really wanted.
Getting my drivers license because I can’t take the test with a stranger.