I’ve spent this year quitting everything from drinking and smoking to validation-seeking behavior. My quality of life has improved, but I still feel lonely and unseen.
I attend my kids’ events and sell my products at local parks, but authentic adult connections—romantic or platonic—still feel out of reach.
Has anyone else put in serious self-work and still struggled to feel like things “clicked” socially? What helped you stay grounded when the external results were slow?
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I try to find the tangible, objective improvements in the process towards the endgoal to measure whether I am still on course. As long as I can see me ticking the boxes bit by bit, I am fine, even though I know that times not infinite. It’s the best I can do, I know from the distance I have already put behind me that things start to increasingly improve faster. It’s okay to itch for more as long as it doesn’t compell me to recklessly rush things and sabotage myself.
I was called a habitual quitter by a friend once. Another friend told me, habits take three months to form and three months to break.
All good things come in moderation. I kept trying to change myself for other people. I’ve been a social butterfly, trying to make everyone happy and not focusing on myself.
I too, feel lonely. When i’m not sharing a room with someone, I have to go some where public. Been traveling for two months now, between hotels and family. Not sure if I’m lost or if the wind has a destination for me.
Hope you find your answers bro.