My boyfriend once admitted to me that it was never his intention to be with me. He and his female friend loved each other; however, she left for another man her family approved of (social standing). Almost immediately after she left, he began dating me. It took a long time for our relationship to rebuild itself.
He started being more honest and open to me; I think honesty helps a lot. I’d rather not be fed any more lies.
Im in this space now. Not him having an affair but porn and joined an AI dating chat thing to have a pretend partner he could mold his own way. Talk about a kick to my pride and my joy of our marriage. We have since talked it out and supposedly hes left the app but I have such a hard time trusting and not obsessing. The anxiety I feel daily is heartbreaking because my internal self value as a wife has been reduced because of this. Im slowly building back my spark and trying yo make our marriage romantic. Im not a romantic person and thats what he was missing and diddnt feel that site was real but getting a false relationship. An even bigger blow to my ego.
Im still struggling with trust. I hope all works out for you and all of us. Im 50 and my spirit has been broken a little.
Nothing. A partner that loves you might eat the last piece of cake when you’re not looking, but they do not betray your trust in a way that needs rebuilding.
Once trust is broken, it will never be the same and I guarantee leaving is always better than staying with a person that showed you very cleary they dont give a shit about you.
It really depends what happened. If its something like cheating I don’t think that can ever be repaired. Or stealing something
If it’s something minor, just time
Nothing. My ex cheated. He spent all our money. He betrayed my trust time and again
And I stayed for nearly 8 years, five after the infidelity. It was never the same. He broke it.
A lot of time, patience, accountability and understanding from both sides. Make sure both follow through with what’s said. Open and calm communication. Exercise looking at things for the other person’s point of views. During fights, my partner and I made a rule to say things from another person’s perspective out loud to each other. And that really helped.
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Usually it requires a lot of time and accountability
My boyfriend once admitted to me that it was never his intention to be with me. He and his female friend loved each other; however, she left for another man her family approved of (social standing). Almost immediately after she left, he began dating me. It took a long time for our relationship to rebuild itself.
He started being more honest and open to me; I think honesty helps a lot. I’d rather not be fed any more lies.
Im in this space now. Not him having an affair but porn and joined an AI dating chat thing to have a pretend partner he could mold his own way. Talk about a kick to my pride and my joy of our marriage. We have since talked it out and supposedly hes left the app but I have such a hard time trusting and not obsessing. The anxiety I feel daily is heartbreaking because my internal self value as a wife has been reduced because of this. Im slowly building back my spark and trying yo make our marriage romantic. Im not a romantic person and thats what he was missing and diddnt feel that site was real but getting a false relationship. An even bigger blow to my ego.
Im still struggling with trust. I hope all works out for you and all of us. Im 50 and my spirit has been broken a little.
Nothing. A partner that loves you might eat the last piece of cake when you’re not looking, but they do not betray your trust in a way that needs rebuilding.
Once trust is broken, it will never be the same and I guarantee leaving is always better than staying with a person that showed you very cleary they dont give a shit about you.
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Nothing. You break my trust, I’m out.
As Mother Monster taught us: Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if it’s broken, but you can still see the crack in that motherfucker’s reflection.
It really depends what happened. If its something like cheating I don’t think that can ever be repaired. Or stealing something
If it’s something minor, just time
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Nothing. My ex cheated. He spent all our money. He betrayed my trust time and again
And I stayed for nearly 8 years, five after the infidelity. It was never the same. He broke it.
I wish I’d walked away the first time.
A lot of time, patience, accountability and understanding from both sides. Make sure both follow through with what’s said. Open and calm communication. Exercise looking at things for the other person’s point of views. During fights, my partner and I made a rule to say things from another person’s perspective out loud to each other. And that really helped.
Time apart
Apology.
Consistent behaviors, especially transparency.
Time.
In my experience, nothing. They just do it again. Would love to be proven wrong though.