Seriously, realizing it’s okay to say “no” to plans when I’m tired, or to protect my own time and energy instead of always trying to people-please… it’s been such a game-changer for my stress levels and overall happiness. I used to feel so drained all the time! Wish I’d understood sooner that protecting my peace isn’t selfish, it’s necessary.
Listening to myself, establishing boundaries, and not caring what others think. I wish younger me knew that things didn’t always have to be so tough if I would’ve done these three things
Getting rid of social media apps and making Internet become a “place” again, instead of something I have with me everywhere. I rarely go on the internet on my phone anymore, mostly just for directions. Social media, youtube, etc. stay on the computer. It is ridiculous how much it changed my life for the better.
Getting an infected tooth removed. I didn’t realize how sick I was feeling until I finally got it removed. The pain from the infection was worse than the recovery from oral surgery.
Exercising.
I have a bad back, arthritis everywhere, and hypermobility.
Exercising have helped tremendously with my back pain, my bad knees, and with losing weight.
I eat normally, and don’t drink alcohol.
Earlier this year, I could barely walk to my local supermarket 500 meters away, and back again.
I can do that now, and I’ve also started going on walks just to enjoy it.
My goal is to be able to walk as far as my knees will allow me, without having to resort to the more addictive painkillers that I have for emergencies, and so far haven’t needed to use yet. I hope to keep it like that.
Working harder on myself, with therapy and/or life coach, putting up better boundaries with the abusive people in my life, and actually paying attention to what I needed.
Day time naps. Seriously, I love them. They make my days so much better, and I have more energy and a better attitude/mood versus the days I don’t take my little naps.
Doing theater and improv. Mostly local, but it’s fun, and I made a few friends along the way. Inspired me to do some extra work which I enjoyed to a point. Truly wish I did this when I was in my teens, I would’ve gotten on it as hard as I could.
Ergonomic office chair. I sit all day for my job so I have no idea why I went without one for so long. They arent cheap but thankfully my employer reimbursed a great deal of it.
Finding God in a serious and loving Christian community of people my age. Made close friends, and had experiences and growth I couldn’t have possibly had before hand. Experienced an overwhelming amount of love and support
Not being afraid to spend money on experiences. I used to be a penny pincher but in the last couple of years I have taken multiple vacations and traveled the world. Don’t regret a single dollar.
As someone from a working class background whose family never hired anyone to help at home, I felt so uncomfortable doing this. I have a good paying job with long hours. I’m doing professional exams which require months of study outside of work hours. Getting a cleaner has freed up several hours of my life each week that I can use to rest.
Doing something about my face acne. I had no idea how much this was affecting my whole social life.
Turns out one of the biggest reason I didn’t talk much is because I straight up didn’t want people to look at me and notice how ugly I was. This is a big deal.
Going to the gym and getting fitter, stronger, and more in shape. I feel more confident, fit in clothes better, have more clothing options to choose from (it felt horrible not being to find stuff that fit), don’t get winded climbing stairs and doing regular physical activity, am getting more attention from people romantically, and have much better mental health overall.
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Cutting toxic friends and family out of my life like I was trimming a bush in my yard
Seriously, realizing it’s okay to say “no” to plans when I’m tired, or to protect my own time and energy instead of always trying to people-please… it’s been such a game-changer for my stress levels and overall happiness. I used to feel so drained all the time! Wish I’d understood sooner that protecting my peace isn’t selfish, it’s necessary.
Listening to myself, establishing boundaries, and not caring what others think. I wish younger me knew that things didn’t always have to be so tough if I would’ve done these three things
Getting a bidet
Three things. Going to therapy for my depression, losing 100lbs, and quitting smoking
Regular physical activity , gratitude, reading a book before going to sleep instead of using social media
Prioritizing SLEEP and WATER.
Stop drinking.
11 years now.
ChatGBT
Buying a better up to date safer car
The gym and healthy eating
ADD medication
Deleting social media (except Reddit)
Getting rid of social media apps and making Internet become a “place” again, instead of something I have with me everywhere. I rarely go on the internet on my phone anymore, mostly just for directions. Social media, youtube, etc. stay on the computer. It is ridiculous how much it changed my life for the better.
Having a dog
Moving to a new state. more sunshine was life changing
Having kids
Walking regularly
Getting an infected tooth removed. I didn’t realize how sick I was feeling until I finally got it removed. The pain from the infection was worse than the recovery from oral surgery.
Getting a remote job
Getting a cleaner in once a week. Upstairs one week then downstairs the next
Ayahuasca
Got a dog
Quitting worrying about things I can’t control
Prioritizing health over work. Your employer doesn’t give a fuck about you and no amount of money will buy that time back.
Stopped smoking.
skin care
Hiring a regular housekeeper service
Lasik surgery
Taking better care of myself.
Not giving a flying duck what people think
Exercising.
I have a bad back, arthritis everywhere, and hypermobility.
Exercising have helped tremendously with my back pain, my bad knees, and with losing weight.
I eat normally, and don’t drink alcohol.
Earlier this year, I could barely walk to my local supermarket 500 meters away, and back again.
I can do that now, and I’ve also started going on walks just to enjoy it.
My goal is to be able to walk as far as my knees will allow me, without having to resort to the more addictive painkillers that I have for emergencies, and so far haven’t needed to use yet. I hope to keep it like that.
I’m 59 years old, and I’m not done.
Spinal surgeries
Going to bed early!
Leaving a work that had become toxic, but both my employer and myself were to blame. I can see trust now.
Cutting out religion and toxic family. I wish I had made that choice at 18 and not 21 tbh
Working harder on myself, with therapy and/or life coach, putting up better boundaries with the abusive people in my life, and actually paying attention to what I needed.
Getting sober. Just celebrated 6 years.
Get medicated!!
Stopped drinking alcohol
Working out regularly
Not worrying about others opinions but actions.
Day time naps. Seriously, I love them. They make my days so much better, and I have more energy and a better attitude/mood versus the days I don’t take my little naps.
Doing theater and improv. Mostly local, but it’s fun, and I made a few friends along the way. Inspired me to do some extra work which I enjoyed to a point. Truly wish I did this when I was in my teens, I would’ve gotten on it as hard as I could.
Ergonomic office chair. I sit all day for my job so I have no idea why I went without one for so long. They arent cheap but thankfully my employer reimbursed a great deal of it.
Think about me. What I want. What I like. Who’s keeping me away from this? Get rid of them.
Also good quality food. I feel more complete/satisfied/relaxed.
Working part time instead of full time
Finding God in a serious and loving Christian community of people my age. Made close friends, and had experiences and growth I couldn’t have possibly had before hand. Experienced an overwhelming amount of love and support
Exercise 😭 they’re not lying about the endorphins exercise gives you
Yoga. The physical and mental benefits can’t be overstated.
Meditation + Lots of sleep.
Don’t be a Yes Man
Getting rid of 3/4 of my crap, and moving to Hawaii
Leaving a toxic relationship
Saving until it hurts
Walking outside for at least 30 minutes a day.
Giving up alcohol permanently. I wish I had done it decades ago.
Not being afraid to spend money on experiences. I used to be a penny pincher but in the last couple of years I have taken multiple vacations and traveled the world. Don’t regret a single dollar.
Eating healthy
Healthy eating
Retirement.
Working out, stopped drinking and drugs
Stopped smoking
Therapy; it’s allowed me to understand myself, my family and be kinder to myself and others
Got a robot vacum
Still searching for something
Making almost all my meals at home and cutting out takeout. Cooking is fun shopping is fun it’s much cheaper and much healthier.
Breath work and grounding
Gratitude and writing down my goals
Talking to my doctor about my depression and getting medicated
that is okay to say “no” you shouldn’t feel embarrassed or guilty about it
Hanging out with people, talking to strangers, weed, and prescription drugs. Although I haven’t had weed in a while.
I recently hired a cleaner.
As someone from a working class background whose family never hired anyone to help at home, I felt so uncomfortable doing this. I have a good paying job with long hours. I’m doing professional exams which require months of study outside of work hours. Getting a cleaner has freed up several hours of my life each week that I can use to rest.
walking everyday. Not even an hour sometimes just 10 minutes a day and it did wonders
Bidet. Refreshes the soul on a summer day.
Doing something about my face acne. I had no idea how much this was affecting my whole social life.
Turns out one of the biggest reason I didn’t talk much is because I straight up didn’t want people to look at me and notice how ugly I was. This is a big deal.
Tempur Pedic mattress
Get out of my primary school. It was so so so bad I was in therapy form 2 years…
I adopted my pup. It wasn’t the right time in my life before. It was a huge decision that I had to wait to make. She’s 11.5 now
Changed my light bulbs. No more humming.
Prescription sunglasses!
Going to the gym and getting fitter, stronger, and more in shape. I feel more confident, fit in clothes better, have more clothing options to choose from (it felt horrible not being to find stuff that fit), don’t get winded climbing stairs and doing regular physical activity, am getting more attention from people romantically, and have much better mental health overall.
Got medication for my anxiety
Fiber
Riding bikes with friends. Nothing better then getting out with a group of friends for a afternoon mountain bike session
Gym/lifting
Fixing a deviated septum with septoplasty surgery. Holy fuck, noses are for breathing naturally?
Quit smoking… I still occasionally miss it but my chest is much better, I have more money and time.