Mine is that I have to be up, showered, and ready to leave the house by 7.30am, otherwise I feel like I’m wasting the day. Thanks, dad….
What influence from your parents has remained with you from your childhood?
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Mine is that I have to be up, showered, and ready to leave the house by 7.30am, otherwise I feel like I’m wasting the day. Thanks, dad….
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You either show off your cleavage or legs, not both.
Never be late. They were never late for any appointment with anyone, and I’m the same – always turn up in good time when meeting somebody. I once had a mate who would be up to an hour late when arranging to meet him, and it was infuriating, especially when they couldn’t understand that you’d gone to do something else by the time they’d turn up. Be polite and on time, it’s easy to do.
I’m a hermit with poor mental health
Not liking snd sometimes even chastising people for swearing around children.
Though I wouldn’t say anything, it really pisses me off when I see parents allowing their young children to swear.
Sticking at jobs that make me miserable because they pay well. Self hatred, not trusting my own judgement, not being able to show emotions healthily. Nothing good honestly.
Always have dinner as a family at the table. Never eat in front of the tv and no technology at the dining table. Turned down a house when we were looking to buy, as it didn’t have a dining room. Estate agent said “A lot of people don’t have them as a priority” I said “well, I do!”
If anybody’s working on the house (builder etc) always offer them tea/coffee (multiple times a day if they’re working the full day)
Always have a bag full of shopping bags.
If you want an easy life, get educated.
Drinking too much
Probably obvious, but favourite sandwiches and pasta dishes.
My father pasted on his mean streak..swore I’d never be like him and I was right..I’m worse, unfortunately.
Catholic fear.
I have to patrol the house before everyone sleeps. Windows locked, Doors bolted. I have no idea why he did it. I have no idea why I do it.
My mother taught me to cook. Really properly. Like age 9 I could make chicken liver pate from scratch. I scratch cook all the time, sometimes quite elaborate meals, and my kids are pretty good chefs. Nice one, mum.
People should learn to cook before they leave home and curiosity is to be furiously promoted. Find out new things!
To have empathy.
To be punctual.
Alcohol dependency
No tv until after dinner. Even now I find I can’t watch anything during the day.
Going shopping early to avoid the hordes that go later.
You must eat all the food on your plate. You can’t throw it away.
You don’t talk while the TV is on (unless it’s adverts). If you want to talk, you pause it.
If you’re getting up to leave the room, you ask whoever is remaining if they want anything.
If you’re putting the kettle on, you ask everyone in the house if they want a drink.
If you’re going to poop or take a bath, you ask anyone else if they need to pee first.
Saving money and have no fun.
PTSD
Just been out drinking strong coffee in the sun and polishing shoes…
Feeding the 🕊️🦆🐥🦢🐓
Don’t turn up as a guest without a small gift. When you have a guest, always take their coat and offer them tea/another drink as soon as they arrive and fetch their coat for them if they ignore any hints to leave
Not their abandonment or abuse but I do love being Irish,
A walk will cure most things.
Don’t overstay your welcome.
Family is love
I always want the dishwasher completely full before running it. Something my mom did. Drives my husband crazy! lol
Turning off plugs that aren’t in use.
My old man used to do it all the time as a kid. I’d leave my ps2 on upstairs while eating dinner, no memory card to save my game and he’d turn it off.
20 years later, I pay my own bills so I can appreciate it now haha.
Making the best of a situation – as in days out/holidays etc. My mother is the queen of seeing the bright side and I didn’t realise what a great trait it is until I ventured out into the world. For example if she goes on a UK holiday she’ll make the best rain or shine, doesn’t moan just tries to find a solution – is it pissing down? well I found a board game in a shop! Missed the opening hours for a local attraction? We’ll do a walk to watch the sunset! It sounds simple but so many people are bad at this and get bogged down in petty shit!
My husband’s family, in comparison, are champion whingers – they can be out for a meal and it’s all nice but will be compelled to bring up the fact a chair was squeaky or the menu had changed or there want enough ice on their drink (which they won’t mention to the waiter) drives me nuts!
We eat at the dinner table as a family (unless as a special treat infront of the TV).
The gates of Hell open up if you forget your mum’s birthday. Once at 15, never again. Still buy a bouquet of flowers from Tesco Express or something in the early hours before I do anything else.
Never forget your manners.
People might not remember what you said… but they will remember how you made them feel.
Turning lights off after everyone apparently
Deep rooted insecurity
My father told us to not mind the neighbors business. Mind your own business.
Punctuality. There are not many ways we’re fundamentally similar people nowadays, but being punctual and on-time is something that I have very much kept from my mother.
Be considerate.
Don’t spend what you don’t have.
Alcoholism
My mum was a bit of a rogue, is a bit of a rogue, she taught me that rules are there to be interpreted, bent and broken. I was 10 pretending to be under 8, i was being sent up trees to get fruit, i was ignoring signs reading “No Trespassing”, i was seeing what was in derelict sheds other buildings often accompanied by my mum. Nothing was ever stolen but we definitely investigated places.
We still do, my mum will happily take shortcuts across places you probably shouldn’t shortcut across.
Once, about 20 years ago, we were queuing up for somewhere and my mum noticed an open door leading from a public café to the paid for section of the attraction, so we stopped queuing, me, mum, my younger brother and my stepfather, and went through the café and saved about £30. The place is still open and profitable so it’s not like they were negatively affected.
Never be late and be polite, oh and Mum told me to never eat a banana before I had a bath or I would drown (random but never questioned)!
I had the same thing. My dad used to joke and call it “Army training”, he’d lie about the time or the urgency in getting straight out of bed. Now when I know I have something important the next day, when my alarm rings, it’s battlestations, even if it’s the morning and it’s not until the afternoon.
No complaining and don’t give up, it’s okay to get things wrong but keep trying, learn, work hard and you will get it eventually. Both very working class parents who had four boys and we all ended up careers we wanted and can fend for ourselves. To this day, I still read books, try and make good viewing choices with videos, remember not being allowed games consoles as a kid because they didn’t have a keyboard, I could have a computer and learn to read and type.
Spend money on good shoes and a good mattress.
Never waste food. There are children in Africa…
I never waste food. Parents born during WW2 and my sister and I continue their good work.
Manners and being well spoken
Showering in the evening rather than in the morning, it’s like a nice hot hug to get me ready for bed. I hate even the thought of having to get up earlier to shower.
Always clean your plate. This stuck with me till I was 23, and I only got over it because I stopped having the fear of eating leftovers.
If I need new clothes it’s gonna be from the charity shop. I will spend days touring them for a specific item and if that fails cringe at spending £30 for a new pair, despite not being short of money whatsoever.
Don’t be in debt. Credit cards are bad. Overdraft is bad. Don’t borrow what you can’t afford etc.
Some of it not true eg. I have a mortgage which is against this advice. But wasn’t till 30 I paid for something on a credit card and TBF it’s done me no harm.
paranoia and bizarre eating habits. of course a spoonful of peanut butter is a sensible snack. of course i have to eat fruit so i dont get scurvy. i get told by everyone in my life that i am very odd/eccentric (not necessarily as a bad thing!) but in comparison to my family i am extremely normal.
Talking over people, rushing and sighing 😮💨
Trying hard to break these
Setting crazy, and unnecessary time constraints and expectations on myself for no reason. It’s taken me years to relax and let go of my obsessive thinking I need to get X done by X time.
Timekeeping and no littering I passed it on to my kids (over 30 now) and they’ve passed it on as well. Also names of trees and plants thinking about it now 😊
Pizza Friday. (Yay)
Alcohol as coping mechanism for any strong emotions (booh)
Getting slapped about the face. I’ve never carried that trait forward.
Healthy lifestyle.
Internalised homophobia and transphobia.
Father is the least accepting person I know.
I’m queer.
In a joke way. Lucky white rabbits first of every month
On a real sense. Don’t be a duck. Be kind.
Washing up has to be done on the same day, usually after every meal or if going out somewhere. Very few things can be left to soak eg a big lasagna dish is fine, but the majority should be washed and then left to be put away for the next meal/morning.
Watering plants/the garden in the evening (never early morning because the sun will “fry” the plants) in summer/hot weather. When it’s dusk and the sun’s no longer in the garden and the heat of the days slowly going. It used to be one of my pocket money jobs but I actually really enjoyed doing it, same with mowing the lawn.
I’ve been on a diet since I was 14, so probably that one
Not to tell lies, people will won’t trust you, always be on time, manners cost nothing, give your seat up for elderly people and be respectful to your elders. I’m one of the elders now and I guess half of the youngsters were never any taught this.