She shows no interest in anything I have to say or about me in general. Can only talk about herself. Poor/nonexistent sense of humor. Being arrogant and too uptight. Oh and of course, total lack of intelligence.
Them not being into me. I had one sided crushes before but i like certainty and feeling wanted, so if the other person is not actively interested, i dip.
If I clearly describe to someone that Im upset… And as to why… And they play the victim and refuse to even try to understand my perspective… We are done.
You could be a 10 and if you smoke, you’re a smelly 3.
You stink, you taste awful (rotting eggs awful), you’re buying health issues and if you smoke in the house it’s staining walls. If you’re leaving the bar/restaurant to smoke it’s pretty rude.
Being rude/mean to someone without cause. There’s nothing wilder to me than a 30- or 40-something who still thinks “this person isn’t cool or important enough to treat with respect” is a valid approach to human interaction.
Complete inability to hold a conversation. We’re here and we’re talking, kiddo – ask questions.
If they’re constantly talking down to people or are rude to almost everybody. I get having a bad day and having an attitude, but if it’s an everyday thing, it’s an instant I’m done with you.
Being disrespected by my crush. I hate it when I like a guy (as a female) ends up being rude towards me. That’s now how men should treat women. Women are not men’s property. Get that right.
how they treat other people. if you treat other people bad immediate no, if you treat them TOO good (flirting or smiting) then also no. just be decent 😭
The last guy I was seeing was just a DOWNER. His job sucked (but then hated the other job prospects and were convinced other companies were blacklisting him specifically) , he hated his body (but barely worked out and ate only carbs and protein), etc etc. It was an energy and libido suck
One time I hit it off with a girl in a bar and then she told me fairies are real and anyone who doesn’t believe in them is an idiot. She was completely serious and I was looking for a long term relationship at the time so I backed off that one. My morals are looser these days.
If they’re not good with my child. Don’t treat him like he’s something you have to deal with to be around me. Don’t talk down to him. He’s my favorite person in the world. You’re lucky to know him.
Ear gauges. I nearly puke when I look at lobes mangled by this disgusting practice. When I meet someone wearing them, I cannot look at their ears and can barely look at their eyes.
Breaking the social contract. Cutting lines, “bending” traffic rules, refusing to accept no as an answer from a service worker, etc.
If you have an attitude that the rules don’t/shouldn’t apply to you, or that they are debatable, then you express that you are “above others” or more important than those that do follow those rules/guidelines. I find it is a litmus test for how they view those around them an where they fit in to the world
Attraction can fade instantly when someone displays qualities that are fundamentally incompatible with your values or expectations. Dishonesty is one of the quickest ways to break trust and kill any sense of attraction, as it undermines the foundation of a relationship. Similarly, rudeness or disrespect, especially when directed at others, shows a lack of empathy and consideration, which can be a major turn-off.
Arrogance or narcissism can also quickly squash any attraction, as it often signals a lack of genuine connection and an inflated sense of self. Additionally, neglecting personal hygiene or self-care can lead to an immediate loss of physical attraction, as it often reflects how much someone values themselves and the people around them. Incompatibility in core values or lifestyle choices also plays a crucial role in whether attraction can thrive; without shared values, long-term connection is often impossible.
Finally, a lack of emotional intelligence or empathy can create a disconnect, making the relationship feel one-sided and leaving little room for deeper attraction. These qualities, when present, often signal that the initial spark may not be enough to sustain a meaningful connection.
When I’m interrupted repeatedly while speaking, it signals a lack of respect for me and what I have to say. I understand that people can get excited and occasionally speak over one another, that’s normal. But if it happens multiple times in one conversation, it feels dismissive. I won’t raise my voice or compete to be heard; I’ll simply stop engaging in the conversation.
These days, I act like I’m scrolling the news and then chuckle and say, “That Trump.” That’ll usually separate the MAGAs from actual humans i prefer to hang with.
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Not matching the effort you’re putting in.
If they have no gravity.
A lack of respect for other people. Like, if they only complain about others or don’t have anything positive to say.
A nasty personality and not putting in the effort to have a decent conversation.
The typical mentality of you’re attractive but I didn’t feel like it.
Constant calls, texts, or messages. I feel like it would turn into an unhealthy attachment at best, and a controlling toxic relationship at worst.
Low intelligence
Smoking
Smoking/Vaping/Drug use
Questions like this one
when they have a violent temper. once thats shown, they look like a dangerous brat 👎
Stinky 🤢
She shows no interest in anything I have to say or about me in general. Can only talk about herself. Poor/nonexistent sense of humor. Being arrogant and too uptight. Oh and of course, total lack of intelligence.
The person smells bad…😖
Right wing beliefs
Not trying to resolve things that have a major impact on their life
Narcissism.
Them not being into me. I had one sided crushes before but i like certainty and feeling wanted, so if the other person is not actively interested, i dip.
Bad teeth
They have a reddit id
Smoking.
Not being able to see my point of view.
If I clearly describe to someone that Im upset… And as to why… And they play the victim and refuse to even try to understand my perspective… We are done.
Dodged a bullet. No worries.
Smoking.
You could be a 10 and if you smoke, you’re a smelly 3.
You stink, you taste awful (rotting eggs awful), you’re buying health issues and if you smoke in the house it’s staining walls. If you’re leaving the bar/restaurant to smoke it’s pretty rude.
There’s nothing good about it.
Testicles
Flirting with other people
Two things:
Being rude/mean to someone without cause. There’s nothing wilder to me than a 30- or 40-something who still thinks “this person isn’t cool or important enough to treat with respect” is a valid approach to human interaction.
Complete inability to hold a conversation. We’re here and we’re talking, kiddo – ask questions.
Body odor, enjoying the misery of others, being stingy with their own money but freely accepting yours
If they’re constantly talking down to people or are rude to almost everybody. I get having a bad day and having an attitude, but if it’s an everyday thing, it’s an instant I’m done with you.
The way they treat restaurant staff
Taking someone to a restaurant, will most likely tell me all I need to know about them
MAGA hat
At a intellectual level? Lack of self-awareness, arrogance & lack of intelligence.
At a superficial level? Blonde hair with tan skin
being rude to service industry workers
Tattoos & over inflated lips coupled with huge fake eyelashes
Dirty finger nails
Arrogance
Rudeness, selfishness, overdone lip injections
Smoking, lying, poor hygiene, no manners, no conversational skills, right wing, self absorbed main character like behaviors.
They talk.
Body odor, bad hygiene
Lack of a sense of humour and/ or low intelligence.
If someone walks face first into a sliding glass door they instantly become unfuckable
They think “since i was in a relationship for a long time it’s fine for me to fuck around with people and string them along”
When they tell me they don’t like me
How they treat service workers. Thankfully I haven’t been with or met anyone who was rude to any, but I know they’re out there.
When they can’t analyze why they have a certain behavior. Like, bad insight or bad logical processing.
bad breath ffs
Their voice.
Being disrespected by my crush. I hate it when I like a guy (as a female) ends up being rude towards me. That’s now how men should treat women. Women are not men’s property. Get that right.
Hmm…. I’m not quite sure. I guess smarts but more of like common knowledge smarts.
Being rude to waitstaff—automatic downvote & permanent dismissal.
Condescension
Them telling a story that’s either gross or where they lied to someone and thought it was funny instead of admitting shame.
Chewing with mouth open or talking with food in their mouths
Being a Trump supporter.
Poor hygiene. Total turn off.
casual misogyny
how they treat other people. if you treat other people bad immediate no, if you treat them TOO good (flirting or smiting) then also no. just be decent 😭
No sense of humor, about themselves or the world, is a great signifier of other character defects too!
When they treat others like they are superior to everyone else around them. Self obsessed – swearing alot- bad hygiene
Bad breath or just plain not smelling great.
Chewing with their mouth open. Talking with food in their mouth. Chewing gum at all.
If they rush to opinions about something. Context is everything, and even if you don’t agree with something, you can still try to understand it.
People who are mean to waiters or waitresses
When they try to tell others how to do things unsolicited.
The moment you start feeling like a rebound or “imma give you a try”; instantly walking away.
Trumper
Kink shaming
A big loud mouth and no common sense in using it.
chewing with their mouth open
Poor attitude
Learning they voted for Trump.
Smoking and MAGA mentality
If they chew with their mouth open! Lack of food etiquette in general.
Lying
You got all the looks but once you start talking and you don’t made sense, that’s it for me
Bad hygiene. Just completely dries me up. ie Bad breath, gross grimy yellowed teeth, dirty fingernails, BO….
Someone who isn’t kind to strangers, or unhoused/underprivileged.
(My ex had a difficult time riding city buses because they were “dirty”, and “poorly”.)
People who act distant and who want to be chased
Secrets. “Loving you from afar” and any “messages from your person” given by anyone other than your person.
When he does not treat little girls well. How a man treats little girls gives me the vibe.
Arrogance. Poor hygiene, especially personal hygiene. Snorting and then spitting.
People who automatically judge someone based on political or religious beliefs. I’m married to democrat, love her with all my heart.
Bootlicker tendencies.
The last guy I was seeing was just a DOWNER. His job sucked (but then hated the other job prospects and were convinced other companies were blacklisting him specifically) , he hated his body (but barely worked out and ate only carbs and protein), etc etc. It was an energy and libido suck
One time I hit it off with a girl in a bar and then she told me fairies are real and anyone who doesn’t believe in them is an idiot. She was completely serious and I was looking for a long term relationship at the time so I backed off that one. My morals are looser these days.
Littering.
People who are extremely self-interested to the point of being a “main character”.
The kind of person whose favorite topic is themselves.
being rude to food service workers
Pro-tRump and/or cigarette smoking.
Hard pass.
Mean to their pets.
Loudly sharing opinions that no one asked to hear.
If they’re not good with my child. Don’t treat him like he’s something you have to deal with to be around me. Don’t talk down to him. He’s my favorite person in the world. You’re lucky to know him.
When someone raised their voice abusive self obsessed who didn’t admit his/her mistake
Being a conservative apologist.
Being a conservative republican.
High energy individuals
Racism
their table manners
Constantly talking and hyper emotional
Smoking weed
Drinking alcohol excessively
If they seem uninterested
Being rude to service staff. Instant turn off.
Smoking/vaping
Ear gauges. I nearly puke when I look at lobes mangled by this disgusting practice. When I meet someone wearing them, I cannot look at their ears and can barely look at their eyes.
People who blame EVERYONE else for their problems. Rude, attention seeking, insecure, and lack of integrity.
when they don’t act like they talk
Breaking the social contract. Cutting lines, “bending” traffic rules, refusing to accept no as an answer from a service worker, etc.
If you have an attitude that the rules don’t/shouldn’t apply to you, or that they are debatable, then you express that you are “above others” or more important than those that do follow those rules/guidelines. I find it is a litmus test for how they view those around them an where they fit in to the world
Smoking! You can be the most beautiful girl in the world, but once you light up, it’s over.
They own a MAGA hat
You dash looks like a Christmas tree
Zero mental fortitude
Passive submission to me. Sounds weird, but when some guy talk to me and trying to be better than me at simple talk, it instantly kills my respect
Bad teeth, horrible grammar, lack of respect for anything or anyone!
If I dislike the shoes they’re wearing
Someone with a cross around their neck. That screems idiot to me.
No hobbies/interests/ambitions
Someone who chews with their mouth open
Attraction can fade instantly when someone displays qualities that are fundamentally incompatible with your values or expectations. Dishonesty is one of the quickest ways to break trust and kill any sense of attraction, as it undermines the foundation of a relationship. Similarly, rudeness or disrespect, especially when directed at others, shows a lack of empathy and consideration, which can be a major turn-off.
Arrogance or narcissism can also quickly squash any attraction, as it often signals a lack of genuine connection and an inflated sense of self. Additionally, neglecting personal hygiene or self-care can lead to an immediate loss of physical attraction, as it often reflects how much someone values themselves and the people around them. Incompatibility in core values or lifestyle choices also plays a crucial role in whether attraction can thrive; without shared values, long-term connection is often impossible.
Finally, a lack of emotional intelligence or empathy can create a disconnect, making the relationship feel one-sided and leaving little room for deeper attraction. These qualities, when present, often signal that the initial spark may not be enough to sustain a meaningful connection.
Unkempt fingernails and visible nose hair
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When I’m interrupted repeatedly while speaking, it signals a lack of respect for me and what I have to say. I understand that people can get excited and occasionally speak over one another, that’s normal. But if it happens multiple times in one conversation, it feels dismissive. I won’t raise my voice or compete to be heard; I’ll simply stop engaging in the conversation.
Self righteousness, know it all mentality, lack of passion, lack of empathy, pessimism, narcissism.
Tattoos (in general) and facial piercings.
Voted Trump
Not being a political/etc. moderate.
Zealots are disgusting even if you agree with them.
I get it the grass is green, the sky is blue, stop screaming/preaching about it.
Immediately using slang
Liberals
These days, I act like I’m scrolling the news and then chuckle and say, “That Trump.” That’ll usually separate the MAGAs from actual humans i prefer to hang with.
Being loud.
If they smoke weed. The smell is awful!
Bad breath. Ew.
If they look like they don’t brush their teeth
Lack of general intelligence and common sense. I don’t need a brain surgeon or nuclear physicist to communicate with just a regular person.
Me: how was work?
Them: it like you know it like sucked so bad. I’m like super tired. You know?
Me: *(+-#(//@-#;!$”””*29$(
Racism, bigotry or misogyny.
when they are judgmental….i immediately feel like i can no longer be myself around them
ive definitely done it before. after seeing how bad it looks and feels from the outside, i try my best to be as open minded as possible.
If they smell, have bad manners, are mean or constantly looking at their phone
Shitty to people in customer service
Smoking.
Smoking cigarettes
Being a Trumper/Republican. I could probably deal with like, an Independent with some slightly conservative leaning views or something.
Hygiene
Temper (inappropriate behavior, everyone gets pissed but some are psychos)
Logic (this include accountability, individual thought, maturity, integrity)
Smoking.
Having to start every conversation and never reaching out first.
Rude to their parents
When they don’t try to understand new things.
Eating recklessly and bad table manner
I wouldn’t date a woman that had a recent breakup. Or still had ties with a x.
On a date for me was to see if we are compatible for a second date.
Unkindness to waiters.
Drug use
Tobacco. No smokers, no dip. Ewwwwww.
Smoking
Smoking and or drinking too much.
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