Flirting with strangers should NOT involve commentary on our bodies. That’s an instant turn off, absolute deal breaker. Continuing that commentary will result in me making a scene and/or walking away.
If you ask a question, listen to her answer and then use that to build interest in her life, hobbies, career etc. Don’t just use her talking as a place holder for your own thoughts.
Show genuine interest. Ask questions about them. Maintain eye contact. Generally be a pleasant conversationalist. Compliment something that stands out to you, not looks related. Just be easy and take the no’s with stride.
For me personally, it would be that it’s all about chemistry. How you should look, things you should or shouldn’t say, all of it is kind of like noise. Sure, it can give you a one point advantage, but that’s none of it is at the core of what causes sparks to fly.
Sparks fly when you are able to be genuine, but be brave and unabashedly yourself. And if your answer to that is I’m not able to do that, then I would remind you: Audentes Fortuna Iuvat
Ask good, insightful questions that show you’re interested in the person and have been actively paying attention to everything they’ve said to you thus far.
It continues to absolutely floor me how few men are ANY good at doing this whatsoever, despite it being a VERY easy and effective way to make someone feel focused on, fascinating, and thoroughly flirted with.
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Going up to a guy and saying “Hey, I like you, wanna fuck?” is a PERFECTLY VALID approach.
It doesn’t work for ME, cause I’m ugly, but it works fine for my hot friend. Usually even leads to dating, or full-on relationships.
Take the first rejection as a full answer.
Flirting with strangers should NOT involve commentary on our bodies. That’s an instant turn off, absolute deal breaker. Continuing that commentary will result in me making a scene and/or walking away.
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Eye contact, eye contact, eye contact.
If you ask a question, listen to her answer and then use that to build interest in her life, hobbies, career etc. Don’t just use her talking as a place holder for your own thoughts.
Show genuine interest. Ask questions about them. Maintain eye contact. Generally be a pleasant conversationalist. Compliment something that stands out to you, not looks related. Just be easy and take the no’s with stride.
There’s power in knowing what to share and what to keep sacred:)
Flirting is 80% eye contact and 20% pretending you’re not doing it on purpose 😗
Assess your own attractiveness with a healthy mindset.
Understand when it is NO and YES and MAYBE with clauses.
Just because he’s giving you attention/being flirty doesn’t mean it means something and vice versa
Talk to me I won’t bite
For me personally, it would be that it’s all about chemistry. How you should look, things you should or shouldn’t say, all of it is kind of like noise. Sure, it can give you a one point advantage, but that’s none of it is at the core of what causes sparks to fly.
Sparks fly when you are able to be genuine, but be brave and unabashedly yourself. And if your answer to that is I’m not able to do that, then I would remind you: Audentes Fortuna Iuvat
Compliment the mind, not the body…. If there’s no “mind” to complement, move on.
Ask good, insightful questions that show you’re interested in the person and have been actively paying attention to everything they’ve said to you thus far.
It continues to absolutely floor me how few men are ANY good at doing this whatsoever, despite it being a VERY easy and effective way to make someone feel focused on, fascinating, and thoroughly flirted with.
CONSISTENCY. Be there everyday. A text, a call, make plans, talking without plans leaves doubt.
Rebound after every slipup that makes it better than if u got it right the first time
Less is more. Forced stinks like desperation
Know the person you’re flirting with. Like ACTUALLY.
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Flirting = plausible denial.
Flirt for fun but if u actually want to date someone, you need to ask them out directly.
Tease a little but don’t over do it. Just enough to make them wonder what you’ll say next. Mystery is hot.
A genuine tone. Most girls nowadays think they’re being asked as a dare.
Make the other person feel comfortable and smile