What is a misconception you had about romantic relationships before you got into one yourself?
What is a misconception you had about romantic relationships before you got into one yourself?
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What is a misconception you had about romantic relationships before you got into one yourself?
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That if you’re nice to your partner they’ll be nice to you
I thought it would be about me getting to know another person on the deepest level, getting to love them, and them getting to know and love me
Instead it was about them having an idea of the kind of partner they wanted and treating me as though I was that person without showing any interest in getting to know the real me
That everything will stay as exciting as the first months or year
As a man who is told he’s loved, I don’t feel it as much as I thought I would.
That love doesn’t take work 🤣🤣🤣
Too bad my ex thought I was the only one fucking up. Relationships take work. I mean 30 40 plus years of being together, yea it’s gonna get nasty sometimes but if you love each other you work through it
I thought people did them just to impress other guys and prove their value to the world. I didn’t realize that it involved actually enjoying spending nonsexual time with the other person.
I thought romantic relationships basically meant ton’s of sex.
Boy was I wrong.
That there were a lot more flowers and kissing and music involved.
That it’s gonna be honeymoon phase forever. But the settled love is nice and heartwarming as well 🙂
That it’s normal to fight all the time.
How challenging they are on yourself, how flawed you can feel when someone else is there to see it. I truly believe the “relationships are mirrors” sentiment now.
You’ll never be able to lean on your woman the way she leans on you
The butterflies isnt always there, they come and go
That nobody would ever want to be in one with me.
That just because I’ve had more past relationships than my current partner, doesn’t automatically mean I have better relationship skills than her. Like in all kinds of relationships, ego and arrogance ruin connections and push good people away. Because maybe, the reason I had more, was due to the fact that I was just fucking bad at keeping one. Who knows? It pays to be with a woman who communicates well though because had she not told me what I was doing wrong, I wouldn’t have realized what an asshole I was lmao
If you mold your personality based on her whims, she will like you.
That a relationship will make you feel better about yourself and solve all your psychological issues
That the world is all sunshine, rainbows, chocolates and kisses. Believe me, it isn’t. They will pull your heart out of your chest and stomp on it, then blame you for not loving them ‘enough’ (incase you can’t tell, Im still kind of bitter about it).
That love can endure through all changes to your partner. Some changes are just too material to the person you originally fell in love with and can alter your whole perception of them.
Its not a “We” as much as I thought. People force and project that.