I’ve come accross alot of men in my life (friends and family) who absolutely dislike celebrating birthdays. And the more people I meet the disdain remains the same. Any reason why?
What is it about birthdays that men just don’t like?
r/ask
I’ve come accross alot of men in my life (friends and family) who absolutely dislike celebrating birthdays. And the more people I meet the disdain remains the same. Any reason why?
Comments
📣 Reminder for our users
>1. Check the rules: Please take a moment to review our rules, Reddiquette, and Reddit’s Content Policy.
>2. Clear question in the title: Make sure your question is clear and placed in the title. You can add details in the body of your post, but please keep it under 600 characters.
>3. Closed-Ended Questions Only: Questions should be closed-ended, meaning they can be answered with a clear, factual response. Avoid questions that ask for opinions instead of facts.
>4. Be Polite and Civil: Personal attacks, harassment, or inflammatory behavior will be removed. Repeated offenses may result in a ban. Any homophobic, transphobic, racist, sexist, or bigoted remarks will result in an immediate ban.
🚫 Commonly Asked Prohibited Question Subjects:
>1. Medical or pharmaceutical questions
>2. Legal or legality-related questions
>3. Technical/meta questions (help with Reddit)
This list is not exhaustive, so we recommend reviewing the full rules for more details on content limits.
✓ Mark your answers!
>If your question has been answered, please reply with
Answered!!to the response that best fit your question. This helps the community stay organized and focused on providing useful answers.I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Because they’re fun when you’re a kid, meaningless when you grow up.
I hate being the center of attention.
I don’t want to be reminded that I am one year closer to death. It is really that simple.
I prefer to celebrate meaningful events, celebrating getting older feels like it degrades the meaning of celebration. I would have to fake it if I actually “celebrated” my birthday in the common way, getting old is not something I am proud of or excited for, and requires the bare minimum effort (at least at my age)
I like celebrating my birthday, my way. I have a few friends over having a few drinks and either chatting or playing a game at the table. What I hate is having a bunch of people over of varying degrees of association and depths of relationship. Unfortunately, the former is the one that is usually held on my behalf by whoever I am dating at that time.
From my own experience, no body remembers it’s my bday unless I post about it on social media or invite folks to my own bday. I’ve never had a surprise bday. You’d have to be really close to a guy to know why they hate birthdays.
Feels weird for being the centre of attention and being celebrated despite not doing anything. Also ends up being expensive for an evening I don’t really enjoy.
Depending upon where you are in life, sometimes you just want to relax and be left alone.
I think it’s all about primarily the difference in psyche between men and women.
I find on their birthdays that women want to be made to feel special. To be the center of attention, and to feel loved and cared for when all these people celebrate their birthday with them.
Men, simply don’t give a crap. It’s just another day. Leave us alone. Let us have our peace. If we want to do something, we will either plan it ourselves or tell you.
It’s just another day to us. There’s nothing special about it. A simple homemade birthday cake is often enough, it is for me at least.
I married into a family who are bonkers for birthdays and Christmas. I think somehow the two events are closely related. Nevertheless, I hate birthdays because I prefer to just keep feeling young-which I do-without having to remember what my age is.
I don’t like the aging part otherwise I have no problem with them, a day to celebrate someone special 😍👍
I don’t think a date on a calendar should necessitate the spending of money on lavish bullshit. For people who have enough, it’s gluttony. For those who don’t have enough for such luxuries, it’s fucking sad and bitter. It seems like birthdays exist to convince us to spend more money and I will spend my money on my terms.
If I want something I buy it, if I need something I already have it. So gifts for me are stupid. If I want it and don’t have it, it’s a waste of money.
You could just come by and hang out throughout the year for 15 minutes a month, that would mean more to me than a birthday
Most of us don’t like the attention. I know I don’t.
As we get older a nice low key quiet day is much more enticing than making a big deal out of it.
Birthdays really don’t mean much. I don’t get paid on my birthday, unless it’s your 21st birthday, you don’t get more legal privileges. I honestly don’t see the point of celebrating a birthday. Also I have no friends
Personally, I am pretty indifferent towards my birthday. They just feel like another day.
For me it’s the fact that no one gave a fuck or did anything for my birthday even when I was a kid, so it’s a bitterness, inside I really want someone to quietly make me a cake and make me feel like I matter, not some fake bullshit with a bunch of people.
It’s childish, and I’m not sure that’s a strong enough word
I already have a lot to do. I work a lot, I take care of things around the house, I help others out when I can, etc.. I just want some peace and quiet and when it comes to your birthday it’s suppose to be “your day” so I’d really like to spend it doing nothing but there’s this expectation to celebrate it which just becomes another thing on my list of things to do but at the same time I shouldn’t have to. It’s my day after all, right? But then I get shit for it by everyone and called a dud so I end up hating it. And don’t even get me started on the awkwardness of having to sit through that fucking song! The birthday song is the absolute worst thing ever created. I dread my birthday every year. I wish it could just be forgotten.
For me, it’s not so much disliking celebrating so much as it is that after 25, age just becomes so null.
Sure, I’m alive and we account for age as how many loops around the sun we make, but……when we account for maturity and frame of mind, that’s when your surrounding peers and or strangers are presumptuous about your age.
Lastly, I just really don’t care to celebrate it, it’s not important to me anymore
I think in my case, it’s the only day of the year family acted like I was important, and so it feels fake. Like people are lying to you.
It’s a childlike gesture for surviving another year. It’s a waste of time and money but also borderline narcissistic.
I’d rather celebrate my kid and wife every day instead of celebrating myself for one day.
I really don’t feel like I need a day just to celebrate me.
Not wanting to dwell on how far we have come … and how little we have left to go?
Getting your hopes up and then you get disappointed.
No expectations = No disappointment
If there’s no clown or jumpy house, I’m not interested.
I don’t like celebrating anything involving myself.
The attention mainly, don’t like that and also stems from childhood where it often was more disappointing than celebrating.
I find it interesting that the question wasn’t “why do you dislike celebrating YOUR birthday” yet all the men in the comments assumed it was about their birthday specifically. When the question simply asked “why do you dislike celebrating birthdays” in general.
Like the OP I’m curious why a lot of men in my life also do not like celebrating other peoples birthdays either, even when they acknowledge it’s something that person enjoys (like their partner, their family members, or their friends.)
Because it’s just the same shit, different year.
I also like keeping to myself, and celebrating a birthday with people prevents that.
Exactly what other responses here are saying. Many guys don’t want to be the centre of attention in a big gathering. That doesn’t mean doing something with a smaller group isn’t appealing.
I just don’t want the attention, that’s all
I think part of it is that a lot of birthdays for guys are celebrated in ways that are more for the person throwing the celebration than the guy who’s birthday it is.
I think quite a large percentage of men would rather spend their birthday with just their partner or as a day to relax than to be paraded out infront of a group
It’s a loud reminder that no one gives af about me.
All of the attention, and if they prefer to be healthy then they may be reluctant to all the sweets, even for a special occasion.
I don’t like being the focus of attention, I don’t like planning or being made to go to parties when the reason for the gathering is to celebrate me. That feels so weird idk, I hate it.
Is this why some other men also don’t like birthdays? I have no clue, maybe
I also don’t want to spend the money, whether a dinner at a restaurant, renting a space, or even an at-home party, it’s all money I’d rather not spend.
I’m notoriously bad at accepting gifts as well. Getting presents as an adult is so incredibly awkward. I feel like a doofus, none of my ‘thank yous’ sound genuine. Gah it’s just the worst.
The best gift would be to not make me do anything, let me not have to prepare the house for guests, or not have to stay socially engaged and attentive to others.
I never like seeing my loved ones spend their money on me
I just dont see what the fuss is, its a birth day, the earth passes an arbitrary point in its orbit, thats it. I dont get why its a big deal to some people.
I dont need stuff bought for me. If i want stuff I’d get it, i dont need more clutter. I dont need some performative “celebration” about something I could not care less about.
It just seems so unimportant a thing to celebrate.
Men tend to want to celebrate their accomplishments. A birthday isn’t really an accomplishment so they don’t give it value. It’s like a big party saying “look, I didn’t do anything!”
Gay man here. The issue is many straight men I know have girlfriends and wives who they are not very compatible with. And birthdays bring out those differences to a much greater degree than a regular day and very often the guy realizes it more himself on this day and he tends to be grumpy.
We just never celebrated birthdays in my family growing up, and now the idea of celebrating my birthday feels highly unnatural to me.
I take my birthday off every year. Not to celebrate but just to do nothing for a day.
44M and I love my birthday because I love an excuse for my friends to gather.
As for me, I wouldn’t say dislike. That’s too strong. I’m just indifferent to birthdays. It’s a big special day when you’re like 10. But now? It’s just another day. It seems immature to make a big deal out of being a ‘birthday boy’. All I want is a nice dinner at a place of my choosing with my wife. That’s it.
Cause I have bad anxiety and the most fuss I can handle is someone saying grats.
It just doesnt feel all that special anymore
Because after you’ve done it 50 times it isn’t special anymore.
For most men it’s a combination of 1) don’t like the attention 2) it’s just another day and feels a bit unnecessary
Because it was never celebrated during my childhood.
I hate receiving gifts unless I feel like I earned it
If you’re going to buy me something, give it to me as a reward or because you like me. Don’t just buy me shit because the calendar says it’s the time of year to buy me shit. Same deal with Christmas, I hate it
I like birthdays. I just don’t wanna plan a party.
It’s a meaningless celebration. Day is random.
I just don’t give a fuck and hate crowds
Why would I celebrate the day all my problems started?
I know maybe 5 birth dates. My wife’s, daughter’s, and some immediate family. I’ve gotten the “I can’t believe I forgot your birthday” said to me more than I can count. I have no words for explaining how small of a deal it is that someone forgets my birthday.
If I want someone to know it’s my birthday, I’ll tell them 2 weeks before, 1 week, 2 days and the day of my birthday. I expect the same from them.
Me getting older
I hate celebrating anything or anyone. I hate feeling obligated to provide meaningless gifts to others and wasting the energy and money to obtain them. And I hate having to feign gratitude when receiving. Entertaining or mingling at a party in painful for me. Forcing a smile and making small talk, even in a small group, is exhausting and takes me days to recover. I used to get drunk to be able to do these things and was able to fake it. Now I mostly just refuse to participate..
My old friends never remembered my birthday. They remembered each others, I remembered theirs; we’d do fun things that others planned for the birthday person, but not on mine. These are people that all knew each other 10+ years.
It has a happy ending, though; I’ve found better friends. We don’t do the “I’m a man; men don’t [whatever]”. We tell each other happy birthday, or that we miss them when we haven’t seen them in person for awhile. Just a totally different (and better, in my opinion) vibe.
It seems like a useless celebration. What did I accomplish? Not dying in the last 365 days? Also I don’t want the attention on me.
Do you mean they hate celebrating their own birthdays? Because my hubby didn’t like celebrating his own when he was the center of attention (except for his own family) but he liked sharing with other May birthdays and loved celebrating others’ birthdays.
Now that he’s older, he just doesn’t like gimmicky stuff like the saddle at Texas Roadhouse.
He uses a wheelchair so I always attributed it to the fact that he doesn’t like people watching him.
Personally it’s the lack of reciprocity, you can go above and beyond for someone else and then get your own birthday forgotten or someone gets you a gift that in no way matches your personality/interests so you spend the rest of the day thinking to yourself ‘do they really know or care about me so little?’
In my opinion, birthdays are for other people.
Why my parents were really good parents they weren’t warm and fuzzy. As the youngest of 4, my parents were older and just worn out.
My birthday often occurred during or summer road trip and I got a cheap crappy present from some tourist trap on the highway. Batteries not included meant that I might never get any or once the original went dead the toy was bricked.
While my wife and kids have certainly tried to make my adult birthdays fun, I just want to avoid disappointment.
Society doesn’t approve of people getting old. Societally, the expectation is that birthdays are fun when you have “young” birthdays – under 30 for example – but older than that you’re perceived as spoiled, being the center of attention, or being immature since old people need to just settle into their graves and turn to dust already.
Obviously I disagree with this lol. Celebrate your birthday how you want! Live your life!!!
Personally I never liked birthdays because in our family, joy and celebration was conditional; it feels uncomfortable to receive love and attention without really doing anything to “earn” it. Thanks, mom and dad. It’s taken a lot of therapy to get to a place where I can celebrate anything for any reason including birthdays.
Because Mom did all the work that day. She’s the one who should be getting presents.
The lack of BJs
I’m not comfortable when the whole day/event/party/etc is just about me. No thank you. Has nothing to do with aging or fear of mortality. I just don’t feel the need to celebrate my continued existence. But I’ll celebrate yours with you, if that’s what you want!
A day I dont have to do shit be brought places where I can just relax and not give a fuck about anything is all I want or need. Obligations to reply or talk to people who congratulate you is annoying from social media. People who truly remember my bday for whatever reason they do. I thank.
Birthdays are cool, great food, cake and the family is all I need
Needless excess, don’t like being the centre of attention, it’s just another day, don’t like people being put out on my account, don’t want to cause someone else to have to do work on my account, have to confront my aging, have to confront how little I’ve actually accomplished this year etc etc
Best birthday is if someone else would take all executive decision making out of my hands for 24 hours or just leave me alone for 24 hours (may happen when I’m dead)
My dad never liked celebrating his birthday and absolutely did not look forward to any of the extra attention. He just acted like it was any other day.
As a man myself, I actually love my birthday. Not because I’m getting any older, but because it’s a day that I get to spend with my closest loved ones. I actually wouldn’t mind if people made an ever bigger deal about it. One thing though, I don’t really like to celebrate my birthday or anything really with tertiary friends and family, just the ones I share 25% of my DNA with or more. It’s not actually that exact but it’s close.
I hate the attention. The awkwardness of thanking all of them for the greetings.
I hate celebrating birthdays. Mine especially. I’m an introvert and just want to be left alone. Take the cake, balloons and singing and stuff it.
It’d be nice if we weren’t spending our money to cater to other people on our birthday
Most of them
It’s wild people consider birthdays as “getting older” and not “being a lucky bastard spending another year with people who love them and who they love and who want to cemebrate that together, to show the gratitude for being able to”
That’s at least how I, a woman, consider it. I love seeing my friends, I love planning a party and host them and them to celebrate with me, for making it another year. And I love celebrating them. I love showing my partner, how glad I am, I could spend another year with him. And that Birthday is just a way to make an effort, to remember.
Birthday celebrations are for women and children
It just feels awkward and don’t want the attention
I think we men like to be praised when we have accomplished something. Praise just because we have survived another year feels undeserved, like cheating or getting praised for someone else’s accomplishment. And like others have stated many don’t like to be the center of attention. When you are in the center you also need to be ready to defend, maybe?
Even if it is a ‘special day’ (and for most of us it’s not) then the way to celebrate it is to have a day off from responsibilities and the hamster wheel of obligations. I book it off if I can and just do something quiet like a steak lunch and a few drinks in the sun to relax.
I don’t want to have a fuss made or have the attention of loads of people – just give me a day off from the world.
To me, birthdays are for kids, and in truth the day itself is way more special for parents.
Today is my son’s 7th birthday. It means a million times more to me than a day in mid-June when I turn 46.
For me it’s odd to WANT people to celebrate you. “This is my day” is a weird sentiment. I don’t stop my kids or wife from making my favorite meal or something like that. And I don’t get mad when family calls and says happy birthday, but I wake up just wanting a regular stress free day at both work and home.
I am at the age where I don’t feel the need to celebrate.
Its just gets boring after 20+ Birthdays….
I can every thing buy by myself, no needs to Gift…..
Celebrating birthdays is kind of a weird thing to me. If someone else wants to celebrate their birthday I will gladly do that with them, but I don’t really get it honestly. As a kid the gifts and cake are fun, but as an adult I don’t even understand it. Always down for the cake though!
its just another day
Mine is trauma. I grew up in a dysfunctional house, where birthdays were a disappointment, not getting what you want and never being to deliver to others when it is their birthday.
I can’t speak for anyone else but for me it’s because I don’t like having to make decisions on where to go or what to do for it. I’ve had multiple years where I chose what I wanted to do after my friends begged me to go out and celebrate and every time multiple people complain or bitch about the evening so I just decided I don’t want to do anything but sit at home for the night.
Why would I want to celebrate the day all the problems started? Not a man but I do hate birthdays, I celebrate my half birthday instead lol
I hate the feeling of a day dedicated to my celebration and people don’t show up for me. To be fair my bday is on an American National holiday, and people are generally busy, but it basically made me hate my birthday and any celebrations with it.
It is never about me. It is always about what other people want. I would rather spend it by myself doing what I enjoy.
I’m a man and I’m turning 30 in just over a week. I wish I had friends who would make a big deal of it, but I don’t. Maybe I’ll eventually come to dislike birthdays idk.
unfortunately all the men i know don’t mind celebrating their birthdays and a lot of them actively celebrate it…maybe it’s a difference in upbringing and culture?
I don’t like getting gifts, on any occasion. Because i feel the need to get that person a gift as well, even though there isn’t a reason.
I also don’t like being the center of attention. I’m a shy person, but nature, and it makes me uncomfortable.
I also don’t like cake…
I am 56 and haven’t celebrated a birthday since i was a child. What’s the point really? It’s just another day.
Can depend on circumstances. I’m 43, wife and a 6yo. I rarely get the time id like to myself, a birthday is show for my daughter and for me it’s another day but with a cake.
To me it just feels unnecessarily contrived and shallow.
for 1,.. I didnt have any choice or control over being born.
as others have said, all the social-expectation around thanking people for telling me “happy bday” just seems silly.
To me, if you appreciate me as a person, show that appreciation in small tangible ways all along the year. Boss, give me a worthwhile raise. Friends, invite me to a local concert on a summer patio. Partner or family, clean up the house or cook a meal or surprise me with money to get new tools or something.
I feel about Birthdays the same way about any holiday really. Why have just 1 “special day”. Why not just do things all year long to make as many days as possible “special”..?
It is a trivial thing to celebrate and it feels silly asking/obligating others to celebrate it, or expect anything/to do anything for it. Idc about my birthday or yours past a “happy birthday” lol
I love my birthday, it’s my personal holiday!
Aside from my aversion of being the center of attention, for me its more that once you get to a point when you can get whatever you want without having to wait a certain day, holidays, special days, they’re just another day. My birthday is a holiday and the only thing that gets me excited is that I get a day off work.
Because we’ve been told HOW we should celebrate our birthday all our life. The presents suck, the parties suck, and it’s just another dang day! On my birthday I give presents to my family. I cook breakfast. I take the kids places they love. I take a nap. I boink my love. I take the family to dinner. Too many birthdays I see turn into some weird selfish display. My birthday is a time to celebrate my loved ones, not myself. Yuck! I do the same for Father’s Day.
I can’t answer for all men, but for me it just makes me uncomfortable.
My birthdays as a child used to be a special thing, then as I got into my mid teens people stopped caring. My 18th, and my 21st were the last ones people did anything of any effort for until much more recently.
My current partner actually tries to make a fuss of me on my birthday, and as much as I love her and I love the appreciation it also just makes me feel uncomfortable, I don’t like the attention, nor do I like people spending any portion of money on gifts for me. My partner combats this by getting me thoughtful gifts or experiences where she knows I’ll enjoy myself instead of just getting me things which I’d just get myself anyway.
For me it’s a mix of feeling selfish and others feeling disingenuous.
If for my birthday someone asks me what I want to do, then I’m now unilaterally dictating what is normally a collaborative interaction. This feels selfish and attention seeking in a way I don’t like. On top of that if I am involved at all in inviting people, it feels selfish to be like “he come celebrate me”. Feels gross.
Now, if those people DO come to celebrate me, the interactions often feel somewhat forced or disingenuous because I asked for their involvement and for them to abide by whatever plans I dictated.
Ummmm never got a b-day party. Farm debt and JWitness but still happy as long as i dont see or go to b day parties.
Parents did celebrate and I got a choice of perfect cakes. Mom cooked good fed us well never hungry. To a point I went to others houses and they didnt have food. Women’s lib and women all worked 80s it seemed.
I hated school and loved being home except being in middle nowhere had choice of 5 friends maybe w motorcycle. Only 2 or 3 w bike.
I don’t know, I love birthdays. I celebrated my 50th and rented a cabin big enough so everybody could crash. Had a massive feed and partied the weekend.
I just want to do whatever it is I want to do and people wanting to celebrate my birthday gets in the way of that considering I simply never want to celebrate my birthday aside from taking the day off work and getting a drink or something.
Because we are usually an afterthought.
I don’t actively dislike birthdays by principle, i just don’t enjoy them the same way others would.
I don’t care for gifts, a bit celebration, or being the center of attention. Just a few close friends, and either having a small get-together in the garden with BBQ, or just a nice meal at some restaurant. Simply having a few people around with whom to enjoy spending time with is muuuch more enjoyable than “traditional” b-day parties.
If someone has to gift me smth, i would also prefer it to be both of us. Instead of buying something for me. i’d much rather they bring a nice steak we can eat together, or a nice bottle of wine we can drink together.
Not sure if that’s the consensus within the group of men that “dislike b-day parties”, but i would say with a fair amount of confidence that it’s not b-days by principles, just the way they’re celebrated.
Nothing kills air around birthdays more, than people who act stiffly and out of character just for u. Then u realise next day, or couple of hours after that they return to normal, and will not give u surprise at random for next 364 days. Well, maybe I exagarated number of days, but still, the point being.
I get very little rest, peace and quiet, or alone time. And very limited time to engage with my hobbies. What I really want for my bday is to be absolved of responsibility or obligation, and a chance to treat myself. Getting a new video game or piece of equipment for my gym, and getting the day off to be able to play with it is my idea of a perfect birthday. That, or spending the day at the tattoo shop.
The last thing I want is a party because it takes away from the “me time” that I want, which makes it feel like just another obligation. I certainly wouldn’t mind going out for a nice birthday dinner somewhere too, or going out to a brewery to knock back a few pints, but a whole party is just way too much stimulation. If I was pressured into a party, I’d probably hate my bday too.
Because the rest of the year they leave you alone and only deal with you when they need something
Because a day that is supposed to be special and let you do what you want just turns into more work of having to plan this and that and someone waste money on bullshit. Like seriously, been asked what I want for my birthday and said I legit just need an actual day off and want to get some rest and that has offended multiple people when it qasnt their fucking birthday. Just treat like every fucking other day, I don’t have the fucking time or energy to pretend my birthday is any more special or different than any other day.
I don’t want to be the center of attention.
Thats it. Its pretty common
I associate them with children. Presents, candles, being center of attention. All the power to you if that’s your thing as an adult, but nothing about it interests me
Stopped liking it when I turned 40. Don’t need an annual reminder that I’m getting closer to my grave than being a care-free kid. Plus it’s never really “special” as my wife’s biggest effort is to ask “what do you want to do for your birthday?”
Personally I’d like the regular days to be enjoyable rather than just one “special” day and you get less & less of those when you get married and have kids. Eventually every day is just another day to go to work, cleanup the house, make dinner, entertain the kid, get them to bed, and then you have the night to yourself to do what you want because your partner would rather be in their room than spend time with you at night.
Birthdays are just another reminder of your boring, routine life and it’s getting shorter by the year.
I don’t like big get togethers. I love my family but when they’re all together at a restaurant they can be so loud and obnoxious. My last birthday I enjoyed a lot more as it was just me and my grandmother eating together and having a nice conversation, then went shopping for a bit.
For me it’s not that I don’t like celebrating my day. It’s that when someone else brings up celebrating me, it means that I’m going to be taking part in their imagination about how I’d like my day celebrated.
The person suggesting it needs to:
ask ahead of time what the birthday person wants (male or female)
give time and space. listen to what they have to say
make suggestions, and allow the person to celebrate what they want.
So, if he wants a year alone, let him do that. Next year, he may not. Make sure that you aren’t making it about you.
We’ve been raised to be silent about pain, quiet about our internal struggles, stoic about mainly being there to protect and provide, and that anger is the only acceptable emotion to express besides no emotion at all.
We are rarely ever celebrated. Making us the center of attention is unfamiliar, awkward, and uncomfortable because it’s counter to almost everything else in our lives. I think we’re just trying to avoid that awkwardness because we don’t know what to do with it.
It’s just another day to me. I also didn’t have the best birthdays as a kid. My most memorable ones are the bad ones. Any “good” ones I had I felt guilty about because we were quite poor growing up.
When i was a kid i couldn’t wait to get older. Right now i’m not too ecstatic about aging and the grey hairs aren’t helping.
Those are uncomfortable and I’m the one who has to pay, plan, set it up and clean afterwards.
It’s not worth the effort for just discomfort and additional social dept(gifts). There isn’t anything positive in birthdays to incentivize the effort those take.
Because as we get older, people, including our own families, put less importance on the men and their birthdays and we don’t receive anything outside some free drinks or some money and even that evaporates, then when you don’t have someone or a group of friends who ACTUALLY care about you, your birthday becomes just another day.
My fiancee has changed my mind on my birthday and she has made it a much more enjoyable day for me and I look forward to seeing how she surprises me with how she decorates the house for me. So until men have someone that actually cares about their happiness, most won’t enjoy their birthday.
Why would I celebrate the day all my problems started?
I am a woman and i don’t like celebrating birthdays..i just don’t like to be the center of attention at all.
What you need to ask is, what point is there in celebrating a birthday? Why do we even have to?
What’s with the necessity?
.
Because if the point isn’t to enjoy yourself, then you’re doing it wrong. And if the point IS to enjoy yourself, and someone doesn’t when it’s their birthday, then you’re also doing it wrong.
I feel like it’s because other people create an obligation for you to do something that you might not necessarily want to do, but then you have to go through all the antics of acting like you’re having a great time and being very appreciative of being somewhere, you didn’t necessarily want to be.
The gifts and the lack of gifts. Plus i still can be alone.
For me personally, birthday parties were an excuse for my parents to get drunk and beat each other. I’d be there hiding under a table watching them go at it like a prize fight wishing I wasn’t born. So now, almost 40 and I’ve convinced my own children that “dads don’t have birthdays”.
personally i hate seeing my age increase, i’d rather not have a whole day to celebrate me being one step closer to being old , i’d rather just not think about it at all
I’ve never received a “unconditional” gift that wasn’t just a elaborate way to get my hopes up only to crush it right in front of me…. my mother ruined them for me
I dont like getting gifts.
I dont really care for birthdays in general. Its a date that i have to remember or someone gets upset.
Honestly, it has the same feeling as all holidays for me now. I look at the calendar and go “oh, today is (insert holiday). Okay”
Why would I celebrate the start of all my problems?
Most people like “celebrating” it in one way or another. Not everyone wants a big party. Some may just want a simple dinner or movie night and a blowjob.
Idk I’m an introvert but growing up i never had birthday parties due to b family issues but have grown to like going out to dinner with my gf on my birthday.
I use my birthday as an opportunity to get a bunch of different sets of friends together who intermingle, but otherwise don’t talk to each other. Plus, I don’t get to see a lot of these friends on the regular cause we are old and some have kids and conflicting work schedules. I use my birthday as an excuse to bring people together, like it did on that day in 2001 /s