What is it called when people are unapologetically rude but calling it “speaking my truth”? Is this becoming more common? How do you even respond to that kind of attitude?
What is it called when people are unapologetically rude but calling it “speaking my truth”? Is this becoming more common? How do you even respond to that kind of attitude?
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It’s called being an asshole.
Whilst assholes have always existed, there does seem to be evidence that they are on the rise.
The only way to deal with assholes, is to not deal with them at all. They are self sustaining, but also damaging to those within close proximity. It’s best to avoid direct or indirect contact with assholes for your own safety and protection.
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Its becoming more common because people think that if they hear themselves speak, they have power and intelligence. They dont.
Respond by just walking away. Literally, dont say a word and just go somewhere else.
As somewith aspergers/adhd whose had to tip toe around being to truthfully blunt to people because of their feelings, it brings me immense mental relief and joy when someone is like that because that is carte blanc to take off the mask. And the best part is they can’t tell me anything to hurt my feelings because 1. I don’t care about the opinions of random people and 2. I’ve already hyper analyzed any flaw I have so they won’t tell me anything new. Fuck’em.
If I’m talking to a child I will say “speak the truth in love.” If it’s an adult and they continually cross the line I walk away
You can speak truth and not be a dick.
In dnd, if “what your character would do” goes against your party, you are considered an asshole.
I don’t care what your truth is, Sharon. If your “truth” is that black people need to kill themselves, you’re racist. It’s quite simple.
“Speaking your truth” is often veiled as a form of self care, like they have something to say and are respecting themselves by saying it. Which is generally true, people should feel comfortable speaking their mind. It should go without saying though that you shouldn’t be a dick about it.
Lots of people take self care to mean “do what you need to make yourself feel good”, and caring about the feelings of others can get in the way of making yourself feel good.
Honesty minus tact equals asshole. Nobody’s truth has to be demeaning or insulting unless it’s in equal exchange.
Its called not having a filter and its not a good thing
And by filter people don’t just mean choosing what to say and what not to say but also thinking about HOW to say it
This is what all these “I’m just saying how it is” people conveniently forget about.
Yes, you CAN say anything you want IF you know HOW to say it.
But, they are too lazy and selfish to put in the minimum required amount of effort to learn how to fucking communicate these things to people
So
They’re not actually people who “say it how it is” they’re just selfish, lazy assholes who use that as a thinly veiled excuse to not make that effort.
They say things without thinking and then they’re shocked that people respond to what they say
The fuck else were they expecting to happen JFC
They’re all a bunch of immature little children that never learned how living with other human beings works.
Depends if anything they said is actually true.
If they are that rude and are “speaking their truth”, but they are right or at least you can see they might have a point, it’s called they are just blunt. No filter & are blunt. People mistake being blunt for being mean, rude, assholes, etc.
If they’re like that, but they are just spewing hate for the sake of spewing hate, then they are flat out assholes.
Either way, the way you respond to that attitude is 1 of 2 ways:
– Do not engage them by arguing, correcting them, scolding them, showing any kind of annoyance or frustration or sadness/anger, etc. — any kind of engagement pretty much fans the flames/pours gasoline on the problem.
– If they aren’t on a warpath & are able to de-escalate at all, casually try to change subject or try to get them to break their focus/fixation on whatever had them acting like that by getting them to laugh if possible.
You’d rather be hurt by the truth or a lie? I try not to be cruel but I will be as honest as possible.
As others have mentioned, this is literally just being an asshole. With the lack of consequences people experience nowadays when they act shitty, it’s become more and more common. You say “I’ll speak my truth by telling you you’re being a fucking asshole. Sorry, just speaking my truth.”
They’re an asshole, if you’re “speaking your truth”, that’s meant to be a truth about yourself, not an opinion on others. So, the truth they are speaking or revealing is that they are in fact, an asshole.
Oh I’m as rude back to them but with a big smile on my face. It’s amazing how quickly people like that back down.
I don’t think it’s becoming more common, just changing the language. I’ve known people like this my whole life. They proudly proclaim that they “speak the truth” or “tell it like it is” or they “have no filter” when really all it means is they’re unnecessarily rude and shitty to people.
It’s just a way for assholes to excuse their asshole behavior by pretending it’s something positive.
I ignore them
It’s commonly known as being a cunt.
People who say they are “brutally honest” enjoy the brutality more than the honesty.
Lacking emotional intelligence?
It’s called “being an asshole” and they are “someone I don’t want to hang out with.”
I have a coworker like this…he rationalizes the way he talks “because he is German and they say what they mean and then apologize and drink a beer together.” Except the apology and beer never come and when you say that it was rude he says “don’t take it personally” or “or for me it wasn’t that bad” basically he is a bully and an asshole
Meh. Ppl will call you rude for literally anything that makes them uncomfortable. El*n for instance thinks people are being mean to him because they flatly find his ruining people’s lives and meddling in the government objectionable. Extreme example, but that’s the general flavor. Suddenly people have feelings when you rightly call them on their shit or put up a simple boundary they’re not used to having.
This isn’t always the case but often many people are socially appropriately rude because there is lack of awareness and they think they’re being decent people when they’re not.
It’s appropriate to call this out, but even when tried to be done nicely can be viewed as rude to the person who is used to being socially appropriately rude.
No self control.
“Speaking your truth” isn’t an excuse to be a dick. Being honest doesn’t mean being rude. And yeah, it’s definitely more common now, people treat basic respect like it’s optional now and it’s exhausting. I just stop engaging. No point arguing with someone who thinks being an asshole is a personality trait.
“Speaking my truth” is literally code for “I’m an asshole”
there is no “my truth” there is “THE truth” and there is “my opinion” People don’t get to have their own person version of the truth.
Theres a big difference between speaking your truth and speaking without thinking. Wankers tend to think they are the same thing.
Avoid, call it out, ignore. You do what’s best. I tend to to call it out if there is a power imbalance, laugh at them if it’s towards me.
I just ignore them. If there are multiple people who are victims of this person then we all ignore and passively put that person in to social isolation