Hey everyone! This might be an unusual post, but I’m craving to know how is it to live with a father who is not abusive, loves you and doesn’t try to kill you. I’m in my 30s, but it still hard to accept I will never have this good dad experience. Sometimes I find it healing hearing stories from people who had the opposite life.
Please share your dad/parents stories that you will cherish forever
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Backup of the post’s body: Hey everyone! This might be an unusual post, but I’m craving to know how is it to live with a father who is not abusive, loves you and doesn’t try to kill you. I’m in my 30s, but it still hard to accept I will never have this good dad experience. Sometimes I find it healing hearing stories from people who had the opposite life
Please share your dad/parents stories that you will cherish forever
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I’m so sorry you were robbed of the experience of having a loving / caring / amazing dad. I often think of those who were robbed of having both parents / an amazing family and it saddens me. 😭
It almost feels criminal to boast or talk about your experiences but I love that you’re embracing and wanting to hear stories. I also want to point out you must be a really amazing person / selfless person to be open to hearing stories of others lives. I always say in another lifetime for things we are robbed of 🥹❤️
On to the story of my dad , apologize if it’s long in advance.
My father is no longer here with us and passed in 2022 from terminal 4 cancer. There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think of him and how much I love and miss him. Que the water works already by typing that first sentence 😭😭
My dad was the definition of what a provider / loving dad is. He wasn’t perfect by any means and as most humans had plenty of flaws. I don’t know what better what to express my love from him then sharing my eulogy that I wrote for him as I laid beside him on his death bed in hospice. I felt his last breath and felt when he finally let go. Posting below 😭 sorry for the long post , I always told my family I’d love to make a movie based off my dad’s life bc I’m sure it’d be a great one.
Juan Franco , my dad , my rock, my reason why.
I write this eulogy as I lay beside you waiting for your departure to heaven. As heartbreaking as that sounds , I’m at peace in knowing you’re now in such a beautiful place with my grandma and tio Felipe by your side now.
You’ve lived such a great life here on earth and have left your legacy. You’ve instilled so much love , hard work and dedication in each and every one of us. You’ve molded us to be the best that we can be and have expressed to us all how proud you are of each and every one of us.
You were the best dad/ grandpa in this world and no one could ever take that away. The memories you’ve made with each and every one of us , I hope we revisit in our dreams or one day when we’re reunited in heaven.
You were and are a phenomenal man , one of a kind , macho man. To know you was to love you. The type of man who made friends everywhere you’d go. You are loved and admired by so many. You worked so hard you’re entire life to make sure we all had what we needed and wanted. You’d do anything for your family. You were a good fella , a just man , e legend.
As I lay here caressing your arm , giving you my last kisses in flesh, I can’t help but to think of the times we’ve had. The drives to school in the mornings listening to your window taps to the beat of the drum of our favorite tejano & cumbias songs ( cosas del amor by grupo pegasso was our song ) . Watching you mold your hair to perfection , the Johnny bravo style we’d love to call it..When you’d ask me to roll up the side of your favorite polo tees sleeves before work. The endless amounts of cologne sprays that’ll leave your smell lingering throughout the house. You watching me and titi play in the indoor playground at the woodlands mall, that you never skipped taking us to everytime we’d visit ( every weekend ) 🥲.
The weekend trips to Astroworld, letting me ride the big girl rides with you by my side. The way you sat in the passenger seat but directed direction like if you were the one driving and getting mad if I didn’t take your way. You’re very picky / very detailed food requests from all your favorite restaurants. Your constant laughter and made up knicknames for anyone who came around 🤣🤣🤣. Last but not least The foot massages I gave you to your very last day.
The memories we have with him are forever , The memories that bring us peace and joy. Memories we’ll never take for granted. The memories we’ll remember him by.
However these aren’t our last memories of him. I have peace in knowing there’s a heaven and there’s a better place than earth that’ll well make more memories with each other & that’s what brings me peace .
I want to share this quote from a series of books that have brought me a lot of peace in grief. The series is called conversations with god .
“ you think life on earth is better than life in heaven ? I tell you this , at the moment of your death you will realize the greatest freedom, the greatest peace , the greatest joy , and the greatest love you have ever known “
These words resonate with me for many reasons ,
One knowing that there’s a better life after this life
2 . Knowing that there is a different kind of peace and tranquility after life .
and 3 . There is a different type of love that we have yet to encounter.
I know for a lot of us it will take us time to deal with a great loss , but I truly hope these words bring you some closure as it does for me .
I held your hand as you took your last breath and I truly needed to see you go peacefully . I prayed to god that he’d take you away in the most peaceful way and he did just that. I’m forever grateful and at peace in knowing you’re no longer hurting or in pain. I know you’re in heaven on a boat , with my grandma , tio Felipe , Angel , kianna and isaeah blasting la Rama de mesquite by Ramon Ayala sipping some cold ones. 🥲❤️
I have much faith that one day we’ll all be together again. I know that this is not a goodbye , it’s a see you later.
I love you so much papi . I’ll meet you one day at heavens gates ❤️