Not made dozens of decisions which each had an offramp and out to not cheat, but that it was a single mistake. Like they were in a hypnotic trance prior to the act itself.
Cheaters always assume you’re capable of cheating too. They’re more likely to accuse you of dressing up for people of the opposite sex, more likely to ask 100s of questions about where you’ve been, who you spoke to, whether anybody of the opposite sex hit on you. They’ll want to check your phone, to control who you’re friends with, to see who likes your photos on social media. I used to think my ex was just overprotective until I realised he was just looking for his own behaviour in me.
Gaslighting you into thinking the whole thing is your fault, like I’m willing to take responsibility for the stuff on my end but to stay disclosed on your part and blaming me for stuff I genuinely apologized for years ago? It felt like she was just looking for an excuse and left as soon as an option was there
Blame cheating on what one parent did.
Said it was my fault because I was working. (If I don’t work we don’t eat or have a place to live)
Lastly said had no control person was playing mind games.
Then did was another poster said above. Accused me of having inappropriate relationships at work or always thought I would cheat so they did first.
I called BS and the the person what we say now Crashed Out on me.
Saw me bangin’ on the sofa…
I even had her in the shower…
She even caught me on camera…
She saw the marks on my shoulder…
Heard the words that I told her…
Heard the screams gettin’ louder…
Comments
I’m not cheating
It wasn’t me.
“It didn’t mean anything.”
“Don’t worry he’s like a brother”
🤮
You’re being insecure and controlling. Now I’m about to spend time with my ex because we’re good friends
I made a mistake.
Not made dozens of decisions which each had an offramp and out to not cheat, but that it was a single mistake. Like they were in a hypnotic trance prior to the act itself.
what do you want me to say
“i dont deserve you”
It’s not what it looks like
“You can’t tell me who I can be friends with.”
Everybody does it.
“You made me cheat because of [insert thing] you did!”
“It didn’t mean anything…. Classic deflection trying to downplay betrayal like it was a minor accident.
Cheaters always assume you’re capable of cheating too. They’re more likely to accuse you of dressing up for people of the opposite sex, more likely to ask 100s of questions about where you’ve been, who you spoke to, whether anybody of the opposite sex hit on you. They’ll want to check your phone, to control who you’re friends with, to see who likes your photos on social media. I used to think my ex was just overprotective until I realised he was just looking for his own behaviour in me.
I wouldn’t have done it if I was sober.
“I love you and it won’t happen again”
i didn’t mean to do it. it just happened. i was drunk. i’m sorry.
just bullshit. once a cheater always a cheater.
“that’s an invasion of my privacy”
I was lonely or you weren’t there for me
I want an “open” relationship. 🤣
It didn’t mean anything or I was drunk, it just happened.
“She meant nothing to me ” which says a lot about you 🤥..
I tried to tell them no
“Don’t you trust me?”
“Everybody cheats”
I only did it because __
“Get good” or “mad cuz bad”
He’s got a girlfriend.
“I was drunk”
Scrotal inflation is not technically cheating.
Give me one more chance
Share your location with me. Then if it looks janky and we ask they give some fake ass excuse
Alexa play Shaggy – It wasnt me
“Just a friend, you have nothing to worry about “
“Well, if you would do ‘X’ more…”
It wasn’t me
“That’s not cheating!”
Knowing full well they cheated but just keep moving the goalpost to fit their narrative.
“I’m just a bad person I guess”
Not taking responsibility/willing to change
“Oh my partner is so great…. But”
100% you hear this just fucking run. I mean run from all of them but this one is straight up Satan levels of deceit.
“It wasn’t me”
Let me read your texts. Who was that person you were speaking with?
Cheaters assume you will cheat on them.
“Wait, I can explain!”
It was just sex.
“It’s OK to cheat. Just dont get caught. “
Gaslighting you into thinking the whole thing is your fault, like I’m willing to take responsibility for the stuff on my end but to stay disclosed on your part and blaming me for stuff I genuinely apologized for years ago? It felt like she was just looking for an excuse and left as soon as an option was there
He’s/She’s my best friend
“You’re crazy”
“It’s all in your head”
“Stop overthinking”
“We (the couple) were headed for a divorce/break-up anyway”
You made me do it
And in a way half truth
“I love you”
‘I deserve better than you anyway’. Such a lovely cherry on top. There’s trash, and then there’s scum.
I need your vote.
I don’t want her, I want you
“I did it because I was feeling x, y z in the relationship”. (subtly putting the blame on you)
Wasn’t me
Blame cheating on what one parent did.
Said it was my fault because I was working. (If I don’t work we don’t eat or have a place to live)
Lastly said had no control person was playing mind games.
Then did was another poster said above. Accused me of having inappropriate relationships at work or always thought I would cheat so they did first.
I called BS and the the person what we say now Crashed Out on me.
She said to me: “Humans are not meant to be together”.
Well, ok Nietzsche…
They’re just a friend
“Its a one time thing”
Nuh uh! You didn’t hit me, I teleported home! This tree is home.
“how am I hacking? My aim is shit and I didn’t know you were there through the walls and you won the gunfight”
We were on a break!
I can explain
I don’t cheat
“Who is that calling you, are you cheating on me?”
Accusations are admissions.
i didn’t do it to hurt you
Some thing some thing
Some excuse why you can’t go to her house (it’s because she’s living with their other bf)
I love you
You are overreacting.
“But I’m with you and that’s what is important”
We started having sex but then I realized my mistake and I stopped it.
It’s all your fault.
“Who am I with right now? I chose you” smh just leave him if he says this
I didn’t cheat
“Everybody cheats”. Not me! I said🖕🏼
Cheaters always pick ridiculous fights over nothing. If he’s ending every sentence with some sort of guilt trip, I bet he has someone else.
“Cheating? What do you mean cheating?
Cheaters always mention cheating in order to control their partner. Are you cheating on me?
Have you no shame?”
“It takes three to cheat.”
Dumbass. It only takes one to cheat. The cheater.
“I didn’t do it”
I was drunk.
I’ve changed.
“But it didn’t mean anything”
these comments have me thinking I might be a closeted cheater that hasn’t realized his potential.
Saw me bangin’ on the sofa…
I even had her in the shower…
She even caught me on camera…
She saw the marks on my shoulder…
Heard the words that I told her…
Heard the screams gettin’ louder…
It just happened.
“Well, if you did…..”
Or
“Well, if you didn’t…”
Basically blaming you for it instead of taking accountability.
Wasn’t me.
“you know i love you so much right” at 3am
I know it’s not what you’re looking for but cheating in video games or in sports: “Everybody is doing it so I have do it to keep up too”
I worked hard to get my degree.
You’re too good for me…I never cheated…
“You said you weren’t coming home till late!”
Wasn’t me – Shaggy
Either:
” I’m still married so it doesn’t count “
“If you cheat and you lose, you’re a cheater; but if you cheat and succeed, you’re savvy”
“I didn’t cheat, I’m not like that” as he’s cheating.
I had to fill the void somehow, rather than acknowledging he’s been the problem
Hi
“We were still together, but not really a couple anymore.”
Wasn’t me
if you get tricked its your fault
I’ll never do it again.
“Believe what you want”
“Believe what you want.”
“I’ll be the banker”
“I’m not watching your screen, you just suck”
“I call Oddjob”
“I was thinking about you the whole time.”
“It’s not what you think!”
But I don’t love her as much as I love you
“Are you really going to throw away X years for this?”
Sir, I’m not the one who cheated. You started this. I’m ending it.
“You’re crazy.”
Babe…. Let me explain.
Seek and you shall find! The fucken audacity. Yup, i’m now seeking my way to find myself away from you.
DARVO
They almost always deflect the blame back to the accuser.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DARVO#:~:text=DARVO%20(an%20acronym%20for%20%22deny,manipulation%20strategy%20of%20psychological%20abusers.
“I don’t know why I did it. I was in a different head space”
Let me be clear
“It wasn’t my fault, I tried to stop it.”
You’re just being paranoid
Said every cheater ever😂
Believe what you want
“I felt distant”, “I thought you cheated on me”, “I was drunk”, “If you love me you’d believe in me”.
It’s your fault.
It’s all because of you.
Trust me
you’re imagining things, stop making stuff up, you’re crazy, she’s just a friend….
We’re just friends.
It’s just sex
BOOM! Headshot!
Ask (whoever will lie for them) if you don’t believe me!!
You’re too insecure/jealous/paranoid etc. and hint at breaking up with you.
Look at everything I do for you, but you don’t appreciate or pay attention to that, you only focus on the negative.
And the ultimate- I’ll never do it again, I love you!
Wasn’t me
I did not use ChatGPT.
(I feel so sorry for teachers rn.)
Going on a girls trip
“There’s nothing up my sleeves”
Mf that shit was NOT behind my ear… IT CAME FROM SOMEWHERE
I’m not that guy anymore!!
Just hear me out
“Everyone celebrates Valentine’s Day on the 14th. Let’s pick another day to make it our own.”