The ER waiting room. Normal wait time is 5 to 7 hours. During Covid I waited once 17 hours for a tube change. It’s just constant waiting, pain, stress, blood, vomit, someone actually dying right next to you, sometimes people can’t handle it. Literally. They start yelling and screaming and demanding to be taken into the hospital- but they are on the list.
Having a parent literally never take an interest into your interests. You’re fed, clothed, housed, and educated but anything beyond that is not perceived. It deprives you of a sense of self/expression. As an adult you’ll either be hollow of anything or desperately clinging to what you think makes your identity.
Whenever you bring up a problem to someone close to you, big or small, they turn it around and make it about how YOU are the problem, completely ignoring what you brought up in the first place.
Makes you never bring up issues again, because you get ignored, or you get argued into submission, and learn to shut up and bottle it in.
You hear in movies, you console your friends but only when you actually get cheated you will know how bad it is .
It literally makes you question everything.. at what point did your relationship break? How come the person you loved and trusted did this ? Were you not good enough ?
Losing a pet especially after they have been around for 10-15 years or more. That’s a living and loving thing present for a big chunk of your life and then gone.
TV portrays some of it … But really–unless you live in it, you didn’t truly know.
And yes–it’s different than drug addiction. It permeates everything. It can be hidden from casual observers. Outsiders may never even know what’s happening.
Being bullied/outcasted in childhood. Especially when it doesn’t seem like the adults take you seriously. Now I have awful social anxiety and I have a hard time trusting authority figures to help me.
Because I have autism, there’s been alot of times growing up when people told me I was ‘overreacting’ to stuff that was bothering me, or even laughed directly at me because I asked a question I didn’t think was weird.
It leads to big self-esteem problems. I’ve even had days in high school where I was too stressed to operate and my brain is telling me “oh you’re just faking it so you can be lazy.” I’ve even had people tell me they have the EXACT same problem and it’s so hard to get over.
Being traumatised by the medical system, especially as a disabled person and especially as a teenager. It’s extremely difficult because you can’t avoid the medical system. As a disabled person, you are forced to continue to engage with the system that has repeatedly traumatised you. It’s essentially like being trapped in an abusive relationship but you quite literally can’t leave – unless you want to forego all medical treatment and die (which of course is something that some of us do consider and attempt…which leads us back to being hospitalised and back in the system…vicious cycle). I honestly don’t see this spoken about very much at all.
Finding out your partner lied to you. Even if it’s something you can work past, uncovering a lie for the first time doesn’t just make you lose trust in them, it makes you lose trust in YOU. You start to constantly check yourself about your intuition and what is real/what is the trauma.
I was assaulted in January ‘24.. Made a police report when I got to the hospital and told them exactly where to go to find the guy.. They never even went by the scene.. Tried to get an internal investigation opened but each officer covered for the other.. Texas Rangers wouldn’t get involved without referral from the police department..
Ended up costing me 11k in medical/dental procedures and I had no real grounds for litigation without an arrest/police contact with the assailant..
The physical damage was one thing but the mental side has been the hardest to get over
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invisible disability
being constantly interrupted as a kid. it teaches you your voice doesn’t matter before you even know what that means.
lack of parental attention
Living with an infestation.
The ER waiting room. Normal wait time is 5 to 7 hours. During Covid I waited once 17 hours for a tube change. It’s just constant waiting, pain, stress, blood, vomit, someone actually dying right next to you, sometimes people can’t handle it. Literally. They start yelling and screaming and demanding to be taken into the hospital- but they are on the list.
having a parent that slams doors when they’re angry
Having a parent literally never take an interest into your interests. You’re fed, clothed, housed, and educated but anything beyond that is not perceived. It deprives you of a sense of self/expression. As an adult you’ll either be hollow of anything or desperately clinging to what you think makes your identity.
Having parents with mental health issues
Having a dysfunctional family
The silent treatment. Especially from a parent. It isn’t just awkward, it’s like being ghosted by someone who’s still sitting in the same room.
Your first heartbreak
Having “nice parents” who are overtly nice to others at the child’s expense. It messes you up
Betrayal by those who claim to have nothing but love for you.
Being around people that criticize everything you do
Being cheated on
Takes years or even decades to really recover
Working a job you hate. Every day. For years.
Getting sued… and knowing in your heart you are completely innocent.
Gaslighting
Working in the healthcare field
Not being able to afford basic things
Being betrayed by someone you love/d
Being poor.
Watching your loved one, in my case mother. Slowly lose their mind to Alzheimer’s/dementia.
Workplace bullying ie Regina George types
Grief
Caring for a loved one with Dementia or Alzheimer’s. It’s a long grieving process that is devastating for everyone.
Favoritism in a family when you are not the favorite
Being a fat kid lmao
Chronic pain
Toxic and hostile work environments
Whenever you bring up a problem to someone close to you, big or small, they turn it around and make it about how YOU are the problem, completely ignoring what you brought up in the first place.
Makes you never bring up issues again, because you get ignored, or you get argued into submission, and learn to shut up and bottle it in.
Infidelity
Having parents compare siblings. Especially if you’re always the one that needs to “be more like your brother/sister”.
Being cheated on..
You hear in movies, you console your friends but only when you actually get cheated you will know how bad it is .
It literally makes you question everything.. at what point did your relationship break? How come the person you loved and trusted did this ? Were you not good enough ?
Health issues, bullying, being isolated, being used, perfectionism.
Constantly being tickled after telling people you don’t like it
Have people who make false statements about me when they don’t know what they are talking about.
Bullying
Losing a pet
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Watching a loved one go through an acute bipolar episode.
Having an abusive older brother .Molestation from an older brother.
Doctors not listening to you.
Being there for a friend in need. When you are in need, no one is there for you.
Survivor’s guilt
Losing a pet especially after they have been around for 10-15 years or more. That’s a living and loving thing present for a big chunk of your life and then gone.
Betrayal, by far, one of the worst feelings. Depending on the person and their mindset, it could shatter how you see everybody around you
Minimizing, belittling or dismissing someone’s feelings constantly.
A cheating spouse
Childhood bullying.
I know this is one that probably everybody does realize, but I surprisingly didn’t see it in the thread. It is ridiculously traumatizing
Alcoholism.
TV portrays some of it … But really–unless you live in it, you didn’t truly know.
And yes–it’s different than drug addiction. It permeates everything. It can be hidden from casual observers. Outsiders may never even know what’s happening.
Being bullied/outcasted in childhood. Especially when it doesn’t seem like the adults take you seriously. Now I have awful social anxiety and I have a hard time trusting authority figures to help me.
Because I have autism, there’s been alot of times growing up when people told me I was ‘overreacting’ to stuff that was bothering me, or even laughed directly at me because I asked a question I didn’t think was weird.
It leads to big self-esteem problems. I’ve even had days in high school where I was too stressed to operate and my brain is telling me “oh you’re just faking it so you can be lazy.” I’ve even had people tell me they have the EXACT same problem and it’s so hard to get over.
Surgery. Holy crap. One of the worst experiences of my life, and I’m still recovering from it physically, mentally, and emotionally 8 months later.
Serial job application/rejection
Emotional abuse and manipulation from an intimate partner. This form of abuse often goes unnoticed because it doesn’t leave marks on the outside.
Poverty
Being completely ignored by a sibling no matter how nice you are to them. Don’t know why they hate you so much.
Having to leave a marriage when you have kids.
Being forced to move/evicted due to no fault of your own.
Losing a pet.
Childbirth.
Being bullied by strangers for your looks
Being traumatised by the medical system, especially as a disabled person and especially as a teenager. It’s extremely difficult because you can’t avoid the medical system. As a disabled person, you are forced to continue to engage with the system that has repeatedly traumatised you. It’s essentially like being trapped in an abusive relationship but you quite literally can’t leave – unless you want to forego all medical treatment and die (which of course is something that some of us do consider and attempt…which leads us back to being hospitalised and back in the system…vicious cycle). I honestly don’t see this spoken about very much at all.
Growing up with undiagnosed autism and/or adhd for sure
Finding out your partner lied to you. Even if it’s something you can work past, uncovering a lie for the first time doesn’t just make you lose trust in them, it makes you lose trust in YOU. You start to constantly check yourself about your intuition and what is real/what is the trauma.
Trying to navigate disabilities
A toxic work colleague and/or environment.
Shit can be overwhelming and take over your life.
Growing up in a struggling family, so you become hyper independent as an adult because your brain is stuck in “survival mode”.
Being betrayed by someone who you trusted for a very long time
Moving often as a child.
Having an IUD put in without any painkillers
Police Injustice
I was assaulted in January ‘24.. Made a police report when I got to the hospital and told them exactly where to go to find the guy.. They never even went by the scene.. Tried to get an internal investigation opened but each officer covered for the other.. Texas Rangers wouldn’t get involved without referral from the police department..
Ended up costing me 11k in medical/dental procedures and I had no real grounds for litigation without an arrest/police contact with the assailant..
The physical damage was one thing but the mental side has been the hardest to get over
Being stalked. It’s haunting.
Birth. Even the most normal, healthiest birth can be incredibly traumatic.
Having no one believe you on your rapist. It’s so draining and literally horrifying
Being bullied as an adult. “Just don’t let it bother you.” Like telling a depressed person to just get up and take a walk and they’ll feel better.
High-stress jobs. You can be a master at compartmentalizing but at some point it will get to you. Usually through physical symptoms