Any kind of nationalism usually involves distorting the past to serve a narrative. Make America great again: do you mean when we taxed the rich 70% and welcomed immigrants to the land of the free, or do you mean when only straight white men had rights?
Serial killers – Women are the prime target for most serial killers but also most likely to romanticize to someone who would think nothing about brutally snuffing them out. Weird!
Living with autism… Well, RFK jr wants to know how autism is really like, he’ll need to see how autism is in person and those with the condition finds ways to survive and learn to live just fine. Those claims he made about autism… Many of us autistic pretty still do those things on a regular basis. Autism is a spectrum, so it is different levels of the condition. The rates are do to better understanding of the condition and detection.
Having a giant group of friends. I’ve found out that having like 5 you can completely rely on leads to a more fulfilling life for you. Then you’re not tempted to give up on your likes, dreams, or hopes just to please a bunch of folks who may not do the same for you.
As a longtime fan, I don’t want to bring back the days of Jerry Lawler squealing “Puppies!”, Mick Foley taking about a dozen chair shots to the head in one match, an 80-something give birth to a rubber hand, or any of that. We know more now.
Whenever someone shares a video with me of some snobby travel vlogger or some van life YouTuber, I so badly want to scream at them “this isn’t real! They’re influencers and they get rich off your gullibility”
Twitch streamers, YouTubers, TikTok creators, there is literally one and only one pure singular purpose to why they do what they do….
And its because your eyeballs and time wasted doomscrolling their nonsense is making them rich.
The whole celebrity worship is unsettling to me. Why does anyone give two fucks about the opinions of these people? Most are so out of touch with reality they have no clue how life really is for most people.
High power career jobs. Yes the money is good, but if you have even the slightest semblance of responsibility and accountability; the pressure and time is ridiculous
Burn out is real. Mental burn out is more recoverable than physical but just as real and silent
The whole “love conquers all” idea. While love is incredible, it’s not a magic fix for everything. Relationships take work, communication, and sometimes sacrifice. We see so many stories where love just works in the end, but the reality is that sometimes people grow apart, face challenges they can’t overcome, or realize they’re not compatible. It’s not always a fairy tale, and that’s okay. Romanticizing the “perfect love” sets up unrealistic expectations, and when reality hits, it can make people feel like they’re failing when relationships aren’t easy or smooth.
Strong independent type man or woman. I’m not against those but if everyone is that, we lose our community and ‘village’. And not everyone can be strong and independent. So those more vulnerable become even more vulnerable.
OCD. It’s not ‘lol so quirky I dyed my hair pink the intrusive thoughts won!’
It’s: I can’t stop thinking about my loved ones dying in horrific ways and the only way to self soothe is to do some illogical repetitive behavior that makes no sense.
It’s also continual self doubt and questioning every single decision you make and asking if it makes you a bad person and the answer is almost always yes.
It’s I can’t stop picking my skin when I’m anxious.
It’s an eating disorder that will never be cured because of how intertwined they are with OCD.
The daddy thing! The whole older men shit.
I know it hit a spot for many but there’s just no way that relationships with a huge age gap would be healthy.
Especially for young girls (+18 ofc), they can’t possibly imagine how easily older men could manipulate them, and without them realizing it!
No matter how smart the girl is, there’s no happy ending.
War. Typically it is presented as virtuous and noble and that victory is easy to achieve with nary a consequence. But as well all know, war is HELL. People are killed. Survivors remain damaged for the rest of their lives. All too often the wealthy profit while everyone suffers poverty and deprivation.
“Grass is greener” syndrome. Not exactly a real diagnosed illness but the overall idea that something else better is just around the corner all the time (whether it’s relationships, people, things, jobs etc) it’s not a great mentality to have.
People don’t appreciate what they have because of it.
Being poor to the point you practically do everything to survive (Not to mention the thousands of people thinking they’d do in a zombie apocalypse when they can’t event purify water/learn basic wilderness skills)
struggling, especially when you’re young. It was a little demeaning in high school to have classmates in bmw’s complaining about their first world problems when I didn’t have heat in my house.
Historically, the primary purpose of pairing up was the transfer of land and wealth, often accompanied by the poor treatment of women.
I strongly believe that the intense emphasis on romantic love in the media serves to reinforce a capitalist system centered around nuclear families, which in turn produce more consumers and workers. This societal pressure, I feel, contributes to rushed marriages and parenthood, ultimately leading to widespread unhappiness.
Furthermore, I find the concept of a ‘soul mate’ deeply irritating. We are, after all, simply more evolved primates on a cosmic journey, often behaving as if we possess greater understanding than we actually do while simultaneously damaging our planet.
Being the cool girl who’s totally chill with everything. Spent years pretending nothing bothered me laughing off red flags and forcing myself to be okay with stuff I wasn’t comfortable with.
Influencers constantly posting about their perfect relationship. They make it seem like all relationships should be perfect and there should be no conflict whatsoever. Relationships/marriage is HARD. You and your significant other are going to argue and disagree at some point. It’s not always rainbows and butterflies. Especially, when you bring children into the mix. I can attest that your relationship will suffer with children. And that is NORMAL.
Communication is a key component to healthy and successful relationships. The divorce rate is so high nowadays because couples get into one fight and they call it quits. Find someone that you will choose to love and support forever. Like your vows will read “through sickness and in health” “through good and bad”. That is what relationships are about. Find someone you will choose to love unconditionally. Someone that you will want to sleep next to even if you’ve had a bad argument. STOP ROMANTICIZING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS/MARRIAGES.
Marriage and children. I think it is easy to see how cute babies can be. How fun a wedding can be. How cute and romantic “happily ever after” sounds without diving too deep into it. Many do not seem to fully understand just how much work can go into them and how complicated they can be either. At least I’m speaking about those I’ve grown up around.
Public proposals of marriage. Can be very manipulative as it makes it difficult for the recipient to say “no” (at worst it’s a red flag for coercive control).
Comments
Criminal lifestyle
Breaking boundaries until someone gives in.
War.
Hustle/Gig culture. Having to juggle multiple jobs to survive is not how it should be.
The drug trade
Fame
Any kind of nationalism usually involves distorting the past to serve a narrative. Make America great again: do you mean when we taxed the rich 70% and welcomed immigrants to the land of the free, or do you mean when only straight white men had rights?
Celebrity
Moving abroad
Marriage
Open relationships
Buttsex. It’s shitty.
Travelling, having babies
BDSM
Serial killers – Women are the prime target for most serial killers but also most likely to romanticize to someone who would think nothing about brutally snuffing them out. Weird!
Smoking/vaping, voting republican
Kardashian life style
Having children
Living with autism… Well, RFK jr wants to know how autism is really like, he’ll need to see how autism is in person and those with the condition finds ways to survive and learn to live just fine. Those claims he made about autism… Many of us autistic pretty still do those things on a regular basis. Autism is a spectrum, so it is different levels of the condition. The rates are do to better understanding of the condition and detection.
Having a giant group of friends. I’ve found out that having like 5 you can completely rely on leads to a more fulfilling life for you. Then you’re not tempted to give up on your likes, dreams, or hopes just to please a bunch of folks who may not do the same for you.
The “glory days” of WWE, The Attitude Era.
As a longtime fan, I don’t want to bring back the days of Jerry Lawler squealing “Puppies!”, Mick Foley taking about a dozen chair shots to the head in one match, an 80-something give birth to a rubber hand, or any of that. We know more now.
Literally everything you see an influencer doing.
Whenever someone shares a video with me of some snobby travel vlogger or some van life YouTuber, I so badly want to scream at them “this isn’t real! They’re influencers and they get rich off your gullibility”
Twitch streamers, YouTubers, TikTok creators, there is literally one and only one pure singular purpose to why they do what they do….
And its because your eyeballs and time wasted doomscrolling their nonsense is making them rich.
Having children and/or owning pets. Both things are done so causally by people who should never consider doing either.
Parenting
The Mafia. “The Sopranos” and “Goodfellahs” turned murderers and criminals into heroes. As an Italian-Irish Amercian, I find it insulting.
Having children.
A jealous or protective boyfriend
Traveling for work. You don’t get to “see the world.” You see airports, client sites, hotels, and rental car kiosks.
Alcohol
Ted Bundy and polyamory.
Instant gratification such as the unhinged consumerism we see every day
Toxic relationships
I don’t see it often offline but mental illnesses.
ADHD is not a fun, quirky thing that makes you say “squirrel!” In the middle of a sentence.
OCD is not something that you have because you keep your desk neat and tidy.
Narcissistic personality disorder is not something your ex-boyfriend has because he lied to you once.
They’re serious mental illnesses that only a professional can diagnose and making light of them dilutes the seriousness of them.
Making more people
Claiming you’re neurodivergent or that you have and mental illnesses without getting testing by a professional
Being a parent.
The whole celebrity worship is unsettling to me. Why does anyone give two fucks about the opinions of these people? Most are so out of touch with reality they have no clue how life really is for most people.
High power career jobs. Yes the money is good, but if you have even the slightest semblance of responsibility and accountability; the pressure and time is ridiculous
Burn out is real. Mental burn out is more recoverable than physical but just as real and silent
War
Marriage
The Disneyfication or anthromorphisim of wildlife. Wildlife is amazing and often breathtaking but also brutal
Drugs.
The whole “love conquers all” idea. While love is incredible, it’s not a magic fix for everything. Relationships take work, communication, and sometimes sacrifice. We see so many stories where love just works in the end, but the reality is that sometimes people grow apart, face challenges they can’t overcome, or realize they’re not compatible. It’s not always a fairy tale, and that’s okay. Romanticizing the “perfect love” sets up unrealistic expectations, and when reality hits, it can make people feel like they’re failing when relationships aren’t easy or smooth.
Toxic relationships
Eating Disorders
Bad boys are often romanticized and that leads to domestic violence 💁🏻♀️
Being in relationships, being “cool” for not reading books.
Strong independent type man or woman. I’m not against those but if everyone is that, we lose our community and ‘village’. And not everyone can be strong and independent. So those more vulnerable become even more vulnerable.
Wanting someone to be obsessed with you
Gangsters ,criminal life
Farming. This is hard
Smoking
Lavish weddings that strain people’s budgets
OCD. It’s not ‘lol so quirky I dyed my hair pink the intrusive thoughts won!’
It’s: I can’t stop thinking about my loved ones dying in horrific ways and the only way to self soothe is to do some illogical repetitive behavior that makes no sense.
It’s also continual self doubt and questioning every single decision you make and asking if it makes you a bad person and the answer is almost always yes.
It’s I can’t stop picking my skin when I’m anxious.
It’s an eating disorder that will never be cured because of how intertwined they are with OCD.
Living in the Georgian and Victorian times.
Alpha/ dominant male. I hate the Tate mindset
Abuse masquerading as “dark romance”
I romanticized dating, affection, relationships etc
And now having gone on my first ever date at 33, I have a feeling none of this is going to be what I’m looking for to fill the void inside
Truck driver job
Caffeine.
Might sound weird, but caffeine does way more damage than people realize. It puts you in constant fight or flight mode.
tradwives
Mob life
The daddy thing! The whole older men shit.
I know it hit a spot for many but there’s just no way that relationships with a huge age gap would be healthy.
Especially for young girls (+18 ofc), they can’t possibly imagine how easily older men could manipulate them, and without them realizing it!
No matter how smart the girl is, there’s no happy ending.
Loser dads, I think the trend started with Al Bundy, the “lovable???” loser.
Farming,” homesteading” gardening.
War. Typically it is presented as virtuous and noble and that victory is easy to achieve with nary a consequence. But as well all know, war is HELL. People are killed. Survivors remain damaged for the rest of their lives. All too often the wealthy profit while everyone suffers poverty and deprivation.
In today’s time and age – living alone.
Women teachers having sex with underage students – you always will hear, “where were these teachers when I was in school?”
“Grass is greener” syndrome. Not exactly a real diagnosed illness but the overall idea that something else better is just around the corner all the time (whether it’s relationships, people, things, jobs etc) it’s not a great mentality to have.
People don’t appreciate what they have because of it.
Marriage. People treat it like a fairytale Disney movie. It’s not always butterflies and snuggles.
Being the ‘ride or die’ in a relationship that’s one-sided. Loyalty shouldn’t require self-destruction.
Being poor to the point you practically do everything to survive (Not to mention the thousands of people thinking they’d do in a zombie apocalypse when they can’t event purify water/learn basic wilderness skills)
Marriage
struggling, especially when you’re young. It was a little demeaning in high school to have classmates in bmw’s complaining about their first world problems when I didn’t have heat in my house.
Historically, the primary purpose of pairing up was the transfer of land and wealth, often accompanied by the poor treatment of women.
I strongly believe that the intense emphasis on romantic love in the media serves to reinforce a capitalist system centered around nuclear families, which in turn produce more consumers and workers. This societal pressure, I feel, contributes to rushed marriages and parenthood, ultimately leading to widespread unhappiness.
Furthermore, I find the concept of a ‘soul mate’ deeply irritating. We are, after all, simply more evolved primates on a cosmic journey, often behaving as if we possess greater understanding than we actually do while simultaneously damaging our planet.
Parenthood
Sexual assault that turns into a love making sesh. Yuck.
Making America Great Again
motherhood
Celebrities somehow being these aspiring examples of life hood—I do not get the celebrity worshipping culture.
Plastic surgery, Botox, fake lips, lashes etc
Growing old. I work in healthcare. It seems painful and miserable.
Being the cool girl who’s totally chill with everything. Spent years pretending nothing bothered me laughing off red flags and forcing myself to be okay with stuff I wasn’t comfortable with.
vanlife – living off social media clicks
Bed rest.
Influencers constantly posting about their perfect relationship. They make it seem like all relationships should be perfect and there should be no conflict whatsoever. Relationships/marriage is HARD. You and your significant other are going to argue and disagree at some point. It’s not always rainbows and butterflies. Especially, when you bring children into the mix. I can attest that your relationship will suffer with children. And that is NORMAL.
Communication is a key component to healthy and successful relationships. The divorce rate is so high nowadays because couples get into one fight and they call it quits. Find someone that you will choose to love and support forever. Like your vows will read “through sickness and in health” “through good and bad”. That is what relationships are about. Find someone you will choose to love unconditionally. Someone that you will want to sleep next to even if you’ve had a bad argument. STOP ROMANTICIZING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS/MARRIAGES.
Marriage and children. I think it is easy to see how cute babies can be. How fun a wedding can be. How cute and romantic “happily ever after” sounds without diving too deep into it. Many do not seem to fully understand just how much work can go into them and how complicated they can be either. At least I’m speaking about those I’ve grown up around.
Caring for a newborn.
The relationship Joker and Harley Quinn had was utterly abusive and lethal.
Public proposals of marriage. Can be very manipulative as it makes it difficult for the recipient to say “no” (at worst it’s a red flag for coercive control).
Work. There is precious little dignity in stocking Walmart shelves part time.
Consumerism. You don’t need all the shit you’re buying, billionaires just want you to think you do.
Cars. All these car companies spend so much money on advertisement and sponsoring car races to give cars a masculine image.
But they are just a machine. And they are driven in their billions or millions by women and grandmas as well.
Guys have been suckered.
Serial killers. Please stop making content around horrible people. Non of them deserve publicity.
Diamonds are still a thing somehow.
War or violence in general
Having kids
Mental illness
for the love of god, MLMs. You are not going to get rich with Scentsy or similar sales
Being a parent to a newborn baby.
No one, not even my closest friends and family, has ever made it look rewarding.
Children