When someone constantly interrupts or talks over others. It’s such a red flag for me. It shows a lack of respect for what the other person is saying, and it’s honestly just exhausting to deal with.
Talks about horoscope/zodiac stuff without prompting or even asking about my interest level. Like you’re allowed to believe whatever you believe but don’t shove it in my face.
Make fun of or criticize someone for not being able to afford things in a certain tax bracket, then them giving you unwarranted opinions. Especially when said person that is making fun of is still being supported by their parents.
Using sarcastic humor to “poke fun” at me in a way that is supposed to be idk, playful? We’re not in kindergarten and it’s immature / not cute even then
People who can’t put their phone down during a conversation. Like, I get it, you’re important and busy, but I didn’t dress up and drive across town to watch you scroll through Instagram while I’m trying to tell you about my day.
Getting their phone out during dinner. Had a first date pull this move and spend 20 minutes scrolling through Instagram while I just sat there. Like hello? I’m right here, and my pasta’s getting cold while you’re liking photos of golden retrievers.
Claiming that all these women want them and asking me to tell them why they should choose me or playing some “prove you want me bad enough” game. If the alleged other women even exist, I don’t care to play games or compete with other women for any man. Baby, I’m too old for that shit.
The one upper. If you’re talking about an injury, an amazing moment, an accomplishment, a tragedy—the one upper will always have a story to outdo yours. It’s always about them.
Acting rude to service workers. Last week I watched a guy snap his fingers at our waitress and talk down to her like she was beneath him. My attraction evaporated instantly. Like, congrats dude, you just showed me exactly who you are in under 10 seconds.
I’m not perfect, but I always try to communicate clearly/quick and often try to think about others. If people make it obvious they don’t share that approach….well, yes, I start to dislike them really quickly. People who just don’t answer (or like days later), neighbors who feel the need to start renovating for months without thinking of us while we feel guilty when we’re drilling in a wall for like 15 minutes, lol. Just a few examples.
Weirdly enough, be very forward with flirting especially sexual innuendo. Thats because i have a preference for long term/compatability types of relationship. Anyone who likes me too quickly kind of becomes a warning because if they didnt even get a chance to know you yet, it means theyre very attracted to your looks and thats going to be a bias in how they act and think about you – which i dont think is lasting.
When someone speaks badly of another person, especially when I did not ask. They usually end up being toxic and many times what they are telling me are not whole truths. I also don’t need them speaking ill of me behind my back, so I distance myself from these individuals.
When a woman I’m seeing openly says stuff like, “Ugh, I need to take a shit.”
Instantly kills it for me, every time. I get that it shows a level of comfort with me, but not after only knowing each other for a few weeks. After months of dating sure, it might not bother me. But when we’re still getting to know each other it just doesn’t come across well.
People that do stuff for you out of obligation, to make you feel better without actually showing genuine compassion. Massive pet peeve. And I’m about to distance myself from a few people cos of it. If you don’t wanna actually be around me and I’m just your reserve option, then GO 🗣️🗣️🗣️
Identifying themselves as a boss or bad B unironically, having an “I don’t need no man/men ain’t sh*t” attitude.
Yeah there are a lot of crap dudes out there and can leave a bad taste, but there are a lot of crap women too. If I walked around talking nothing but crap about women you’d not want to date me, goes the other way too.
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Have a penis.
who girl smokes
Unplug my life support machine. Bonus points if it’s on a “Clapper.”
Chew with their mouth open.
Conspiracy theories. No joke broke up over this after 3 years
When someone constantly interrupts or talks over others. It’s such a red flag for me. It shows a lack of respect for what the other person is saying, and it’s honestly just exhausting to deal with.
Toot their own horn
Being a jerk to his parents.
Licking their knife during a meal
Not washing their hands after using the toilet
Small, unnecessary lies. Don’t lie, but especially don’t lie for dumb reasons.
Talks about horoscope/zodiac stuff without prompting or even asking about my interest level. Like you’re allowed to believe whatever you believe but don’t shove it in my face.
Be a Trump supporter
Treat service staff badly. Shows me exactly what kind of person you are.
Being entitled
Talking bad about others just to seem interesting
Be a hoe/slut/easy/loose for all to see.
I want my woman to be proper in public, dirty in private.
subtle racism.
Selfishness. If you can’t put anybody else before yourself, how are you meant to be a good partner?
When they think pissing me off is a game.
Doesn’t cover their nose/mouth when they sneeze
Smell.
When someone tries way too hard to be cool or trendy, and you can practically see the effort sweating off them.
Walking with their feet pointed out. Not for any medical reason, that’s just their walk.
Rude or yells at employees, like wait staff.
Smoking.
Littering.
Be racist
Smokers, smacking their lips while eating.
Rudeness to service people, like wait staff.
Indifference or cruelty to animals.
Edit: also, assuming kindness is a weakness.
chew gum. period.
Something they don’t: Oral hygiene. Bad breath is a major deal breaker for me.
Make fun of or criticize someone for not being able to afford things in a certain tax bracket, then them giving you unwarranted opinions. Especially when said person that is making fun of is still being supported by their parents.
Using sarcastic humor to “poke fun” at me in a way that is supposed to be idk, playful? We’re not in kindergarten and it’s immature / not cute even then
People who can’t put their phone down during a conversation. Like, I get it, you’re important and busy, but I didn’t dress up and drive across town to watch you scroll through Instagram while I’m trying to tell you about my day.
All the single people describing the reason they are such with their trivial gripes🤣💀
Be the loudest in the room and/or smell bad
Small, pointless lies—those are the worst. Just don’t lie, period. But especially don’t lie over dumb stuff that doesn’t even matter.
Lie
Promote extremist views of any kind, bonus points if doing so without allowing the existence of any other opinions.
When people use righteous indignation as a way to feel morally superior or to shame others.
Having a gross looking tongue — like, any color other than pink. Gak!
judging ppl by the way they look. like why? 🥲
Getting their phone out during dinner. Had a first date pull this move and spend 20 minutes scrolling through Instagram while I just sat there. Like hello? I’m right here, and my pasta’s getting cold while you’re liking photos of golden retrievers.
graping jokes…like it’s not funny ur just a creep
using reddit 🥀 ts pmo
Claiming that all these women want them and asking me to tell them why they should choose me or playing some “prove you want me bad enough” game. If the alleged other women even exist, I don’t care to play games or compete with other women for any man. Baby, I’m too old for that shit.
People who say “buh-bye”. I cringe every time.
bite their toe nails
Chewing gum loudly, you don’t need to open your mouth to chew
Turning on the faucet and wandering away. I’m like, seriously?!
Exist
Chewing with their mouth open and/or slapping their gums while eating.
Spits on the sidewalk, out a car window etc just spits anywhere in general in a public setting.
Condescending tone or comments.
The one upper. If you’re talking about an injury, an amazing moment, an accomplishment, a tragedy—the one upper will always have a story to outdo yours. It’s always about them.
Brag and act like you’re better than everyone.
Narcissistic behavior. With a passion, I hate it.
Constantly a “victim” but will never change their ways even if they are setting themselves up for failure.
Like me.
Constant white lies, claiming credit for something others did, and people who talk too much with their hands.
Light up a smoke!! Grrross!!
Words don’t match the actions
Casual sexism/racism/bigotry under the guise of ‘jokes’
Acting rude to service workers. Last week I watched a guy snap his fingers at our waitress and talk down to her like she was beneath him. My attraction evaporated instantly. Like, congrats dude, you just showed me exactly who you are in under 10 seconds.
Getting hit with a shovel.
If someone tells me to do so in a prompt.
Use Reddit
Blow nose at group table when eating…… then look at it to verify that it is indeed booooogers
I’m not perfect, but I always try to communicate clearly/quick and often try to think about others. If people make it obvious they don’t share that approach….well, yes, I start to dislike them really quickly. People who just don’t answer (or like days later), neighbors who feel the need to start renovating for months without thinking of us while we feel guilty when we’re drilling in a wall for like 15 minutes, lol. Just a few examples.
Acting like they’re better than everyone else. Instant ick.
Someone who doesn’t look at you when you’re talking.
Interrupt a conversation. Especially when you just walk in the room….. You’re not that important.
Gossip.
Lose their temper at something so small.
Being rude to customer service and waiters. Oh and being mean to animals
Weirdly enough, be very forward with flirting especially sexual innuendo. Thats because i have a preference for long term/compatability types of relationship. Anyone who likes me too quickly kind of becomes a warning because if they didnt even get a chance to know you yet, it means theyre very attracted to your looks and thats going to be a bias in how they act and think about you – which i dont think is lasting.
Bad smell
Talking too much
When your whole personality is your car. It’s already enough if your profile picture is your fucking car.
Ask me to lend money because of their consume desires.
When someone speaks badly of another person, especially when I did not ask. They usually end up being toxic and many times what they are telling me are not whole truths. I also don’t need them speaking ill of me behind my back, so I distance myself from these individuals.
Being transphobic
People who do the silent treatment.
Chew with their mouth open
Smoking
Not brushing their teeth before going to bed.
“Got a light?”
Being rude to service workers.
If you can’t treat a waiter or cashier with basic respect, I’m out. No second chances.
Being rude to waitstaff or anyone in a service job
Use narcotics, including tobacco 🤮
showing no dignity of labour. yes money matters, but on a basic human level, treat everyone the same and have some respect for everybody’s work.
Ask how youre doing and then ask for a loan
When a woman I’m seeing openly says stuff like, “Ugh, I need to take a shit.”
Instantly kills it for me, every time. I get that it shows a level of comfort with me, but not after only knowing each other for a few weeks. After months of dating sure, it might not bother me. But when we’re still getting to know each other it just doesn’t come across well.
People who do not tio. Men who call themselves “nice”
Hot and cold behaviour really turned me off when I was dating.
Hiding there phone like it’s a crack pipe
Not washing their hands.
I mean after the whole COVID era, idk how people still can use the restroom and not wash their hands.
Get unnecessarily angry at small things
Is a religious person or shows religious symbol in public
Votes conservative or “independents” instead of left-leaning parties
Has children
Doesn’t believe women
Being messy. Just EW.
For me a usual first date is dinner or lunch or coffee . If my date is rude to the staff its a huge no no for me …
People that do stuff for you out of obligation, to make you feel better without actually showing genuine compassion. Massive pet peeve. And I’m about to distance myself from a few people cos of it. If you don’t wanna actually be around me and I’m just your reserve option, then GO 🗣️🗣️🗣️
Chew on their feet 😒🤮
Talk with their mouth full of food GROSS
Smoke a cigarette
Identifying themselves as a boss or bad B unironically, having an “I don’t need no man/men ain’t sh*t” attitude.
Yeah there are a lot of crap dudes out there and can leave a bad taste, but there are a lot of crap women too. If I walked around talking nothing but crap about women you’d not want to date me, goes the other way too.
Look down at me like a piece of shit on a shoe
yung nag c-cancel ng plans just because they don’t feel like it