Edit: These are so heart warming. Thanks for sharing!
What is something your partner does for you everyday or every week that they do just for you? They mostly get nothing out of it except to make you happy.
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Edit: These are so heart warming. Thanks for sharing!
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There’s stuff we both do for each other without expecting anything in return, like the one who gets up first brings the other coffee in bed, or surprise treats from the grocery store just because.
Almost almost every day since we met in August last year, he’s made me dinner and has had it ready when I get home from work. The thoughtfulness is really what made me fall for him.
He refills my coffee machine. He did it once, and I told him that it was very nice of him. Now it’s something he does everyday. He doesn’t drink coffee regularly, and never hot coffee. It’s just for me. 🥰
Cooking dinner.
He rubs my back as I fall asleep. We call it
”rubbings”
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My husband makes me fresh orange juice every morning and every evening he makes sure that my water glass has plenty of ice.
He keeps my tumbler filled with my preferred ratio of ice and water all day.
He refills my water bottle every morning
He scratches my back every night until I fall asleep, without fail. Even if we’re fighting 🫶🏻
Oh so many things. But I’ve been falling asleep on the couch a lot lately due to pregnancy and I always wake up with a blanket on me. It doesn’t seem like much but it’s such a sweet thing to do.
He drives every time we go out as a family or just him and I. I have bad anxiety behind the wheel and he gets it.
If he wakes up before me, he brings me a coffee in bed.
Wakes up 40 minutes before I do so he can get the dogs taken care of, makes me breakfast and lunch for work, and has my morning coffee ready the way I like it in my favorite Christmas mug (I love Christmas)!
In the late spring/early summer he sets it up outside on the patio set since I prefer to start my mornings outdoors.
He does this every single day!
Snuggles me to sleep. And gives me a kiss every time I want one with all the patience in the world. He has never ended a kiss first.
Washes my back when we shower together.
He rubs magnesium lotion on my feet before we go to bed🥰 i never thought anyone would ever love me like that
Reading this makes me realise my husband literally does nothing for me 🥴 It’s one for him and all for him ..
He blow dries my hair after I wash it! My arms are very thankful.
I can’t think of one thing…. Everyone’s comments are so sweet and makes me rethink a lot lol
He’s a morning person and I’m a night owl so he always does the dog’s morning walk and feeds her and the cats.
He puts loose chance in my jacket pockets. I have anxiety and even medicated being out in the world sometimes overwhelms me. Jiggling change in my pockets has always helped, it was something I did unconsciously until he asked about it once. Since then he always makes sure I have loose change to stress jiggle.
I brought my girls (dogs) into the marriage and he loves them with all his heart. One of them passed last September and he was so heartbroken. He does everything for them, medicines, vet visits, anything they need. I don’t need to worry about them when I travel because I know how much he does.
Brings me a homemade latte every morning right about when my alarm goes off 🥹
My husband makes me coffee every single day and puts it on my work desk right before I wake up. I wake up to a warm cup of coffee every single day. It’s a hug waiting for me. ❤️
Makes me a coffee and brings it to me in bed first thing every workday. Packs me a lunch for work. Makes me something for breakfast every workday.
We have a nightly routine he fills my water, brings my glasses lays out my pjs sometimes, turns my fan on, etc
Grabs me a Dutch brothers sticker in the first Wednesday of the month.
My guy knows the spot by my right shoulder blade that consistently hurts. He’ll always come up behind me and start massaging it, taking the pain away
Lots of things! Makes me a coffee most mornings (and if they’re leaving before I’m awake, then they’ll just refill the machine for me so all I have to do is press a button). Refills my bottle with cold water every night. Random oral sex without asking for anything in return. Set their alarm a tiny bit earlier to have extra “cuddle time” every morning. Makes me dinner multiple times a week.
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He makes me grilled cheese when we stay up late watching movies on the weekend. He cuts it into two triangles and brings it to me on the couch on a pretty plate with a napkin 💕 It’s such a little thing to him and such a huge one to me. It makes me disproportionately happy, literally giddy.
He makes me coffee and breakfast. And lunch. And he cooks most of the dinners too. I joke that I’m his sous chef!
He eats me out 💀 he gets nothing out of it but getting to see my enjoyment and asks for nothing in return. Sometimes it leads to more, but there’s plenty of times it doesn’t and he’s ok with that. It was one of the first signs to me that he was a keeper. I love my certified eater lmfao
She keeps all our finances in perfect order. I don’t worry about crap – I’m 67M and I still get lunch money! She makes me happy every moment of every day.
My husband leaves me a post it somewhere to tell me he loves me and he’s proud of me. Sometimes it’s on my sink, sometimes my desk, sometimes on the front door so I see it when I take the dog for a walk… it’s always somewhere. Always.
On the weekends he wakes up before me. I wake up to tea next to my bed and cookies next to it. If he ever sees I’m a bit sad we end up at the plant store of the fabric store. He isn’t a plant person but he waters my plants when I’m busy without me asking because he doesn’t want me to worry about it. He gives me hugs and kisses through the day when we are home. If he is ever having a super busy week he makes a list of everything he has to do. He will always write give her hugs atleast three times. And under give her kissed atleast 4 times. He likes to go to the store and bring me back a candy as a surprise. If I have cramps he stands behind me and just starts rubbing my lower back. He makes sure my heat packs get charged.
Smoooothie time!! I never eat breakfast and he realized I’d always drink a smoothie if he made one. Now I get one delivered to bed every morning. I’ve been Pavlov’d into smoothies and now I can’t start my day without one.
My partner wraps me in my towel after I shower. Even when he’s doing something else, he’ll run over to make sure he’s on time, lol.
He brings me tea and toast every morning 😊
He taught himself how to properly clean and season my cast iron skillets. #TeamDishSoap
I’m incapable of coherent thought in the mornings. Like, cave woman grunts are the extent of my ability, and you could ask me 2+2 and I’ll wail in defeat and hide under the covers. When I started dating my partner, I told him this, and like so many people I’ve met, he initially thought I was exaggerating for comedic effect. Nope. I’m helpless before coffee.
Six years in, and he brings me coffee if he’s up before me. He makes it exactly how I like it, and brings a little breakfast biscuit or little nibble with it. There is more intimacy and love in that simple act between us than any grand gesture I could ever dream up. He knows me. I don’t have to explain why I need it or how I’d prefer it. It makes my whole day start from a place where I feel seen and cared for.
She comes in and wakes me up (sometimes with a song and opening my blinds) to make sure I get up on time in the morning.
Oh my god massages. He does such good massages. Not painful, not too light, just right. lol. It’s awesome, and he’s perfect
now-husband and i do “fiancée fridays” which was a gimmick i started as a way to ask for boba (i was addicted to one of the drinks at our local place). he never wants a little treat half as bad as i do, but he goes out and brings me something without complaint once a week. he does a lot of other little things for me more sporadically, but that comes to mind in particular. 🙂
A lot of things but when he notices I have a bad day he will run out to get candy for me. And will be OK with my ridiculously specific but also vague cravings for candy xD.
He fills my vitamin/supplement case every week because i always forget to
Okay not everyday or week, but maybe monthly – he offers to give me foot rubs and he has a big disliking to anything feet related. Even looking at feet grosses him out.
On the weekends, my husband lets me sleep in if he’s not working and takes care of the baby until I wake up. As soon as I wake up he starts getting the kitchen cleaned up and offers me breakfast. (I say offers because 9/10 I won’t eat breakfast)
Every day, he calls me and starts the conversation with “Baby Love!”
Kisses my forehead before he leaves for work in the morning. He works two hours before I even have to get up for my job lol
He makes sure I’m fed and watered like his plants lol 😂
My husband is currently standing outside in his underwear to fart so he doesn’t smell up the living room. It’s how I know he loves me 🥰
He heats up my socks before going to bed because for some reason my feet are always freezing
My partner makes me coffee every morning no matter what. It’s the best
He would fill my water bottle and drop me to office once in a while…
You guys are so fortunate to have someone who cares! Hold on for dear life!
He gives me a foot rub. The best foot rubs!
Literally anything I can ask him to do. Happily. He always responds with, “anything for you, sweetheart.” And he means it.
But also, before he goes to work every morning, he kisses me and says I love you and then sends me sweet texts once he gets to work. 10 years into marriage.
I love it here.
Rubs my back and feet and gives me a pedicure
Makes me eggs and toast for breakfast at least 3x per week. He’s done it since the day we met 6 years ago, some days it’s super fancy w/ added bacon or apple butter and fruit, some days it’s just plain old eggs and toast. Both ways are much appreciated and somehow always equally delicious.
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He makes sure all my fav electronics are charged (headphones, eye massager, back massager etc). I honestly didn’t even know he was doing that until I told him how long my battery lasted on my headphones and how I was about to write a 5 star review and he told me makes sure they are charged. It was so sweet.
Makes supper; I can cook but he loves cooking
He makes me coffee. Not every morning, but at least a couple times a week. We work on very different schedules, so usually only when we have days off together. But sometimes I’ll get up for work and find the coffee maker filled with fresh water and coffee grounds, ready for me to just press a button.
I have such a hard time getting up in the morning, and making coffee is the first thing I do every day. Waking up to the smell of a fresh pot drifting upstairs into my nostrils is always a great start to the day. I hope he knows how much I appreciate this simple act of love.
Buys me food lol
When he would go on work trips he’d always bring me souvenirs ranging from stickers to bottles and postcards
He turns off my bedside lamp for me
He sets out my mug next to the coffee pot. (I usually have first coffee later than he) and the mug always “matches” his mug. Always. If it’s a theme set or just making sure they are the same color. I think it’s cute.
Nothing.
Makes me breakfast every morning ☺️
My husband puts a dental cleaner tablet in my mouthguard case if I get busy and forget. Not the most romantic thing lol, but it’s a little thing that means a lot. He notices and cares. It makes me feel taken care of.
Makes me scrambled eggs on weekends. They’re seriously the best scrambled eggs I’ve ever had. I told him that, and he ran with it. Couldn’t be happier with this situation.
The dishes. All of them every day without fail.
He writes me a little note every day before he leaves for work. I always find it when I wake up <3
he carries around my cute girly lunch box in front of all of our coworkers with no shame 😂
So many things, but he comes and tucks me into bed every night because I love it.
When we first started dating and we would get into an uber or didi I would always do a bit about I CANT BELIEVE I HAVE TO OPEN MY OWN DOOR???
I think I did it a handful of times and now he just gets a big cheeky grin and always opens my door for me. It’s something so little and lovely and it makes me smile every time. He’s the best. I love him.
I told him once that winking can be really sexy, so now he does a flirty wink at me sometimes. It’s so cute that he puts in the effort to that degree 🥲 he does all kinds of amazing things for me but that such a little small thing that he remembered ❤️
He have a 10min snoozealarm for morningcuddles even if I’m awake or not, he just cuddles up to me for that extra 10min snooze and 95% of time a morningkiss before he leave.
He gets up 30mi before me.
Those 5% with no kiss is when I’m sick and I don’t want him to get sick too.
makes me laugh uncontrollably in one way or another
so i start off my day smiling & go to bed smiling, fills up my water bottle/grabs me food, calls me randomly in the day just to show me cool things/ask me how my day is going (swear this makes me smile every time i see his name light up on my phone), always just gets up and helps because i’m horrible at asking for help myself, etc
Honestly my husband is the most nurturing person I’ve known. His love language is acts of service with a combination of feeding. He will go out of his way and make coffee, buy coffee and special creamers, get different treats of food. Surprise me with dinner and desserts. He’ll also see I’m absolutely done with stress from work and surprise me with a bath, or rub my feet. There are times he’ll surprise me with clean bedding after the bath. It’s honestly 100+ little actions he does that I’m beyond grateful for. He’s an amazing partner and my love for him is beyond anything.
On days we work from home together, my partner brings me tea or ice cream randomly throughout the day. Cooks me dinner when I’ve had a busy day and then cleans after. On the weekends he makes me coffee in the morning and if he’s dropping by the cafe after gym, he’ll get me my favourite gluten free cookie. Refills my cup with water and then reminds me to drink so I don’t get dehydrated. He knows that I’ll do the same for him. It’s a partnership!
I know it’s not e wry week, but every year even when money is tight he sets money aside so I can plant fresh petunias. They are my absolute favorite and make me happy every time i see them
Kiss me and my boob goodbye before work while I’m still half asleep and tells me he loves me.
He does tons of normal sweet things too, but this is my favorite
Literally not one thing.
he always turns on my heated seat when i get in the car despite the fact that i am perfectly capable. if he’s coming to pick me up, he’ll turn it on when he leaves to preheat it for me.
He makes sure to remind me to take my meds and tells me every day how beautiful I am. I guess it’s not much to some people, but it means the world to me.
Reminds me how important I am and how much I matter.
His calm and consistent expressions of gratitude, appreciation, and adoration have healed something in me I didn’t know was broken.
His love isn’t conditional, transactional, or fraught with expectation. He doesn’t give to get. He doesn’t coerce or control. He says what he means and means what he says. No games, no confusion.
He is the breath of fresh air I have deeply craved for so long.
And all I have to do is exist.
We keep slightly different schedules. Every morning, before my alarm goes off, my partner crawls back into bed with me. We cuddle and pet our cats and talk about our night for like half an hour until eventually I have to get up to pee and my day starts.
We have a single wide drive way but it 3 holds cars in length, I leave first and get home first ( we work same shift just different start times), he moved the cars so I don’t have too.
Every week when he goes grocery shopping, he comes back with a surprise sweet treat for me. It’s always on Mondays and absolutely makes my week :’)
Also checks in by 4pm for dinner and has it ready for me when I’m home. Just because. I’m so lucky <3
He works days. I work nights. When I get home from work in the morning he is already gone, but he makes the bed for me.
He lets me sleep. I’m a nightshifter but I don’t flip on my days off. So if he’s off work, he just leaves me alone until I wake up.
Every morning, my partner makes me coffee exactly how I like it—even on days they’re rushing out themselves. ☕ They don’t even drink coffee, but they do it just to make my day start a little better. It’s a small act, but it means everything
Turns my heated blanket on for me before I get home so it’s already warm when I get into bed
Washes my hair — giving me a good scrub with different tools 🥰 it’s so helpful since I have tailbone length hair and seborrheic dermatitis, as well as executive dysfunction from other conditions.
My husband doesn’t drink hot drinks, but he always offers to make me a cup of tea while he’s in the kitchen.
Literally not a single thing 🙁
He brings me a banana in bed every morning.
He randomly comes up to me while I’m working and massages my neck and shoulders.
He makes me an omelette for lunch every weekday.
He washes the dishes and takes out the trash.
He massages my calves every night cause I have restless legs.
Scratchies.
Neck, back, arms, wrists, backs of the hands, fronts of the hands (so tickly and so good), and if we’re naked I get chest scratchies, leg scratchies, and butt cheek scratchies.
The latest and greatest area to scratch is the bottoms of my feet. I can hardly stand it but it’s just so good. I’m probably part monkey.
Almost forgot; head scratchies 🤤
Makes me coffee without me having to ask. He’s like a coffee Genie
I have a favorite chocolate from the country where I was born, and I once told him how much I love it. Some time later, I found a piece of it in my bag when I arrived at work. After work, I asked him about it, and he just said, “I’m not going to explain it—you just have to accept it.” So I did 😄 We’ve been together for 8 months now, and I still sometimes find that chocolate in my pocket or bag 🥰
He makes me a packed lunch every day. He knows I don’t leave myself enough time and would end up either buying an expensive meal deal or not having lunch.
he restocks my cereal and jam so I always have my preferred breakfast even when I thought I was running out. It’s gluten free cereal that he doesn’t eat
Goes to work every day and lets me be a stay at home pregnant wife 🥺 I could not imagine going to work everyday like this
Filling up the water at night, washing towels and switching them over when he knows I want to shower that night
Sometimes I’ll look up from whatever I was doing and see a hot chocolate he made for me and placed nearby.
So far my Boyfriend brings me my dinner once a week to bed.
It’s not timed, it’s just that he wants to do something nice for me in a while and it ends up in that timeframe.
Yesterday was a day like that for example, I love him
He heats up my bath towel by the heater when it’s cold at night and passes it to me when I’m just about to get out of the shower ☺️
He puts his blanket over me when he leaves for work, every single morning, so I can have weight over me and not get cold
He fusses over me without being annoying. Just pours a big cup of water each morning and hands it to me, asks if I’ve eaten a meal yet, tells me to “drive safe” when I’m heading out the door, hands me his credit card to “go make sure [I] have something to eat” (I have alot of stomach issues and it’s hard finding food sometimes — btw, I have my own card, I don’t need his to do it ☺️), comes up and randomly gives me a hug because “I have a look on [my] face,”… just little check-ins on me without being overwhelming. He knows I’m very independent, so he’s being subtle about it. I’m not THAT independent — lol! He has no idea how much all that means to me, even though I tell him! 🥰
He wakes me up every morning by stroking my head softly, with a cup of coffee, because he knows I’m a grumpy morning person. If I had trouble sleeping the night before, he lets me sleep in a bit.
Puts toothpaste on my toothbrush every single day without fail 🥺
My husband makes me coffee (I’m old school & prefer a percolator) every morning before he goes to work. I get up an hour later and always have coffee. He doesn’t drink it.
We have a chalkboard in the kitchen for grocery lists & every morning he writes me a message. Always something positive and sweet.
He irons my clothes every morning before work, even when he’s not going anywhere himself, just to make me feel good and take my time – a small thing, but it warms my heart every time.
My husband always takes care of our doggos in the mornings and lets me sleep in, in peace, for a little longer and packs my lunch for the day. And always refills my water bottle when he notices it’s empty or low on water. It’s those little things ☺️
When I was burnt out from working 7am – 7pm as a teacher, he allowed me to quit and promised to financially support me until / when / if I decided I wanted to rejoin the workforce. He’s financially supported our whole household, from all the bills, to the mortgage, grocery shopping, insurances, pet insurances, pet bills. You name it. He’s allowed me to relax at home and figure out my next steps, and I have all of his cards in case I need to ever buy something for myself and I happily use them, to get myself anything I want. Clothes, shoes, makeup, furniture for the home. He supports my hobbies and always kisses me 5 times in the morning and 5 times at night and says I love you every time. Whenever I’m craving something he leaves work to go get it for me, no matter what it is.
He may forget to do the little things like fill up my water bottle or what not but in the grand scheme of things he’s a great husband and I do truly feel so so lucky. I keep the house organized and he provides the rest.
He brings me tea in bed every morning even when he’s late just because he knows how much I love it.
He makes me coffee every morning and irons my shirt even if he’s late and has little time for anything. It’s so sweet.
mines not nearly as romantic as most of the stuff in this thread but he says “oh hello there” in an exaggerated flirty voice every time i change in front of him
Packs my breakfast and lunch for work every day. Even on his days off he wakes up to do it❤️
He turns on our porch light if I’m coming home late. I park on the driveway and the light helps me see in the dark, plus it lets me know he cares for me. It’s such a small gesture, but makes me feel so loved.
Mine promises to give me a head massage for 10 mins straight, then falls asleep at the 5 mins mark. It makes me happy at first and then makes me sad🥲
Every time he goes to the store, he buys me something nice. Sometimes it’s a chocolate bar, sometimes flowers, sometimes a bottle of wine or the expensive coffee I like but refuse to splurge on. And sometimes it’s just a BINGO scratch ticket… it’s almost never something big or expensive but it’s always a little something for me.
He loves exploring new snack and drink options whenever he goes to any convenience store. But he knows I’m his total opposite cause I have my favorite “safe treats”. I tend to dislike experimentation cause if I don’t like something new, I will always deeply regret buying it and not sticking to my usual. Most of the time I just buy the same stuff over and over again until I say I’ve gotten sick of it and found something new to fixate on for the next few weeks or months. So whenever he gets new stuff, he always buys me my usuals AND makes sure I get a taste of whatever he’s having so I can enjoy trying new things while still being happy with my comfort snacks.
after getting ready for work he always comes back in the bedroom to kiss me goodbye before he leaves
he does both of our laundry every Sunday because he knows I hate folding
he does all of the dishes after I cook because “it’s only fair” [I guess he gets dinner out of this one?]
-he stays up for me to come home on my late nights even after working his 12hr shift just cause he knows I want to cuddle before bed
Ugh I get to marry him next year and im really happy about it
Whenever he has a breakfast team meeting he grabs a couple of those small pots of honey and always says ‘here’s your honey, honey’ when he gives them to me.
So much! But my favorite is he will make me coffee and fruit salad in the morning while I’m still in the bed so I can sleep in a bit more 🥰
My husband makes me coffee every morning and brings it to me in bed. We both work but he gets up about one hour earlier than me. He is also very chivalrous and opens doors for me and always makes sure I walk through the door first while he holds it open for me. Such a sweetheart! I also do things for him in return like make him dinner when he gets home from work, and make coffee for him at weekends.
Helps with the housework
Drives. I know people complain about drivers in their cities, but there is a special type of terrible driving in Baltimore, and I hate it, so he drives us when it makes sense, and I’m so grateful!
He also DD’s when we go out with friends, it’s so nice to have a partner that knows his limits and knows he isn’t into being the drunkest at the party. It makes it easier.
It’s so cliche but my husband opens the car door for me. Every single time. He’s done it for years. It’s really sweet, like even if I’m at the door before him and about to open it this man will SPRINT to open it for me lol. He also loves cooking so took over doing that for us almost every night. I also am always cold so when we go to bed, he throws my extra blanket over me on my behalf. He does a million other things, but those are some of the little things that I really appreciate.
Oh gosh, so many little things. Opening my doors. Driving me places. Fixing things on my car. Reminding me to eat. Pulling out my chair at dinner. He once zipper my boot in the parking lot because I forgot too.
There’s so, so much more. I’m trying to make sure that I do as much for him so he feels appreciated just as much.
He takes our dog out of the room in the mornings so I can keep sleeping.
If we wake up at the same time (generally only happens on the weekend), or he gets up before I do, he almost always makes me a cup of tea in the morning. As soon as he hears me get out of bed he’ll put the kettle on to boil water and then he’ll get my mug and tea bag ready. Usually he’ll pour the boiling water over the tea bag for me as well.
On days I get up first I make him his coffee so it’s ready when he comes downstairs. Some days it’s a race to see who can make the other person’s morning beverage for them 🙂
even if he is too hot for it, he will hug or cuddle me to sleep every single night because i get cold and everytime he gets out of bed to pee during the night he will kiss me when he comes back to bed, even if i dont wake up for it. makes me so happy
Let’s me be lazy and will get up and get my mundane things like water, a snack, my tablet, etc.
Brings me a little candy home from work every day.
Go to work.
My partner puts out my weighted blanket every night for me. <3
My BF (we don’t live together) constantly gives me gift cards so I ALWAYS have money when I want a coffee or a treat, a new book, lunch at work, treats for my dog, groceries, to take my kids out for dinner, etc. It’s so incredibly sweet and thoughtful and a wonderful way to provide when we’re not together. ☺️
My husband brings me coffee almost every morning.
He massages me in some form, my back, my feet, my hair, etc, without having to ask or wanting reciprocation.
He made me a cup of coffee before waking me up
He gets me chocolate milk when he gets gas and always tastes it to make sure it’s ok before he brings it to me.
So much. He refills my ice maker with water. He makes me coffee. He just notices things and does them.
He changes my bong water and deep clean it every week. I know it sounds immature, but chronic pain makes it hard to my wrists. I really really appreciate it bc i can’t stand a dirty bong.
He rolls my joints. He doesn’t smoke.
My husband tells me he loves me every single day, multiple times a day. Whenever we speak on the phone or when I leave for work – all the time. And right before we go to sleep. It’s pretty much the first thing I hear in the morning and the last thing I hear at bedtime.
He brings me glasses of water when I get too focused on stuff and he brings me some chocolates randomly 🥰
He will bring me electrolytes or chlorophyll with lemon in the morning. I drink a tall glass of either every morning. When I’m cramping he get me Advil, warms up my heating pad and rubs my feet. When I’m sick he brings medicine, water, orders whatever food I want. He’s a gem.
My husband has now passed but I used to work 3 twelve hour days 3 a.m. to 3:30 p.m. When it was cool/cold enough to wear a coat to work, he would put a candy bar in my pocket for me to eat on the way home to give me a sugar rush so I wasn’t falling into bed right after I shower. It always made me laugh but I had to tell him to stop because it was too much sugar for me. He then started to make sure I had a good supper when I got home.
He kisses me goodnight every night with these little repeated back and forth phrases that we built up while dating. He used to end it with, “I can’t wait to be your husband.” and now that we are married he’s changed it to, “I’m so happy to be your husband.”