I was just scrolling through instagram and saw a post of a girl making fun of guys doing air swings of a golf club because apparently she thinks we think she’d think it’s cool, but genuinely when I do dumb stuff like that I’m actually thinking about how to improve my swing and am just randomly zoning out lol.
Would love to hear what dumb (or important) stuff you think that girls think we do for them, buts it just something we enjoy/randomly do.
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Flexing infront of a mirror is up there
Ironically, approaching women.
I’m a huge introvert. I force myself to talk to strangers for practice. Getting into your pants is not in my mind, i wouldn’t even have a place to go if you said you wanted to fuck right now. And given a two minute interaction i won’t even have time to be interested in your number.
I’m 40, I literally don’t do anything to try to impress anyone these days
Lift weights. You see it all the time – “Women don’t like men with a lot of muscle, blah blah blah.” Fuck off. The gym is for the bros.
You know that thing where women on dating sites enjoy insulting any man who’s profile picture is of him fishing? You should probably know that in all likelihood that is one of the few pictures of that man when he is genuinely happy. That is why he picked that picture, because it reminded him of a time when he actually got to experience joy. He did not post it to show off his prowess at obtaining food, he posted it because it was a window into his happiness.
And no, I don’t have any profile pictures of me with a fish because my happiness comes from making cakes, so I use a picture of me surrounded by sweet pastries being happy instead.
I stay clean shaven always, I just like how it feels. People keep telling me I look more attractive with a beard, and that I mistakenly think I look best clean shaven. I know I don’t, I just don’t care.
Most hobbies that people associate with trying to pick up chicks are rarely about that. First that come to mind are fitness and cars. Lots of people (including men) incorrectly assume guys with louder or modded cars are trying to pick up girls, when in reality they’re trying to impress other car guys.
Like 90% of everything I do isn’t for women. Including Turkish oil wrestling…. that’s for us guys.
When you zone out and are in your head. Then a woman walks by in front of you, and they think you are staring at them.
Or when you are trying to avert your gaze by looking at the ground for your religion.They think you are a creep or mentally challenged.
Or not making eye contact during conversations. Because you get sensory overwhelmed. Again, they think you are mentally challenged.
Some loud cars. Yeah, a lot of them are idiots revving for attention, I avoid that because I know how annoying it is, but if I just accelerate fast and the car happens to be loud, that’s for me. I’m not into the obnoxious loud pops and bangs, but the way a nice car sounds and feels when accelerating…that’s my drug.
I have a fun car. It has a hood scoop and a wing and it has a tasteful exhaust which makes it sound like a purring cat at idle and it has pink accents that remind me of cherry blossoms and a stick shift. My inner child loves it and it’ll still be around when women that feign interest in me lose it.
Automobiles
I am a recovering alcoholic. I have been sober for a long time now, and bodybuilding is a large part of what keeps me sober. It gives something to focus on. Something to build upon.
However, women never tire of telling me “Women prefer a bit of chub to hold on to, you know” and similar.
Yeah? Well I don’t want you holding onto me regardless of chub levels. Leave me tf alone.
I don’t do anything for women anymore
Cars
Dressing well and going to the gym are the first that come to mind. I’m trying to look good for myself, not some random lady
I’m in my early 40s. Stopped caring about impressing anyone with anything quite some time ago. Life is better that way!
People will se what they want to see anyways- they are very selfish that way.
Building model trains.
I love how supportive this community is!
Was only having this conversation the other day in the gym. Mate of mine was there and he went “oof” and I was like what??
Saw a 10/10. I barely noticed, “I’m here for me, couldn’t care less if Katie Taylor herself came in, just here to train for me, get fitter for me and lose weight for me”.
Fishing photos. Not for you girls duck off
I enjoy strengthening my own muscles for myself, I genuinely like when my biceps feel stiff like I did something, or when I can finally hold something I wasn’t able to before. But of course a lot of men also do it for women as well, because conveniently the women find that attractive anyway.
Ironically, lifting weights became that, even though it started out as something that I did to be more attractive to women when I started college/university.
When it comes to going to the gym consistently, my “why” has changed a few times over the years, but after the first few years, every one of them has been for me and only me, not for external validation or to impress women.
Things women said to me:
Gym – Women don’t like beefy guys.
Reading – Women like men with more active hobbies.
I shave my head in the summer because I like the feeling. Some told me women like men with hair more. I never asked.
Touch the top of the door as I walk through it
The gym has already been mentioned.
For me it is also dressing well, I dress better during interviews and social events than during dates. Mostly because I want to project an image on social and professional events and I want to be authentic otherwise.
Building a life and career for a future woman, marriage and kids…FUCK that.
I spent over a decade in school and worked like a mad man so I could enjoy the rest of my life in peace. Didn’t do it for a woman and certainly didn’t do it for future kids.
When I’m walking behind a woman late at night, I cross to the other side the street. Not to put her mind at ease, that’s of no concern to me. I do it because I’m tall, walk fast & hate being stuck behind someone I can’t pass because she’ll get spooked.
Mowing the lawn. Its like freedom.
Cars, I don’t modify my car for anyone but me.
Don’t care about impressing anyone, just here for the self-expression and things that go vroom are fun.
At my age, I don’t do anything to impress women.
First, they’re not impressed.
Second, I don’t care.
Shaving for me, I shave exclusively with a straight razor so I cannot do it fast.
Therefore it became a moment of self love and reflection that I cherish.
Applied for retraining through a government program
Asked the church for help when my abusive ex cleaned me out
Pass gas. While yes the reaction we get from them is funny, but we just do it because we need to pass gas. When a woman tells me that she’s never “done that”, I tell her that she’s full of shit.
Working out, lots of women prefer dad bods over muscles and some guys do it for women…but many of us just do it for our mental and physical health.