As a woman, if I get drunk at the club I know if I go the bathroom I will be absolutely bombarded by compliments and friendship. Everyone hypes each other up, sometimes there’s photo shoots, sometimes there’s deep convos with strangers. Do men have that? And if they don’t have that sense of camaraderie at that specific location, is there anywhere else men have that open/safe space?
What is the culture like in a men’s bathroom?
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Literally none of that. Just go in, pee, wash hands, and get out.
You go in.
You pee.
You wash up.
You leave.
none of that in mens bathroom, you dont talk to anyone unless you know them (similar to outside the bathroom)
“Hey! Nice cock bro! High five!”
Said no one. Ever.
I might be offered some drugs but other than that…nope.
F all. And if somebody speaks to you then you have it in your toes faster than the lights going on.
There is no culture.
Literally not even eye contact
You go in and take a shit or piss wash ur hands and get out although I’ve seen a guy scrolling through insta while pissing in a urinal with the volume up.
Walk in. Pee. Look over the urinal divider. Compliment the dude’s slime canon but only if you mean it. Zip up. Leave.
> And if they don’t have that sense of camaraderie at that specific location, is there anywhere else men have that open/safe space?
Nope.
Uh… what culture?
Get in, get out.
[edit] – OK, quite a bit different in some gay bars, but I was assuming OP was asking about straight culture.
There’s usually none of what you mentioned in men’s bathrooms.
99% just go there and pee.
Maybe there is a rare comment like “dude, you pissed for like 5 minutes – yeah I had 8 beers already”. Done.
Came across with my boss’ boss once. We hugged after peeing side by side. Weird times.
We do a circlejerk on Tuesdays
…and then it’s sexism the one causing long lines.
If you at any point take or have a picture taken of you in the bathroom as a man, something has gone wrong. Nothing happens in there besides bathroom stuff. Not even talking. I’ve walked in having a full conversation with someone, not talked for the entire time we used the bathroom, and then continued the conversation after we left.
At first I thought this was ridiculous, and it is, but there is a culture. The culture is learned behavior of shut the fuck up, dont look at anybody and leave. That in itself is a culture though.
Men don’t interact in the bathroom any more than is absolutely necessary
No culture is kind of the point. It’s quiet etiquette.
No wonder there’s always a damn line for the ladies room! Y’all got a revolving therapy session going on in there!
That is nasty honestly. Hanging out in the bathroom is gross
This is why there’s a line for the womens’ room. You go in there and waste time.
Back in my clubbing days a lot of women would get in line at the mens room because the lines went faster and we didnt care if their were women in the bathroom lol.
I always wondered why the ladies line was so long. Apparently they are adding to the culture in there. I, for one, would love it to know while im about to piss myself the people taking up the bathroom were having a get together.
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaannnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnndddddd this is why the womens line is always so much longer and slower than the mens lol
we get in, do our business, maybe some swearing with the release of pressure from the bladder, wash up, and head out. if your at a sporting event, there could be some light conversation about the game going on, but that only happens while your doing everything else; you dont stop to talk and stand there. talk while you wash up, then you depart.
Your question about the safe space might be where we partake in our hobbies, the gym, guitar shops, comic book conventions, shooting range, golf range, but we compliment our contributions/accomplishments, not our appearances (though we might say “cool shoes” occasionally).
The bathroom is literally for pissing.
Head stays at eye level never make eye contact no talking unless you’re muttering to yourself you pee (maybe pick a random spot on the wall to stare at it as if it’s the most interesting thing you’ve ever seen) wash hands and go
No wonder the line to the women’s bathroom is ridiculously long.
There is not culture in the men’s bathroom lol. Why tf would I talk to people in there.
> is there anywhere else men have that open/safe space?
No. They were taken away from us under the guise of “it’s not fair”, patriarchy, discrimination, trans rights, and so on.
We used to have men only space.
If your me then you go in, stand at the cubicle with your willy in your hand and and repeat over and over “come on come on come on” for ages as you wait for your shy bladder to stop freaking out and actually let you piss.
Then I wash my hands and leave.
Old episode of Rosanne. She dressed up as a man and went into the men’s bathroom at a bar. Started talking and quickly realized that’s not the etiquette. “Oh, it’s like an elevator.” Exactly.
Enter & avoid eye contact
Find urinal that isn’t next to someone else.
Urinate
Wash and dry hands
Avoid putting my exposed hand on the door handle while leaving (for the people that skip part 4)
This question legit confused me.
But I suppose the answer is “avoidance”. You pick a urinal sufficiently far from others. You avoid eye contact and conversation. Spend as much and as little time as needed. If im in there at the same time as a friend, ill leave when im done and wait for him outside.
It seems weird to me why a lot of women like hanging out with strangers in the bathroom. I’d rather not interact with people in there.
Do your business. Wash your hands. Walk out.
That’s it. Small talk and camaraderie is reserved for outside the bathroom. If we gotta have a talk or hype session, that’s when you pull the dude aside. Not in the bathroom, that is the NO GO zone.
People take pictures or videos in the public bathrooms you go to!? Wtf is up with that!?! That’s really weird.
> I know if I go the bathroom I will be absolutely bombarded by compliments
do women know that these compliments are not genuine?
The only time I have ever felt “culture” in a men’s room is when I’ve been changing a baby (one of my babies, not a random baby) and they’re crying or being cute and another dad will comment in solidarity or support.
Other than that, it’s as if you’re alone even in the most crowded restroom.
“Everyone hypes each other up, sometimes there’s photo shoots, sometimes there’s deep convos with strangers.”
..why? Its a bathroom, not a therapy session.
You start a photo shoot in the men’s bathroom you most likely won’t be making any new friends.
Here’s a trans man saying he made better friendships in the bathroom in the club as a woman than in eight years of being a man, if that tells you anything.
https://www.newsweek.com/trans-man-broken-men-1817169