What is the gift your partner gave you that made you realize they don’t know you at all?
What is the gift your partner gave you that made you realize they don’t know you at all?
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What is the gift your partner gave you that made you realize they don’t know you at all?
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My bf gave me a bath bomb and a pink yeti wine cup for Christmas… I staunchly never take baths, I’ve never owned anything pink in my adult life, and I’d never had wine at that point. When I finally said “hey wth none of these reflect anything about me” he admitted it was a regift from his mother 🙃 no shame either! He thought it was better than nothing! It wasn’t!
Water bottle 😵💫
When he said sex was a gift 💝 then complained when I didn’t accept his idea because he said that I wanted it and so he was finally going to give it to me only because I wanted it.
heart shaped stud earrings
they were nicely made and pricey (for us) and I knew it was a good attempt from him but honestly the last thing I’d ever wear then. They were completely opposite to what I typically had on and I found it such a surprising choice.
This was when I was a teenager and I feel that our age contributed to the matter!
My ex put one of his old tshirts in a box then complained that I was materialistic when I was upset
Shoes two sizes too big
I’ve been quilting for years- many before I even met my ex-husband. For our last Christmas together, he got me a beginners quilting supply kit- full of things that I already had as I wasn’t a beginner quilter. Then he got pissy because I wouldn’t use any of it. I’d been curating my own supplies for years based on my likes & needs, so I didn’t need his Wal-Mart bullshit (nothing against anyone that gets supplies at Walmart, but he definitely got the absolute cheapest option and none of it would have lasted). It was definitely one more item in the list that finally convinced me to divorce him.
i collect rocks, flowers, cool sticks, etc. my ex (who was really lovely in a lot of other ways) wasn’t sure what to get me for my bday one year. i told him “a rock.” i wasn’t kidding or trying to be chill. i wanted a rock that made him think of me.
guess what he brought me? a rock that he’d drawn an ugly sharpie dude on years ago. it completely defeated the purpose. cherry on top, he said if i didn’t like it, he could give it back to his mom (who was a really shitty person. and he knew i didn’t like her) because she’d appreciate it. ew wtf?
My ex gave me a poem on lined paper with scratched out words that I had to beg him for. He didn’t get me any gifts the whole relationship, I should’ve left him. Finding my self love now. Our anniversary was Valentine’s Day and he never got me a bday gift and only got me kingdom hearts on his switch console which he got to keep when we broke up 🤣 dated for 5 years 😂 I bought him so much shit. Dude repayed me back by dumping me after I saw my cat die at the vet 2 months later, and 2 months after he dumped me he got a new gf and used my bank card to take her out and bought condoms and fucked her all weekend after their first date. I got the lovely experience of being homeless.
Okay I got one but it’s cute actually. I never wear bracelets, I don’t like the feeling and i wash my hands often so it would bother me whenever I wash my hands.
He gifted me a beautiful bracelet that matched my other jewelry “because I didn’t have a bracelet yet” hehehe
He planned a trip which included a lot of travel, plenty of hiking, and way too much outdoors at once.
Which would be fine if a bit painful on it’s own, but he scheduled it after a REALLY busy time at work, smack middle of short vacation that I’ve taken to recharge at home.
My first boyfriend bought me a new Xbox headset for a Christmas gift. We were together for only 3 months at that point, so I didn’t take it to heart. But I explicitly didn’t use the type he bought me because it gave me headaches, and I actually had him return it.
When he got me a floral romper, the complete opposite of my style. Or when he got me the exact same shirt I’ve worn hundreds of times around him 🤦♀️
An egg boiler, which he gifted to his brother and mother in the past, and they liked theirs. I hate boiled eggs.
I strictly wear silver, minimalist jewelery. My ex boyfriend would get me bold statement pieces – that were gold of course! I called him out after the first few pieces and he said he liked them and wanted to see me in more of that. LOL no thanks, dumped.
my ex took me to Iowa for a coworker’s wedding my birthday weekend. he told me my birthday gift was going to the Field of Dreams site since I’m “a bigger baseball fan” than he was and it was “just down the road.”
My ex-husband gave me a kindle. I love to read physical books and dream of having a home library one day (I own over 200 books already). He was a minimalist, though, and couldn’t stand it when I only had 15 books at the time.
My husband gave me a scarf. It was the kind that women wear to accessorize an outfit.
I have never worn one. I do not like them. Having hot flashes and having big boobs, a scarf would make me too warm, and it makes the scarf sit too high and it’s in my peripheral vision. I hate that.
I never wore it. He never asked why. He never bought me another one though.
An orange wool sweater.
My (ex) wife got me one of those candy bar bouquets for my birthday. You know the ones…different candy bars glued to sticks, then arranged in a “bouquet”. Popular at wal mart and gas stations
One…..it was 2 weeks after my birthday
Two…..I’m diabetic
That was one of the last straws before I left.
Someone who I dated years ago gave me douche. In fact, he put it in my suitcase when we stayed overnight together, and I didn’t find it until I got home. For those who don’t know douche it’s actually very bad for the parts that it’s meant for. A fact of which I have been well aware for years.
Nothing 😊 not even a card. He said he didn’t think I was materialistic. Turns out wanting to be appreciated and seen on my birthday is equal to being materialistic.
Chanel no. 5 😂
He knows I borrow it when I stay at his in-laws so saved up to buy me my own, bless him.
But I don’t wear perfume unless I’m going out with his mother. I have made it clear that I have no interest in perfume as a gift. I have a whole wishlist that I keep updated in case he needs any ideas. He knows how I feel about ‘designer brands’, especially ones associated with someone who used to party with Nazis…
It just shocked me, but I was grateful that he surprised me regardless, and wouldn’t dare tell him that I’d rather have had literally anything from my wishlist 😂
My ex gifted me an Apple Watch for my birthday. I had specifically told him I had no interest in wearing wristwatches and found smartwatches uninteresting and annoying; they have planned obsolescence, won’t withstand the test of time, can’t become functioning heirlooms, need to constantly be recharged etc. In one ear and out the other.
A waist trainer so I would lose weight