There are quite a few details of course, so I’ll try to summarize this as best as I can.
Me and my GF met in college, as part of a club where most of the members are now all friends. Our relationship has been totally great, she’s been very attentive and communicative, and she’s one of the kindest people I’ve ever met. However, I will say that we haven’t really hit any rough patches yet, so I wouldn’t say it’s an especially Strong relationship.
While 3 months isn’t a lot, it’s longer than any of my past relationships (which were in HS, dealing with a lot of closeted lesbians). Due to it being summer break, in order to visit she has had to come and visit/stay with me and my family, meaning my whole family both knows and likes her. She is a great person, I just feel recently that I don’t really see a future where I marry her, as I haven’t felt like we “clicked” in the way that I think I should with my partner. I enjoy spending time with her, but I don’t want to hang out with her all the time, or call every time I’m free. I kind of realized that I liked hanging out with her more as a friend, and my attraction to her has mostly passed. However, she really has done nothing to provoke this, as she has been nothing but a great girlfriend, so I feel terrible about it.
I really want what’s best for her, and it doesn’t feel fair to keep her in a relationship that isn’t equal. However, we also share our whole friend group, and I’m trying to avoid a situation where sides are taken or things become extremely tense. I just need advice on how to bring this up in a way that would hopefully hurt her the least. I am her first real relationship, and I’m trying to help her avoid the stereotype of first gay relationships ending terribly, but I’m also not all that experienced myself. Help!
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