I see how my female friends, family, and coworkers seem to have so many friends and I’m sitting here alone posting on Reddit instead of having a community who cares about me. I feel like I could vanish this instant and it would take a few days for anyone to notice
Dealing with prostate problems, I’m only in my 30s but I already deal with issues related to that, like I’ll be chilling and then all of a sudden I gotta pee really bad, no build up just 0 to 60 instantly then I’m running to the bathroom and barely able to hold it in.
Falling in love with someone that doesn’t love you back and having to somehow deal with all those repercussions and consequences while having to pretend everything’s okay when you’re really struggling.
That you think that she could be different and that she actually care but really they’re just like all the rest and only want one thing, it’s disgusting. They only want to use me for my body, literally sometimes I just wanna come home and talk about my day and my feelings, I’m more than just a nice set of balls and a wallet. Am I right fellas!?
Other guys… and I’m not being sarcastic. Generally men are less expressive of their feelings. As a 67M I can say with confidence that women are significantly more effective at creating bonds with other women, and a big part of that is their common ability to discuss things deeper than work, sports and weather.
I’m crazy about my wife, and my kids mean more to me than anything… but I would like more guy-friends just to be able to yack about guy things with other guys.
Being an average guy, no girl is gonna pay for the dates, your drink at the bars, your Uber ride to come to hookup and another Uber back home, there’s no double standards like “I want to be strong and independent, but you have to pay for my things; You also have to treat me like a queen, but I am not your mama, so I’m not gonna cook and clean for you, you are a grown ass man U should be doing all that yourself, but yes I am a grown ass woman but you still need to pay for my shits cuz I’m a girl and u a man.” Oh also, when women hit us we can’t hit back cuz they hitting us is swiped under the rug but not the other way around. We can’t lie and say “she forced me to sleep with her” or ” I was too drunk to consent” or ” I agreed at first, but I woke up and I regretted it, so I’m taking my consent back and I’m gonna call the police on you” believe or not I’ve had many regrets in the morning once I saw them without makeup and I REALLY regretted my decision….. Oh also, girls can call guys bald, fat and ugly and small dick, but not the other way around cuz it’s rude and not gentleman and misogyny and body shaming! How dare you!
Anyway, being a man is both heaven and hell.
( Heaven is because we men are truly independent and strong. I feel enabled being a man, cuz I know I can do anything in this world without needing another person. I could build a house from the ground up for myself if I wanted to.)
The draft honestly. Especially in the current political climate. I have a baby on the way and I just might be pulled from my pregnant wife to go get shot in the head in Iran. Pretty unlikely but feels like it’s getting more likely. The fact that it could happen to me at all is fucked up.
Not knowing how to read a woman’s mind, but expected to have the ability to do so, lol. I get the whole Mars/Venus thing, but there’s something to be said about clear comm’s as opposed to playing the guessing game. What baffles me is how they don’t communicate like that at work for the most part, but a switch goes off when they get home and want us to “know what they’re thinking” lol. Don’t understand that mentality and never will. I got lucky talking to a woman tonight who communicated very well and was kinda blunt, threw me off and made me realize it’s possible, lol. Not sure why that’s not the norm though, we’ll probably never know. Many a man on many occasion have been left thinking, “what did I do” and may never know because we’re supposed to guess, lol. We love you ladies, but throw us a life preserver once in a while 😀
Having to constantly be a therapist to women I’m with while they have emotional breakdowns while simultaneously having to hold in all my emotions because one tear can end a decade long relationship.
We always have to be strong. Please don’t misunderstand. I am strong, I will take care of what needs to be done. And I understand my roll In Life. But damn. How about someone take care of me sometimes.
The double standards, the demands and expectations not reciprocated.. or how we just gotta bite the bullet so often. How expendable were treated, and yet still expected to be there to help the folks that treat us as such
I think it’s pretty neat actually, but if it’s one thing that sucks it’s getting kicked in the crotch during sparring, and you’re out for minutes while the ladies just shake it off.
My boyfriend confessed that he hasn’t received a genuine compliment from anyone except me in over two years. As a woman I get random compliments about my hair or outfit pretty regularly. It made me realize how emotionally starved guys are for basic validation and kindness.
There was a gentleman walking around with a camera a microphone. He asked one simple question to only married women, “is your husband happy?”.
The responses were interesting. First, there was always a long pause before the answer. Quite a few women said “oh, we have never been asked this before”. And a good amount said “No”.
Constantly being seen as the threat. All the while im not thinking what im going to do to her, im thinking wtf am i gonna do if she hits me with a false allegation.
Another example is in my friend group there is this young girl 19 I enjoy harassing just like my own daughter 23 but best believe im worried someone might think im trying to flirt or something and try to stay cognitive of that.
probably feeling like you always have to “tough it out” and not show emotions. like you gotta be chill 24/7, even when things are rough. sometimes you just wanna talk about stuff or feel things without it being seen as weak. that, and people assuming you’re always fine when you’re not
How we push through with our daily responsibilities despite maybe having elbow and shoulder pain because at the end of the day we are relied upon to be providers. Sometimes the pain is unbearable but we suck it up and pretend it doesn’t exist.
When we got a “trophy”? We can’t show it off… Lexington Steele had a Gold Trophy and showed it in movies. That thing was a Chihuahua that needed to be mounted.
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Cant soeak for other dudes, but for me its comparing yourself to other men and feeling incompetent
I see how my female friends, family, and coworkers seem to have so many friends and I’m sitting here alone posting on Reddit instead of having a community who cares about me. I feel like I could vanish this instant and it would take a few days for anyone to notice
Unless you achieve something you’re insignificant. That means no help, support, love, compassion, or even pity from society.
Dealing with prostate problems, I’m only in my 30s but I already deal with issues related to that, like I’ll be chilling and then all of a sudden I gotta pee really bad, no build up just 0 to 60 instantly then I’m running to the bathroom and barely able to hold it in.
The fact that a women who never saw you can ruin your life
Falling in love with someone that doesn’t love you back and having to somehow deal with all those repercussions and consequences while having to pretend everything’s okay when you’re really struggling.
Hair growing out of my ears.
Double standards.
That you think that she could be different and that she actually care but really they’re just like all the rest and only want one thing, it’s disgusting. They only want to use me for my body, literally sometimes I just wanna come home and talk about my day and my feelings, I’m more than just a nice set of balls and a wallet. Am I right fellas!?
The societal pressure to accept astrology in public. #1 cause of heart disease.
the pressure to be a robot.
Our emotional well-being is widely disregarded.
It’s not easy to talk about our problems.
“My wife and kids would rather see me die on my white horse than fall off of it”
Just the loneliness of it really
The stoic thing is a real pressure and being expected to never show emotion while being a rock for everyone else
Not bad thing but hard one is expectations. As a man you are often expected to gain some success and it’s a bit scary
Other guys… and I’m not being sarcastic. Generally men are less expressive of their feelings. As a 67M I can say with confidence that women are significantly more effective at creating bonds with other women, and a big part of that is their common ability to discuss things deeper than work, sports and weather.
I’m crazy about my wife, and my kids mean more to me than anything… but I would like more guy-friends just to be able to yack about guy things with other guys.
A single false accusation can ruin your life forever.
Existing in a society that doesn’t give a fuck that you exist.
Being an average guy, no girl is gonna pay for the dates, your drink at the bars, your Uber ride to come to hookup and another Uber back home, there’s no double standards like “I want to be strong and independent, but you have to pay for my things; You also have to treat me like a queen, but I am not your mama, so I’m not gonna cook and clean for you, you are a grown ass man U should be doing all that yourself, but yes I am a grown ass woman but you still need to pay for my shits cuz I’m a girl and u a man.” Oh also, when women hit us we can’t hit back cuz they hitting us is swiped under the rug but not the other way around. We can’t lie and say “she forced me to sleep with her” or ” I was too drunk to consent” or ” I agreed at first, but I woke up and I regretted it, so I’m taking my consent back and I’m gonna call the police on you” believe or not I’ve had many regrets in the morning once I saw them without makeup and I REALLY regretted my decision….. Oh also, girls can call guys bald, fat and ugly and small dick, but not the other way around cuz it’s rude and not gentleman and misogyny and body shaming! How dare you!
Anyway, being a man is both heaven and hell.
( Heaven is because we men are truly independent and strong. I feel enabled being a man, cuz I know I can do anything in this world without needing another person. I could build a house from the ground up for myself if I wanted to.)
*Edited for typos and formatting.
The draft honestly. Especially in the current political climate. I have a baby on the way and I just might be pulled from my pregnant wife to go get shot in the head in Iran. Pretty unlikely but feels like it’s getting more likely. The fact that it could happen to me at all is fucked up.
Cant really have hours long sex sessions with multiple orgasms as females do.
Existence is pain. The amount of damage that can be inflicted upon me without me dying is astonishing.
How much time you got playa?
This man just opened Pandora’s box.
Those final drops of pee
Not being able to march into a foreign village with a sword, slaughter all the men and take whatever I want
Being blamed for stuff that happened decades before I was even born.
Trying to pee in middle of night with a hardon.
Not knowing how to read a woman’s mind, but expected to have the ability to do so, lol. I get the whole Mars/Venus thing, but there’s something to be said about clear comm’s as opposed to playing the guessing game. What baffles me is how they don’t communicate like that at work for the most part, but a switch goes off when they get home and want us to “know what they’re thinking” lol. Don’t understand that mentality and never will. I got lucky talking to a woman tonight who communicated very well and was kinda blunt, threw me off and made me realize it’s possible, lol. Not sure why that’s not the norm though, we’ll probably never know. Many a man on many occasion have been left thinking, “what did I do” and may never know because we’re supposed to guess, lol. We love you ladies, but throw us a life preserver once in a while 😀
Everything is our fault…
Nothing
Having to constantly be a therapist to women I’m with while they have emotional breakdowns while simultaneously having to hold in all my emotions because one tear can end a decade long relationship.
We always have to be strong. Please don’t misunderstand. I am strong, I will take care of what needs to be done. And I understand my roll In Life. But damn. How about someone take care of me sometimes.
Our clothes.
External genetalia.
Thanks for the perspectives.
Once you accept no woman wants you, it’s a breeze.
The double standards, the demands and expectations not reciprocated.. or how we just gotta bite the bullet so often. How expendable were treated, and yet still expected to be there to help the folks that treat us as such
When the pee stream splits into two flows during the morning piss or after laying down for too long
Society pressure
Nuts sticking to the side of our legs
Sperm cramps 😫
No prerogative to have a little fun 🙁
I think it’s pretty neat actually, but if it’s one thing that sucks it’s getting kicked in the crotch during sparring, and you’re out for minutes while the ladies just shake it off.
You are disposable and interchangeable. You can only derive value from being useful or standing out from the norm, you don’t have value inherently.
My boyfriend confessed that he hasn’t received a genuine compliment from anyone except me in over two years. As a woman I get random compliments about my hair or outfit pretty regularly. It made me realize how emotionally starved guys are for basic validation and kindness.
That kindness can be mistaken as weakness.
That said it tells you more about the person making the mistake.
We are being told to open up emotionally, by the same women who would make fun of us if we do so.
My balls are hanging more. I sat on them 4 times this month
the frustration of dealing with women
having two heads, and too often thinking with the wrong one
There was a gentleman walking around with a camera a microphone. He asked one simple question to only married women, “is your husband happy?”.
The responses were interesting. First, there was always a long pause before the answer. Quite a few women said “oh, we have never been asked this before”. And a good amount said “No”.
Not being trusted to be around women or children.
Wanting to watch the world burn but not having the will to light it up yourself
Constantly being seen as the threat. All the while im not thinking what im going to do to her, im thinking wtf am i gonna do if she hits me with a false allegation.
Another example is in my friend group there is this young girl 19 I enjoy harassing just like my own daughter 23 but best believe im worried someone might think im trying to flirt or something and try to stay cognitive of that.
Kindness can be mistaken for creepy behavior if you are ugly.
Other men who won’t take responsiblity for their actions and the other men who won’t step up when they see shitty behavior of other people.
probably feeling like you always have to “tough it out” and not show emotions. like you gotta be chill 24/7, even when things are rough. sometimes you just wanna talk about stuff or feel things without it being seen as weak. that, and people assuming you’re always fine when you’re not
Being responsible for everyone else.
Paying back the debt I owe women due to millennia of patriarchal privilege and oppression.
inadvertent testicular retraction
Females not believing you when you say you only want a friendship with them.
How fucking hard I work! The reward is always great but fuck it’s a lot of work!
Sitting on your balls.
Being judged as dangerous by default. I get why, but still.
How we push through with our daily responsibilities despite maybe having elbow and shoulder pain because at the end of the day we are relied upon to be providers. Sometimes the pain is unbearable but we suck it up and pretend it doesn’t exist.
Everything is your fault, even though you just got here and don’t remember doing anything particularly wrong.
Testosterone
All it takes is 1 lie…. 1 false accusation and your life is ruined.
Even if its proven in a court to be falsified.
Your life is still ruined
When we got a “trophy”? We can’t show it off… Lexington Steele had a Gold Trophy and showed it in movies. That thing was a Chihuahua that needed to be mounted.