Today a coworker called me.
I am an introvert and spend a lot of time either working or with my fiancé. It’s not that I’m not social I just am picky with how I spend my time and I love my finance and our time together. In addition to that I spend time with 2-3 friends or my distance relatives. But that’s essentially it. I don’t feel the need to have a bunch of random friends.
I’m 26 male, I don’t go out and hangout with people or go to the bars etc.
Last couple days at work I’ve been working with a guy. We’re both engineers and make kinda big money. We’ve been working on a project together and today he called me randomly. I was like “hey man what’s up, something wrong at site” expecting it was a work issue. The dude just randomly called me to chat and be nice. I was thrown off. I was kinda in shock. It made me realize how isolated i am. The dude and I talked for like 20 mins just as friends and about stuff. I never even realized people do that shit.
I feel like my brain must be messed up. What advice do people have? Is this normal? I was like awkward. I haven’t gotten a call from anyone just to talk as friends ever.
Edit: I loved that he called me. After the phone call I felt so good about myself. I didn’t mean anything wrong with him. I just didn’t realize people were just naturally nice to people. Idk
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Yep. Throws me off too…… I know this is some people’s life to randomly call someone they know to chat- my mind is blown by that fact, lol
That’s nice of him. You’re fine, but yes it’s normal for people to call just to chat. Or to hang out on weekends and outside of work. You see those people 8-9 hours a day, it’s good that you get along.
Good for you dude, it’s nice to socialize like that
Nothing is wrong with you! It’s okay to be you and to keep mostly to yourself and your group if you’re happy and content that way. If I’m being honest, in your 30’s and 40’s what you describe as your life now is how 80% of our lives are. Just add in some kids here and there and you’re and average American 30 something. However, it’s pretty cool that this guy is interested in becoming a friend of yours. IF you like him, feel it out and see where it goes. Sometimes it’s fun to have an outgoing buddy.
But yeah.. you’re totally fine!
Well you probably see that guy more than or equal to how much you see your fiance.
He likely is sitting at home alone too, and I mean mid twenties – life gets lonesome. What’s wrong with just calling your buddy from work and seeing what’s up?
You never know what if it’s the start of a serious friendship and he becomes the best man at your wedding?
Personally, I wouldn’t be afraid to call him back at some point randomly and just ask him how he’s doing, shows you don’t mind if he calls and it’s nice to have a Guy-Friend.
But I(24M) completely understand you dude, I absolutely hate people, I hate bars, I hate socialization, Lol, iam also very reserved and my philosophy – the less people know about my life. The better.
But! That being said, if I’m 26 and I find myself hanging out with no friends or anyone to talk to on my couch at home.
And a buddy from work calls. Alright, I’ll talk.
Normal. You need to expand yourself. You may find some good surprises
I have a coworker like this… she loves to send me TikToks and will randomly call me too. I’m not built for this lol
I’m an introvert too and don’t hang out with people often. I actually love phone calls because you get the idea of hanging out without actually having to leave your house. You just have to pretend that you’re talking to them in person.
I don’t know any guys that do this with other guys though. I call my guy coworkers and we just talk about life for like an hour. But I’m the one that calls them.