When I was younger, it was my chest area, and I was not blessed with it. I didn’t have a problem with men as I was very fit and small. I just looked at other women who were blessed with them and wished it were me.
I also felt I wasn’t the prettiest “down there” because men are quite focused on the porn industry standards. Those insecurities went away over time.
At the moment, I’m insecure of my little belly fat that I gained 😅. Once I have my energy back, I’ll work on it. I just have other, more important things on hand at the moment.
Not being taken seriously and/or having people think I’m stupid.
I had some really tough teachers when I was a child that did a lot to crush my self esteem and my self worth. I learned very early on that keeping my thoughts and ideas to myself was the easiest way to avoid ridicule.
And later in life I chose to go into a male dominated field with those insecurities so that’s been a steep hill.
Also, I talk and sound a certain way because of where I’m from and a lot of people don’t react positively to that and it’s associated with a lot of negative stereotypes. I had more than one educator, even in college, tell me I would do better in life if I didn’t sound like that. And for a lot of years I tried really hard not to. But I decided about 10 years ago that I wasn’t going to code switch anymore. If someone is more concerned with how I sound than what I’m saying that’s a choice they made.
But I won’t lie and say I don’t still worry about how I’m being perceived and what assumptions are being made about me because of how I sound.
That I’m actually not as smart as I think I am. Grew up in an environment where I was constantly berated when I didn’t immediately get something right when doing it for the first time.
Physical appearance from head to toe. I’m not what’s considered conventionally attractive, have a very definite mum bod, am not the tallest and suffer with keloid scarring. All of which make me super self conscious.
Its such a shame because theres so much more to me and I so wish people could see past it.
I am insecure about being insecure. I’m insecure about my intelligence, I’m insecure about my attractiveness, I’m insecure about my weight, I’m insecure about my social skills (autism), I’m insecure about having chronic fatigue and depression and being perceived as lazy.
my butt isn’t noticably big. unfortunately my own family made me feel insecure about that. now i feel creeped out whenever i try to do any glute-focused workouts. cause what am i doing it for? for myself or to please a creepy family member?
Health stuff mostly, and self-worth related to it. Both mental and physical. Also, being neurodivergent. I always feel like I’m either not enough or too much in comparison to other people.
I always feel like people won’t like me if I don’t do things for them.
Growing up, my mom lost all her friends when she became a mother, and my father only had friends who seemed to use each other for various skills. He was constantly doing favours and having them reciprocated, but I never saw him interact with anyone unless there was a “project” involved.
So I didn’t learn how to hang out with people just for the sake of hanging out. It always has to be a social connection with a purpose, like volunteering, or paid work, or that I’m cooking dinner for you, or whatever. Don’t get me wrong – I have volunteer gigs I like, and I enjoy hosting people for a dinner, but I wish I could just have the type of friendships where I don’t feel like I need to do something to earn your loyalty.
As I get older and my metabolism slows (plus I just sit at a desk all day); my stomach. It’s not huge but I’m getting a little pouch and I overthink every single thing I wear. I’ve been rotating probably less than 10 outfits all year while I’m out doing errands because I’m so self conscious.
I’m terrified that men are only with me because I’m attractive. There’s nothing about me but my face that’s worth anything. Evidently this insecurity is very visible to the type of men who would stay with a woman for years even though he doesn’t like her. Exhibit A my relationship experiences. Has yet to show me otherwise.
I think it’s that I talk too much when I’m in a really good mood or talking about something that’s really interesting to me. Of course, if the other person is engaging with me, I won’t be as insecure, but if the person is not talking as much as me, I will literally be so insecure and feel so bad about myself. I just have a lot to say sometimes /:
My time management skills! I try my hardest to be on time, but somehow I’m either late or right on the dot. People have almost unfriended me for it, and some hold a grudge against me. But if they walked in my shoes they would understand how hard it is to be on time. I sometimes even have the time to be on time, and it’s like I wait so that I have to rush. What is wrong with me 🤦🏽♀️
I hate my belly. I used to be so thin, and I’m not anymore after kids. I’m going to the gym 4x a week and seeing results. Can’t wait to get to my goal weight!
My lizard brain thinks I need to always be super productive (giving 100%, 100% of the time being the definition of success) and I have proven from time and time again that I cannot sustain that. I have also proven that I can swing into an addictive depression if I am not productive consistently. So I feel like I have constantly pendulum swung back and forth my whole life. While I am better at managing it now, I am always insecure about the effort I’m putting in.
My anxiety – it’s chronic and overwhelming. I feel it very physiologically in my stomach and in my breathing, so I’m scared to put myself in uncomfortable situations out of fear of something embarrassing happening (like getting a stomach ache or not being able to talk bc I’m short of breath)
My body dysmorphia. On good days I feel sexy, powerful, confident. On the bad days I literally want to put the biggest t shirt on and hide from the public eye forever. It’s only gotten worst after losing 30 lbs and I’m finally at my “goal weight” so there’s that…
My face. I’ve got a big ass nose, fat cheeks, no chin, and HUUUGE eye bags plus dark circles under my eyes. I’ve been told that I look both cute and tired, but neither of those things get you railed by a sexy man.
That people secretly find you annoying. It grows from being praised for being low maintenance and helpful, so you overperform and read every silence as rejection. The fix is boring but real: ask directly, notice who initiates, and stay where you feel calm.
My hairloss. I’m slowly balding despite everything I’m trying to do to stop it. It breaks my heart every time I brush or lightly run my hands through my hair, only to see massive clumps of it getting pulled out so easily
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My small boobs, mainly because my SO likes big ones
Why are you asking? So you can use it against me later?! Nice try! I’m not telling you. HA!
(My biggest insecurity is that I don’t open up about personal stuff to many people because I’m afraid they will use it against me)
When I was younger, it was my chest area, and I was not blessed with it. I didn’t have a problem with men as I was very fit and small. I just looked at other women who were blessed with them and wished it were me.
I also felt I wasn’t the prettiest “down there” because men are quite focused on the porn industry standards. Those insecurities went away over time.
At the moment, I’m insecure of my little belly fat that I gained 😅. Once I have my energy back, I’ll work on it. I just have other, more important things on hand at the moment.
My fucking spine slouch.
Used to be physical things, but I don’t care too much about that anymore.
Now it’s my laziness lol
Not being taken seriously and/or having people think I’m stupid.
I had some really tough teachers when I was a child that did a lot to crush my self esteem and my self worth. I learned very early on that keeping my thoughts and ideas to myself was the easiest way to avoid ridicule.
And later in life I chose to go into a male dominated field with those insecurities so that’s been a steep hill.
Also, I talk and sound a certain way because of where I’m from and a lot of people don’t react positively to that and it’s associated with a lot of negative stereotypes. I had more than one educator, even in college, tell me I would do better in life if I didn’t sound like that. And for a lot of years I tried really hard not to. But I decided about 10 years ago that I wasn’t going to code switch anymore. If someone is more concerned with how I sound than what I’m saying that’s a choice they made.
But I won’t lie and say I don’t still worry about how I’m being perceived and what assumptions are being made about me because of how I sound.
That I’m actually not as smart as I think I am. Grew up in an environment where I was constantly berated when I didn’t immediately get something right when doing it for the first time.
I’m fat lol. Pretty face though 😂
Physical appearance from head to toe. I’m not what’s considered conventionally attractive, have a very definite mum bod, am not the tallest and suffer with keloid scarring. All of which make me super self conscious.
Its such a shame because theres so much more to me and I so wish people could see past it.
That I’m a crappy mom – despite so much evidence to the contrary.
My agoraphobia. It’s difficult to not feel insecure when such a simple task of hanging out feels like being in a war zone.
I am insecure about being insecure. I’m insecure about my intelligence, I’m insecure about my attractiveness, I’m insecure about my weight, I’m insecure about my social skills (autism), I’m insecure about having chronic fatigue and depression and being perceived as lazy.
My arms!
my butt isn’t noticably big. unfortunately my own family made me feel insecure about that. now i feel creeped out whenever i try to do any glute-focused workouts. cause what am i doing it for? for myself or to please a creepy family member?
Health stuff mostly, and self-worth related to it. Both mental and physical. Also, being neurodivergent. I always feel like I’m either not enough or too much in comparison to other people.
I’m always paranoid about having bad breath due to an ex partner bringing it up .
I always feel like people won’t like me if I don’t do things for them.
Growing up, my mom lost all her friends when she became a mother, and my father only had friends who seemed to use each other for various skills. He was constantly doing favours and having them reciprocated, but I never saw him interact with anyone unless there was a “project” involved.
So I didn’t learn how to hang out with people just for the sake of hanging out. It always has to be a social connection with a purpose, like volunteering, or paid work, or that I’m cooking dinner for you, or whatever. Don’t get me wrong – I have volunteer gigs I like, and I enjoy hosting people for a dinner, but I wish I could just have the type of friendships where I don’t feel like I need to do something to earn your loyalty.
As I get older and my metabolism slows (plus I just sit at a desk all day); my stomach. It’s not huge but I’m getting a little pouch and I overthink every single thing I wear. I’ve been rotating probably less than 10 outfits all year while I’m out doing errands because I’m so self conscious.
I’m autistic and I often talk in a monotone voice. Because of this I’m worried I sound disinterested when I talk to people.
Impostor syndrome probably.
I’m terrified that men are only with me because I’m attractive. There’s nothing about me but my face that’s worth anything. Evidently this insecurity is very visible to the type of men who would stay with a woman for years even though he doesn’t like her. Exhibit A my relationship experiences. Has yet to show me otherwise.
That my relationship with my boyfriend of five years is platonic, and I’ve been holding out hope it will change, but it won’t.
I think it’s that I talk too much when I’m in a really good mood or talking about something that’s really interesting to me. Of course, if the other person is engaging with me, I won’t be as insecure, but if the person is not talking as much as me, I will literally be so insecure and feel so bad about myself. I just have a lot to say sometimes /:
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My fivehead and ginormous nose
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My acne. It’s not so bad, but it makes my want to hide my face in my hair when men are looking at me
my hair because it’s very ugly.
My time management skills! I try my hardest to be on time, but somehow I’m either late or right on the dot. People have almost unfriended me for it, and some hold a grudge against me. But if they walked in my shoes they would understand how hard it is to be on time. I sometimes even have the time to be on time, and it’s like I wait so that I have to rush. What is wrong with me 🤦🏽♀️
my forehead 🙁
My body. It doesn’t occupy as much of my thoughts as it did when I was younger. However, there’s more to be insecure about as I’ve gotten older.
Physically my butt I’ve always hated how small it is
Non physical I worry everybody hates me secretly
Im going to say or do something stupid and it’s going to turn people off and they will leave me.
I tend to lose motivation whenever things don’t work out the way I want.
I hate my belly. I used to be so thin, and I’m not anymore after kids. I’m going to the gym 4x a week and seeing results. Can’t wait to get to my goal weight!
Being perceived as lazy while I am unemployed.
My lizard brain thinks I need to always be super productive (giving 100%, 100% of the time being the definition of success) and I have proven from time and time again that I cannot sustain that. I have also proven that I can swing into an addictive depression if I am not productive consistently. So I feel like I have constantly pendulum swung back and forth my whole life. While I am better at managing it now, I am always insecure about the effort I’m putting in.
All the scars I have around my midsection from numerous surgeries. But that’s fine I can just cover them with a pretty tattoo 🙂
My anxiety – it’s chronic and overwhelming. I feel it very physiologically in my stomach and in my breathing, so I’m scared to put myself in uncomfortable situations out of fear of something embarrassing happening (like getting a stomach ache or not being able to talk bc I’m short of breath)
for me it is my eyes. they haunt me
My body dysmorphia. On good days I feel sexy, powerful, confident. On the bad days I literally want to put the biggest t shirt on and hide from the public eye forever. It’s only gotten worst after losing 30 lbs and I’m finally at my “goal weight” so there’s that…
My body, feeling like it’s not perfectly ideal. I know it’s common feeling and self love is sexy, so it’s still a work in progress.
My face. I’ve got a big ass nose, fat cheeks, no chin, and HUUUGE eye bags plus dark circles under my eyes. I’ve been told that I look both cute and tired, but neither of those things get you railed by a sexy man.
My body, mostly cause of my stretch marks or acne scars
That people secretly find you annoying. It grows from being praised for being low maintenance and helpful, so you overperform and read every silence as rejection. The fix is boring but real: ask directly, notice who initiates, and stay where you feel calm.
My hairloss. I’m slowly balding despite everything I’m trying to do to stop it. It breaks my heart every time I brush or lightly run my hands through my hair, only to see massive clumps of it getting pulled out so easily
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