Taking my grandfather’s love for granted.i never really paid attention to him never cared for him.he always loved me.thinking back now š I wish I could apologise to him or meet him again.
Not understanding what life was all about until in my late 30s. Nobody gives a shit how good of a human being you are unless you make a shit ton of money.
Loving a woman that consistently disrespects me and uses me and then once she sees I give up, love bombs me giving me hope for the relationship, and in conclusion wasting my time.
Not going to therapy for my childhood trauma earlier. So many things in life I missed out especially with dating because I was fucked up and didn’t realize it. Now I’m in my mid 30s and probably missed out on key life experiences that I’ll never get to do now, not to mention there’s a non zero chance I just simply will never be fixed in time to have a family of my own because I started healing too late. And I’m still grappling with being okay with that, go to therapy people.
not asking my mom more about her life before me. there’s so much about her I don’t know. at this point I’ve almost been alive without her longer than with her. but teens aren’t exactly the best at being unselfish, and with undiagnosed AuDHD it was even worse for me being in my own head all the time. I would love to get a chance to talk with her as my current self, hear more about her youth, her mom, etc.
Not finding myself before finding someone else to join me on a road I never charted…
Had I taken the time when I was younger to put myself first and figure out what life actually meant to me, id likely not have had to smash the giant reset button at 37.
We are raised to not be selfish, to put others first, to chase money, careers, material things and focus on retiring so when we are in our 60s, maybe we can enjoy the hard work.
Reality is
We should put ourselves first, in order to make sure we aren’t broken and lost, before we start trying to put others in our lives.
How much better we would be mentally, physically, and emotionally had we taken the time to make sure we truly loved who we were before thinking anything else would just patch the holes in our souls.
To stand back and realize that life is not about the destination but rather the journey.
To know that, if we are all supposed to be so unique and individual, then the blanket concept of the “good life” certainly isn’t just the simple answer for everyone.
I have had an awakening, and I find appreciation in the hardships and the storms I’ve suffered through. I’m not sure I “regret” anything…
But
I do wish… I was full of self before I became selfless…
Not doing two very important assignments during the past week because I decided I wanted to try and withdraw from school, which I realize is a process that isn’t simple.
Getting married young. I was 22 when I got engaged and 23 when I got married. I know a lot of people donāt consider that āyoungā for marriage, but in hindsight it was way too soon. I wish I had waited until I was older, I wouldāve saved myself a lot of heartbreak.
Also adding, for some people getting married young works and Iām so happy for those it works for!! It just didnāt work for me, and thatās okay
I tell myself āI have no regrets, because at the time thatās what I wantedā. I regret staying in really bad relationships. I regret not thinking more of myself when I was younger. I regret being such an introvert and not understanding it, just thinking Iām weird. I regret marrying a much older person and raising his 3 kids instead of finding someone my own age and starting our own family. So, yeah, I have regrets but theyāre more like pages of my book.
Not biggest but a regret. But downloading TikTok has been a problem. I can admit that Iām completely addicted to it. I get my news updates and political information from it. Also watch fun things like puppies, perfume, and travel videos.
HOWEVER, I spend at least 10 hours a day on the phone. Woke up at 4:45 am and scrolled until 7 am today. I use the app as comfort. Watch when folding clothes, washing dishes, first waking up or going to bed. I definitely dissociateā¦.
I guess it is what it is but I need to make better choices.
The reason I regret it because I thought we were going to grow old together but I kind of blame myself because I work too much but I did give her everything but I guess that’s why I messed up because she had everything that she wanted something else and she found someone else and I caught her and she got upset and blamed it on me
We were together 7 years and I’ve caught her guys have called me to my phone saying they slept with my wife and I even asked her about it and she denied it and I told her how did they get my number but it’s okay women hurt men like myself but honestly and truly I’m okay being alone because no one will hurt me again and I’m okay with it I still wish you the best and I still pray for her but what else can I say she moved on quick and to this day I don’t think I will love again I’m fine with it though I don’t want to date anymore because it’s not worth the heartbreak the depression I’ve cried so many tears I could fill up gallons and she never cared she moved on real quick
Sorry my English is not the best
I tried to have a relationship with my father for a few years but he didn’t wanted one because he has a new wife and kid and now I regret that I wasted my time for him
Being a dumbass. Should’ve been more serious about university, would’ve finished it by now. But honestly depression got the best of me and I’m still clawing my way out bit by bit. I’m still suicidal but less depressed generally. Anyway, all of this took a toll on my academic life, and now I’m 27 and still on my third year of univerisity. And I feel like my brain is degrading and I’m gonna have to work three times as hard to finish this shit. And after I finish I worry no one will give me a job since I’ll be 30 with no experience in the field. Ugh.
Not being a better Mum. Being a single parent is so hard and I wish I was more equipped to deal with it. Iāll always feel like Iāve failed them somehow š
Probably not taking more chances when I was younger. It’s easy to play it safe, but sometimes I wonder what could’ve happened if I had been a little braver.
Taking on a business partner whose personal financial shenanigans eventually destroyed the credit of my company and drove me out of business.
Because we were an LLC, the credit of the individual partners affected the credit of the company. And without discussing it with me, he went out and bought a massive money pit of a house and went in on an antique store with his partner.
He didn’t even tell me he had declared bankruptcy. Just literally got up in the middle of our second-largest client’s strategy meeting and never came back. They were loading the UHaul to leave town and he never told me.
I didn’t even know about his bankruptcy until I was trying to tap into the business’ line of credit, one I had never used, to buy out his shares.
“Sir, you can’t borrow on that because you’ve declared bankrtupcy?”
“What? No I haven’t.”
“Your business partner did.”
My company’s pristine credit vanished in an instant. Poof.
I managed to hold out for another 8 horrible months, but it’s impossible to keep a business open if your credit is in the tank. A $5,000,000 business that I had painstakingly built over the previous eight years, one for which I had worked weekends and pulled all-nighters, gone just like that.
That guy moved to New Orleans, found a job, lost it within months, and wound up in Meridian, Mississippi. Had to change his name and everything.
That was 24 years ago. It took ten years for my wife and I to climb out of the smoking crater that guy created. A $5 million business that I had painstaking
I’m a nice guy. But, even now, if that guy ever stepped in front of my car, I’m not sure I would hit the brakes.
I wish I had made some friends with some kids in the late 2000s and toured in a deathcore/hardcore band. I’ve always wanted to see the country even if it was just in the back of a van. Money doesnt mean shit to me, It wouldve been cool to just have the experience of going places I’d never go again, see people I’ll never meet again, and scream my lungs out.
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There’s a lot to unpack better leave it there I’m too last to type
Taking my grandfather’s love for granted.i never really paid attention to him never cared for him.he always loved me.thinking back now š I wish I could apologise to him or meet him again.
Not being a better caregiver to my mom.
Not being a good daughter to my dad until I lost him š
Getting married
Not turning my back on my family.
Missing moments with family thinking I’d always have time.
Not finding out ways to make money during my school career now I find it difficult to balance my life after school and looking for ways to make money.
Trading on the charts has also not been kind to me. Being scammed and losing tons of money.
Joining the military. Really when you get out or get to the point you have had enough you really get to see it for what it is.
Not understanding what life was all about until in my late 30s. Nobody gives a shit how good of a human being you are unless you make a shit ton of money.
Being nice to other people is a popular regret.
Live
Selling those apple stocks back in 2000.
Loving a woman that consistently disrespects me and uses me and then once she sees I give up, love bombs me giving me hope for the relationship, and in conclusion wasting my time.
Couldn’t save my boyfriend from suicide.
wanting to grow up so quick that i made decisions that affected a lot of aspects in my life
Too much responsibility
Thinking me and her were starting to be close friends only to slowly start realizing that she only uses me when others are not around or busy.
Opening up to ppl and being clingy. I still do but I wanna stop. Iām clingy to person I love
Not going to therapy for my childhood trauma earlier. So many things in life I missed out especially with dating because I was fucked up and didn’t realize it. Now I’m in my mid 30s and probably missed out on key life experiences that I’ll never get to do now, not to mention there’s a non zero chance I just simply will never be fixed in time to have a family of my own because I started healing too late. And I’m still grappling with being okay with that, go to therapy people.
Not finishing my education
Not believing my alcoholic dad that my mom was crazy and a manipulator.
Choosing pcb instead of pcmb
Meeting my ex
Divorced
not speaking up sooner about my feelings
Not trusting myself sooner.
Fighting with my mom a day before she passed away. Haunts me
not asking my mom more about her life before me. there’s so much about her I don’t know. at this point I’ve almost been alive without her longer than with her. but teens aren’t exactly the best at being unselfish, and with undiagnosed AuDHD it was even worse for me being in my own head all the time. I would love to get a chance to talk with her as my current self, hear more about her youth, her mom, etc.
the fact that i blamed my parents for every mistake that i made
Not finding myself before finding someone else to join me on a road I never charted…
Had I taken the time when I was younger to put myself first and figure out what life actually meant to me, id likely not have had to smash the giant reset button at 37.
We are raised to not be selfish, to put others first, to chase money, careers, material things and focus on retiring so when we are in our 60s, maybe we can enjoy the hard work.
Reality is
We should put ourselves first, in order to make sure we aren’t broken and lost, before we start trying to put others in our lives.
How much better we would be mentally, physically, and emotionally had we taken the time to make sure we truly loved who we were before thinking anything else would just patch the holes in our souls.
To stand back and realize that life is not about the destination but rather the journey.
To know that, if we are all supposed to be so unique and individual, then the blanket concept of the “good life” certainly isn’t just the simple answer for everyone.
I have had an awakening, and I find appreciation in the hardships and the storms I’ve suffered through. I’m not sure I “regret” anything…
But
I do wish… I was full of self before I became selfless…
Not buying $1000 of bitcoin when it was $0.009 per bitcoin
My first marriage, and not doing better in school.
Getting a car I really didnāt need. I just wanted a sunroof and some extra features.
Wasting 10+ years on my first love. We met at 13. I wish I knew just how much experience and life I was missing out on.
Not eating all the oreos
Not doing two very important assignments during the past week because I decided I wanted to try and withdraw from school, which I realize is a process that isn’t simple.
December 2010 I suppose to buy a Bitcoin for 2000ā¬ my ex wife convinced me itās a waste of money. I regret listening to her .
Getting married
Being with a man who constantly talked about his ex at the beginning of our relationship. It’s been hard for me to get over.
Not working while I was in school.
My stepmother told me sheād basically take all my money and I gave up. I could have found ways to protect my money from her greedy hands.
I stopped working for 3 years because of depression
Now, I’m unemployed and basically need to start over again
I know I need to heal, but the world will really move on, even when you’re sad
Getting married young. I was 22 when I got engaged and 23 when I got married. I know a lot of people donāt consider that āyoungā for marriage, but in hindsight it was way too soon. I wish I had waited until I was older, I wouldāve saved myself a lot of heartbreak.
Also adding, for some people getting married young works and Iām so happy for those it works for!! It just didnāt work for me, and thatās okay
Crypto trading and intra day trading
Joining the army.
I tell myself āI have no regrets, because at the time thatās what I wantedā. I regret staying in really bad relationships. I regret not thinking more of myself when I was younger. I regret being such an introvert and not understanding it, just thinking Iām weird. I regret marrying a much older person and raising his 3 kids instead of finding someone my own age and starting our own family. So, yeah, I have regrets but theyāre more like pages of my book.
Everyday this fucking question is asked.
Just fucking look at the previous post asking this same exact fucking question.fuck.
Not biggest but a regret. But downloading TikTok has been a problem. I can admit that Iām completely addicted to it. I get my news updates and political information from it. Also watch fun things like puppies, perfume, and travel videos.
HOWEVER, I spend at least 10 hours a day on the phone. Woke up at 4:45 am and scrolled until 7 am today. I use the app as comfort. Watch when folding clothes, washing dishes, first waking up or going to bed. I definitely dissociateā¦.
I guess it is what it is but I need to make better choices.
The reason I regret it because I thought we were going to grow old together but I kind of blame myself because I work too much but I did give her everything but I guess that’s why I messed up because she had everything that she wanted something else and she found someone else and I caught her and she got upset and blamed it on me
We were together 7 years and I’ve caught her guys have called me to my phone saying they slept with my wife and I even asked her about it and she denied it and I told her how did they get my number but it’s okay women hurt men like myself but honestly and truly I’m okay being alone because no one will hurt me again and I’m okay with it I still wish you the best and I still pray for her but what else can I say she moved on quick and to this day I don’t think I will love again I’m fine with it though I don’t want to date anymore because it’s not worth the heartbreak the depression I’ve cried so many tears I could fill up gallons and she never cared she moved on real quick
Breaking up with a girl who truly loved me, but I was too young to understand, that beauty is not all…
staying
Sorry my English is not the best
I tried to have a relationship with my father for a few years but he didn’t wanted one because he has a new wife and kid and now I regret that I wasted my time for him
Being a dumbass. Should’ve been more serious about university, would’ve finished it by now. But honestly depression got the best of me and I’m still clawing my way out bit by bit. I’m still suicidal but less depressed generally. Anyway, all of this took a toll on my academic life, and now I’m 27 and still on my third year of univerisity. And I feel like my brain is degrading and I’m gonna have to work three times as hard to finish this shit. And after I finish I worry no one will give me a job since I’ll be 30 with no experience in the field. Ugh.
Not being a better Mum. Being a single parent is so hard and I wish I was more equipped to deal with it. Iāll always feel like Iāve failed them somehow š
Marrying my husband
Probably not taking more chances when I was younger. It’s easy to play it safe, but sometimes I wonder what could’ve happened if I had been a little braver.
Saving money.
I have always been a spender, yet somehow never managed to be flat broke or having to be bailed out.
I have gotten a lot better, still wish I had a savings lumpsum š
Not reaching out soon enough to my best friend when we finished high school.
Taking on a business partner whose personal financial shenanigans eventually destroyed the credit of my company and drove me out of business.
Because we were an LLC, the credit of the individual partners affected the credit of the company. And without discussing it with me, he went out and bought a massive money pit of a house and went in on an antique store with his partner.
He didn’t even tell me he had declared bankruptcy. Just literally got up in the middle of our second-largest client’s strategy meeting and never came back. They were loading the UHaul to leave town and he never told me.
I didn’t even know about his bankruptcy until I was trying to tap into the business’ line of credit, one I had never used, to buy out his shares.
“Sir, you can’t borrow on that because you’ve declared bankrtupcy?”
“What? No I haven’t.”
“Your business partner did.”
My company’s pristine credit vanished in an instant. Poof.
I managed to hold out for another 8 horrible months, but it’s impossible to keep a business open if your credit is in the tank. A $5,000,000 business that I had painstakingly built over the previous eight years, one for which I had worked weekends and pulled all-nighters, gone just like that.
That guy moved to New Orleans, found a job, lost it within months, and wound up in Meridian, Mississippi. Had to change his name and everything.
That was 24 years ago. It took ten years for my wife and I to climb out of the smoking crater that guy created. A $5 million business that I had painstaking
I’m a nice guy. But, even now, if that guy ever stepped in front of my car, I’m not sure I would hit the brakes.
Failing two college courses. Both of which I passed later.
Taking up cycling and getting into an accident resulting to a permanent spinal cord injury.
Having abused the consumption of alcohol for most of my life. However I have been sober for a while now, it is never too late.
Being born š
Getting off course once i found out i was pregnant.
Not realising things on time..
I wish I had made some friends with some kids in the late 2000s and toured in a deathcore/hardcore band. I’ve always wanted to see the country even if it was just in the back of a van. Money doesnt mean shit to me, It wouldve been cool to just have the experience of going places I’d never go again, see people I’ll never meet again, and scream my lungs out.