What is your experience with someone liking something about you that you consider(ed) a flaw or insecurity of yours?
What is your experience with someone liking something about you that you consider(ed) a flaw or insecurity of yours?
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What is your experience with someone liking something about you that you consider(ed) a flaw or insecurity of yours?
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Apparently, I have a specific facial expression I use when I’m talking about something I’m passionate about. I’ve never seen it (obviously), but my fiancé describes it as a squinty half-smile.
The moment he pointed it out to me I started feeling really self-conscious, and I told him so. He said, “No, I love it! It’s the most beautiful face I’ve ever seen on you! It means your true spirit is shining through, and that’s what I fell in love with the most about you!”
My stretch marks and big thighs, made me feel wanted genuinely for once
It didn’t change my opinion but when it was my bf liking it, it was kind of a relief, and made me feel more comfortable with him
I used to dislike my brown eyes. Until a partner said they look like petrified wood. Now I love them.
Also, NSFW, I used to be self conscious about how my eyes roll back when I’m receiving pleasure. Until, unprompted, a partner told me he loves it when my eyes roll back. So I stopped caring so much
Indifference I guess. Someone else’s opinion doesn’t change mine. I can appreciate a different perspective as long as it doesn’t feel condescending. However I try not to focus or fixate on flaws or insecurities that can’t be changed because it’s pointless and joy stealing.
I had an ex that used to wind her fingers through the stray curls that didn’t fit into my ponytail when we’d talk. It made me appreciate them more
A guy I dated pointed out that he liked my teeth. He was a shitty boyfriend but it was always sincere in the compliments he gave me.
For reference, I have an overbite and have had people make fun of my teeth. I remember one guy in high school made a comment about how my teeth are on “fast forward”. Stupid comment that’s always stayed with me.
Anyways since receiving that compliment I’ve been so much more confident with my teeth. I have the money now to get braces and correct my overbite if I wanted but I feel like it adds to my charm so I’ve decided against it.
Well, for some reason, I always had crooked teeth since birth. I thought they were always goofy, until my friend told me they look funny, and he started laughing. I don’t really know if that was a compliment, but I’ll keep them around for laughs!
I have that soft lower stomach fat pad and slightly fatty upper arms (at the healthy weight) but my husband absolutely loves those parts of me and finds them very feminine. Same with me being pale, I grew up with 2000’s media telling us that only right shade to be is burned orange but my husband loves my natural features and colouring. He has healed so much of my body related traumas and helped me to like parts of myself.
I have a bunch of moles on my face – atleast 6 and theyre all pretty prominent. One day in 8th grade a few friends and I were messing around and someone said “did you know you have a mole where your past lover kissed you the most in your last life?” and someone said damn someone must have really loved you
On an unrelated note, my current boyfriend spam kisses my face a lot and surprisingly theyre always hit my moles even in complete darkness. So I like to believe my past lover who really loved me found me in this lifetime too
means they might love you
my fingernails are ugly, but my gf loves my hands
My laugh. Oh my gosh I despise my laugh. My first boyfriend told me it was what drew him to me. He said he found it so cute and would try to make me laugh all of the time. It made me appreciate it a little more and think maybe it wasn’t so bad.
I have a snaggle tooth and I’ve always been insecure about it. A guy who liked me in college said he loves my snaggle tooth because it makes me look very innocent. He also told me that a lot of women in Japan get cosmetic surgeries for a snaggle tooth since it’s considered adorable. I’ve loved my smile ever since 🙂
Guys always tell me they’re attracted to big thighs but i guess in that moment it makes me feel a little sense of pretty knowing that it’s attractive to someone, but i think its been ingrained in me for so long I still will always wish my thighs were smaller.. it’s basically been a lifelong insecurity 🥴