Women make a big deal about how long men last, and how long sex in general lasts. As a bi man, I dated men for well over a decade and then over the last few years have been dating women.
One of the biggest differences I have noticed is in how long sex lasts with women. It’s like an hour minimum- with the foreplay and how long it takes them to come and just generally how long they want to have sex for. With dudes it was not like this. I would say 15 minutes was pretty average- and certainly my preference. Just wondering about everyone else out there. Not how long can you last- But how long do you like sex to last? I would rather have sex 15 minutes a day every day than two hours twice a week. But from the women I’ve dated, they seem the opposite.
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Women make a big deal about how long men last, and how long sex in general lasts. As a bi man, I dated men for well over a decade and then over the last few years have been dating women.
One of the biggest differences I have noticed is in how long sex lasts with women. It’s like an hour minimum- with the foreplay and how long it takes them to come and just generally how long they want to have sex for. With dudes it was not like this. I would say 15 minutes was pretty average- and certainly my preference. Just wondering about everyone else out there. Not how long can you last- But how long do you like sex to last? I would rather have sex 15 minutes a day every day than two hours twice a week. But from the women I’ve dated, they seem the opposite.
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2hrs. I dont like quickies
45 minutes to 2 hours
If I just need to come, that’s something else. But I genuinely like watching women just in a daze, completely fucked silly
If there’s shrooms, weed, or whatever involved, time is a little distorted so I don’t know. I’ve accidentally had sex for 5 hours before, but I also thought 20 minutes was at least an hour, and both were fine.
30-45 minutes every day
If Asa Akira says she’s good for six minutes, i’ll take that as the gold standard.
used to be a 3 pump chump
before that could barely get it up
Now I’m a guitar god
Can go all night long
When you learn to fuck with love
She will never have enough
Because she is a flower
Forever blooming in the sun
And you are her rain song.
30 seconds, I always enjoy doing it twice
15 min of kissing/foreplay and another 15-20 min of actual sex
45 mins to an hour for me.
If the session doesn’t last at least 30 minutes I feel like I haven’t done my wife enough service.
If we go on for a lot longer than an hour 30 mins, time is either wasting away for other things on the daily to-do list, or it’s getting way too late and we both need to be up in the morning.
Hour.
Depends how often we have it. If we have it often I’d rather it be quick like 10-15min max. I’m willing to go longer if it’s less frequent.
I prefer over an hour (that includes foreplay and penetration). For me, I like when it lasts rather than it being over before I even know it’s happening.
15-20min of a good pounding should be good enough, if you know what ur doing. Good foreplay, at least 1-3 orgasms off the tongue before the meat will keep you in the clear if 15-20 is all you got.
Babe, do you want a quickie… or the full 2 minutes?
Until we’re both satisfied. With my only partner thus far that could be between 20 minutes and 2 hours.
I dissociate during sex quite often so like, if it’s less than an hour I won’t even remember it happened tbh.
20 min
It depends. Sometimes a couple rounds if I’m feeling like it. So anywhere from 10~45 mintues, including a break/cuddle session between.
5 minute intervals but all night long with naps in between.
30 mins to 3 hours is usually the range for me
Half a day, with snack breaks
Who am I kidding. 15 – 30 minutes of foreplay, some going downtown on her and then hoping she’s ready and asking for penetration before my tongue checks put of the game or had to go on injured resserve.
20 min
With or without the groveling and apologies?
The length of the sex depends on what you want out of the sex. If you don’t know each other well, it will take a lot of time figuring out what someone likes and obviously it will take time. If you are already your partner, it will be less time. It can be long if you are into kinky things as it takes time to prepare and proceed. With a regular partner it should be 30-35min max including everything, random people will take time.
Depends if we talking rough or making love if rough 10-15 minutes if making love an hour maybe
Used to be 40-45 but then it turned to 10. Honestly around the 20-30 mark is good enough tho.
30-45 minutes.
It often lasts much longer than that (til it either happens for me or she’s fully satisfied) – I have a spine issue which requires medication – that same medication is used off label to prevent premature ejaculation.
That is not as fun as it sounds, trust me on this.
Gabapentin if anyone is wondering which drug – if it’s taken within 2-3 hours of sex – if we know ahead of time then I’ll skip a dose or take it after but that lacks spontaneity so sometimes can’t help been in that window.
As long as I can, which usually isn’t very long at all
When I was younger my gf and I would go for as long as we could. Almost always longer than 15 minutes. Our average was probably closer to 30 minutes because that is how long it took her and I could have 2 orgasms in that time. Now as quick as possible! Way less than 15 minutes!
23-27 minutes rather intensive. But better an hour or so with several wine pauses 😁
Most of the time 10-15 minutes 🤷🏻♂️
Women only, btw.
45 mins
As a bi man, I’ve noticed that as well.
Though, to be fair, women consider sex to be a hell of a lot more than just penetration and oral. Penetration itself doesn’t usually last that long.
Women usually take some time to get horny, to get wet, and to get going. And then, for them to cum, it takes some more attention and insights.
Men are more straightforward. Kiss, suck, fuck, you’re done.
Honestly, the ideal length depends on the partner, how intimate we are and how horny I am. I’ve had great 15 minutes sex and great 2 hours sex. It’s not a one size fits all kind of situation.
Depends on the context and your partner. When my wife and I were dating, maybe the first year or so – it was definitely a shorter session but more frequent through the week. Wouldn’t be surprised if it hit double digits some weeks. After the honeymoon period and especially after we started getting into the “real world” (IE not college students), life takes over and it’d be less frequent. These days, now that we have a toddler – it’s definitely something that is less frequent but sessions definitely last longer.
Personally, I LOVE foreplay. And that extends to the wining and dining and setting up for spicy sexy time. Like that’s 90 percent of the fun for me. PIV sex is great, don’t get me wrong – and I’m always down for a quickie. But gun to my head? Give me the once a week long session any day.
Honeslty no more than 20 minutes
40 minutes – 1hr (w/ foreplay)
10-30 minutes but I lose track of time. I might be the fastest nut in the West but I get em there twice before I slumber and ask for cuddles.
you think it takes a long time for them to finish sex, you should see them get ready to go out…
15 – 25 minutes
30 minutes to an hour if we have time to do everything (foreplay, multiple positions, etc). 5 minutes of all we have time for is a quickie before the kids wake up
2 to 4 hours is ideal for me
1-5 seconds. In and out and done.
Hetero context from a male. I try to go an hour, usually just under, if I feel I’m coming too early I change it up.
My priority is always her then me.
As it should be.
It depends. Normally, life is pretty busy, don’t have all the time in the world to go a few rounds, so 15-35 minutes is typical. But, it’s always a treat to be able to make an evening of it.
I like to take my time, and she enjoys it. Could be 20 minutes or maybe an hour if things get adventurous.
Completely subjective.
I say if both participants orgasm, and have a good time then yeah great. Time doesn’t necessarily matter, the outcome does.
30 minutes of flirting, 15 minutes of gradually increasing foreplay, 10-15 minutes of copulation, then 15 minutes of flirting and pillow talk.
20 minutes
2-3 hours
I like some buildup & teasing, foreplay and then a few positions for round 1
Then I like to lay In bed naked cuddling and talking dirty… share some fantasies or experiences… maybe show each other some porn… until we are so horny we can’t keep our hands off of each other and we have that long passionate round 2 where I’m not worried about busting early I’m just enjoying every second of pleasure until we both orgasm and pass out
My wife is always gone after round 1… I miss round 2
When she cums, I cum.
> It’s like an hour minimum
My dude, you’re doing it wrong. Communicate with your partner to understand what she likes and wants. It can also change from session to session! I mean, it does for you, right? Does for me too. Sometimes I want to bang from behind. Sometimes I want lots of body contact and missionary is great. Sometimes I want a show and to see her grinding me on top. Newsflash: women like variety too!
Talk to your partner more.
Y’all are having sex?
Female here and wtf with all these 30 min and up ! Im good with 5-20 mins tbh
I think you should have a detailed conversation with your partner about likes and dislikes in bed.
The foreplay is really important for us but an hour minimum everytime? Nah. Once you know what turns your partner on, even 5 minutes can be enough.
But keep in mind that naturally, some positions (and days) will take longer than others.
Two not-entirely-consistent bits of wisdom:
The difference between “making love” and “fucking” is 2 1/2 hours. I don’t want her to come after 20 minutes and then be ready for whatever’s next. I want her to COME after 90 minutes and pass out and need an hour of sleepy snuggling before she has enough brain capacity to remember her name.
Foreplay starts when you wake up. I kiss and hug her all the time and tell her how wonderful she is. Keep the affection simmering all day long so you’re not starting cold when it’s time for sex.
I generally see my partners once a month so at least have 4 hour session. The occasional quickies but prefer long drawn out
2 planck lenghts
5-10 mins of foreplay/getting her off, then about 5 mins or less for myself. My wife prefers it this way, I prefer it this way, no problems here. When we first started dating we definitely went at it a little longer, but once I knew what she needed, it doesn’t take long to get there anymore. Every couple is different, I’ve certainly had different timelines with other women that worked too. There is no right or wrong answer here.
15 minutes of foreplay followed by 20 minutes of PIV spanning three positions. 10 minute OT periods as needed until both partners finish at least once.
Long enough for both of us to get ours. It can very.
Anything under one hour is too short for me (52M). With my 35F girlfriend we have 3-5 hours sex sessions, out of which 1 to 2 hours is the actual intercourse, not just foreplay.
I’m another bi guy. My average sex with guys is shorter by far, like 10-15 minutes, but some of my exes liked to go for a long time (and I gotta be honest, I preferred that usually). Sometimes you just want to quickly bang one out, other times you want to go for 45 minutes and really get into it.
But on average sex with women is a lot longer for me too, I don’t have anywhere near as many “quickies”, 20-40 minutes is typically and 1 hr+ isn’t uncommon. I usually like it, but because so much more of the burden of good sex is on the male partner, it can get tiring if I’m not as into it that day.
6 min
My current partner can do it countless times, and we usually have 3-6h long sessions and a lot of fun each time, but we only meet 2-3 times a month, as we’re only FwBs.
Through the night she’s asking for many breaks, we cuddle for a few minutes and then we go again, and so on until she’s completely exhausted.
Previous partners didn’t have enough endurance and we were done after 15-20min or so.
But I very much prefer the current long sessions, and so does she.
I’ll usually spend a weekend+ just having sex with my girl, making food, drinking wine, watching a movie, and having more sex. Time flies when you’re having fun!
The actual act can last anything between a five min quickie to up to six hours in bed. I could go on longer but it’s just tiring at that point. Also, the chafing means she’ll want other stimuli after a few hours.
It’s not something I like to do as an activity, but as a couple of days just being intimate. For example, Saturday-Sunday just getting out and doing stuff, watching films, trying out new foods or cooking recipes together at home, all while having sex intermittently put in and around those activities. Sometimes a fun quickie or only 5 or so minutes, other times 30min-an hour or more of foreplay, kissing, sex, and so on, with snacks and water!
About 45 minutes.
30-60 minutes
It depends on if we are having sex or if we are fucking
One takes time
The other is just letting the animal inside take over
I want to either hump until my body gives out (3/4 nuts ~40 mins including water break) or real quick if dinner is cooking and we are just fucking to kill time
So let’s go real, in the first round I did it in some seconds and after 10 to 15 minutes, in the second round I went around 10 to 15 minutes.
69 minutes
4 years
Your question is out of syllabus for me 🙃
Heavyweight fights last 3 mins-UFC 5. That’s penetration. If you add foreplay rubbing and licking 10. So 15-20 mins
10-20 min is ideal. She usually won’t last past her 5th-6th PIV orgasm, and they usually start at the 2 min mark or so and end ~13 min or so.
Ok super stud, glad you rescued her from her orgasm free hell.
I lost the fucking lottery on this one. The woman I’ve been seeing for a while likes these 15 minute sessions and I very much don’t.
I prefer if it lasts an hour or longer, and that is after penetration has started.
I have been into edging since I was a teen and I learned early on that the longer it takes to bust, the better it feels. Up to a point anyway, after maybe 4 hours there’s diminishing returns, after 6-8 hours it’s gonna fucking hurt when it happens.
I still fondly remember the girl I spent 6 hours having sex with.
Unfortunately, I can only really go that long if I’m having sex regularly. Right now I get it maybe once per week or two weeks, which has severely cut down the time I can actually last.
20 minutes is ideal. 30 minutes max. Anything after 40 and everything is just numb
A couple hours. This includes making out, foreplay, PiV, toys, mid-sex cuddle/recharge, more sex, and aftercare.
Yes.
Ideally? 15-20 minutes.
Nah. Been married for going on 18 years now, and I have to say my ideal always has been, and still is, until the sun comes up and we simply HAVE to do other things. If I could just stay home all day and do nothing but that, it would be just about an ideal existence. 🤣
10 to 20 minutes. Anything longer and I lose stamina and have a harder time getting off because I am too tired. Plus we usually have two kids around (none is rare), so we have to be quiet and quick.
I actually spoke with my wife about this last night. I told her women seem to need time to get warmed up and to reach orgasm. She said how can they last that long? This is from my wife who came 3 times last night in probably 10 minutes.
From everything I read on here, she is a rare find. I almost never have to wait during sex since she gets off well before me. And sometimes like last night, she gets off multiple times before I can get there.
Approx 15 minutes (of actual s*x, excluding foreplay and cleanup). 30 minutes of pounding is tiring, and I don’t want to instantaneously 💦, so something in between is ideal.
32 seconds😅 I like saving time
Sex half hr, love 2 hours and depends on where and when ,there is also the 10 min quicky
15 minutes is about right. I don’t think my wife is dying to have it go longer anyway. We’ve got shit to do!