For me, I don’t consider myself a very romantic person, in the traditional way, I’m not fan of physical touch (this might come from the way I grew up but that’s another story), not much expressive in terms of feelings and suck giving gift (the idea of gifting gives me so much anxiety and I’m broke lol).
So my love language is more about quality time, spend time with the people I appreciate even if we are not doing anything just love to be with my friends or visit family for a few hours.
Another big one that I feel most people don’t get, it’s sharing internet stuff, I’m a big memer (is this even a word?) and I consider I have a good sense of humor and share shit ton of memes and videos thankfully most of friends like it.
And last but not least music I spend a big chunk of my time listening music, I LOVE sharing my music taste and it’s hard to find people who actually likes same stuff than me but I basically can yap hours about almost any genre, love concerts and love raves so hopefully my future SO can be like me…
What is your love languages?
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Quality time and words of affirmation for sure. I also enjoy gift giving.
Physical touch, quality time and words of affirmation.
Physical touch is my primary love language. Then words of affirmation followed by quality time.
I give treats, like cakes or chocolates
I spent a month before a girl’s birthday to learn how to make chocolates from scratch to give them to her on her birthday
Im a coffeeaholic, and just saw this meme that said ‘ coffee is my love language’. Loved it lol.
My love language is the least romantic….acts of service. I just love people helping me without being asked. I would rather have my husband vacuum the house than give me a back massage. Something I have to regularly keep in mind is that my husband’s love language is quality time. I have a hard time slowing down and sitting still, so I have to really make a conscious effort to sit and spend time with him.
Acts of service and physical touch. I just like helping and being close to someone.
I like anything that isn’t gift giving or words of affirmation. I won’t decline a gift though, I still appreciate the gesture.
My love language in silence… so I’m single because women don’t do silence.
Definitely tons of physical touch, cuddles, kisses, general “gross” lovey-doveyness 😝
Quality time is my main one, then words of affirmation/physical touch are tied not far behind. My fiancée’s main love language is words of affirmation and quality time/physical touch are tied for second. We both have single digits/zero for acts of service and gift giving.
I would say that love languages are somewhat flexible and can depend on circumstances. We’ve been long-distance since we met, so physical touch is very sporadic, yet we’re not exactly suffering or hating our relationship from going without it for extended periods of time. Quality time has also been an adjustment since most of it takes place over phone/video calls. Words of affirmation has been easy because we are both really good at expressing ourselves. Even though gift giving was 0% for her, gifts have taken more of a role in our relationship since we can’t be together all the time. We both absolutely treasure gifts because they serve as reminders of each other and the time we spend together. Similarly, acts of service is 0% for me, but one of my fondest memories is when she’s taken care of me when I get sick (in person) or sent me care packages through Instacart… And she will never stop thanking me for the week that I spent helping her move.
All of that to say… What the test says and what happens in reality can be very different.
Gift giving is at the bottom of the list for me. Not sure why it makes me so anxious but it does. Up at the top of the list is acts of service, I love doing little things for the people I care about!
Another one of my favorite ways to hang out is sharing the same space while doing separate activities (for example, reading in the same room while my partner plays video games). I really like being able to enjoy someone’s company without necessarily interacting the entire time.
Mine is probably acts of service and gift giving, but more so in the way of i go to the grocery store and pick up foods I know someone likes, a friend of mine went threw a hard time and I would have loved to be able to give her gifts but am very broke so I did the dishes while I babysat her kid (I babysit for her a lot) she does pay me with is nice even though I’ll never charge her full price cause shits hard and child care is very hard to afford/find where we live .
My childhood was screwy, so I like to receive all the love languages, especially quality time and physical touch.
I can give all of them easily, depending on what my partner needs. Gifts, physical touch, quality time seem to be the easiest to give. Like you, OP, I’m big on memes and music.
quality time! i don’t need you to gift me, help me, or touch me lmao— just be somewhere in my vicinity
Words of affirmation for sure. Despite me being iffy when it comes to physical touch, with the right person, I feel like I would be touchy with them (just in subtle ways).
Words of affirmation and gift giving with a smattering of acts of service. I think gift giving gets a bad rep because it’s not always about the gift/$$. For me at least, it’s about the fact that someone thought of me and then took the time to give me something. Or to do something, like brush the snow off my car, make my tea/coffee for me the way I like it or something similar that lets me know you thought of me, remembered how I like something AND made my day slightly easier.
And tell me I’m pretty. Even if I look like a troll.
Physical touch.
Mine is definitely physical touch and quality time are my major ones. But like I don’t get touch often with my friends so ):
Quality time and then physical touch.
Mine is actually acts of service – like cooking or running an errand for someone. I’m not into physical touch like hugging and empty words
To some extent, all of them are important but quality time is #1 for me.
Being sad
Giving gifts or sending the person memes that remind me of the person
Time…
If I’m spending my time with you then I’m feelin u cuz my schedule is very full
Terminology “Love language” is soo cringe.