Self-seclusion, but not necessarily rotting away in my home. I’m actually a pretty adventurous person and I LOVE going for long drives to the city or out-of-state.
I love walking at parks, alone.
I love going for hikes, alone.
I love cycling, alone.
I love shopping at malls, alone.
I love parking, walking around town, and trying out new restaurants and cafés, alone.
I love traveling and sightseeing, alone.
I love gardening and taking care of my yard, alone.
I love working out, alone.
I love playing guitar, alone.
I’ve TRIED to share my hobbies with others and be social, but God fucking forbid a man is born with autism and isn’t some effortlessly cool and charismatic socialite, and he gets treated like a hideous abomination. So I care for myself by going about my usual active routine, without worrying about other humans.
I vaporize a little weed leaving work, on the way home I find solutions to my problems, I plan my hobbies, I am grateful to be alive and have a job. Of course you don’t need weed for that, there are times where I don’t feel like vaping and I still do it, weed makes things a little easier
On top of the usual things like therapy and trying to be more emotionally connected with my close friends, reducing work hours, stuff like that:
Bath time
I take a bath almost every day. At least when I physically can, some days I’m restricted to a shower due to time restraints.
Scented candles, glass of sparkling water, a bamboo bath tray, laptop nearby with my current show. It’s also my space that I can force myself to cry when I need it. It’s been a great outlet to be able to cry by myself with no judgement or interference. It was a technique my therapist suggested a while back and it’s been very helpful.
(to self) “Don’t be depressed today. You’re fine. Everything is fine. Nothing looks like that’s true, but you have to think that way. Just put that smile on your face. Don’t let them know what’s going on inside.”
Drink way too much beer and stay up to late playing video games. Realise I’m fucking up. Work out a lot to try and feel better about it. Then just start all over again in the same cycle.
Extreme looksmaxing, workouts and occasional battles with myself on going back to my ED ways. Remembering that what upsets me today most probably won’t matter in 5 years.
I take daily walks and it gives me time to think about my day. Also I say what my current goals are at the end of the walk to affirm them. Otherwise it’s mostly just watching my body change from exercise, petting my dog, and talking about things with my friends and therapist. I also take some time to play video games if I’m feeling up for it
I think self-care is thrown around a lot and most the time it’s used to justify spoiling yourself, which definitely has its place. But I think the type of self care most people need is taking care of their responsibilities. Paying bills on time, saving money, getting work done on time, etc. these things lift a great deal of pressure off your shoulder and give you better mental clarity.
Quick example: I had a friend who took a trip last summer in the spirit of self-care, and came back from the trip stressed because she didn’t have enough for her tuition. Her actually planning better financially and taking care of her needs first would’ve paid off more mentally than the trip. In reality she was actually practicing self- abandonment because she wasn’t there for herself when she needed it the most.
With that said, here is how I practice self-care daily:
Making sure my apartment is clean before I go to bed.
Walking 30-45 mins.
Breathing exercises.
Being social – reaching out to at least 1-2 people.
Waking up early, so I don’t feel rushed starting my day.
Hot shower, stretching, and time with the massage gun before bed.
Journaling and planning for the next day.
Spending time on my appearance – taking pride in how I present myself to the world.
Medication, therapy, sleeping before midnight, showering every day, being active when the weather permits it, talking to my online friends, listening to music and rotating other hobbies on a daily basis.
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Lots of self-medicating with weed.
An hour long walk early morning, 40 minutes of meditation (or something like it) later in the day
Cut off toxic ppl from my life
Working out, socializing with good friends, walking back home alone at night.
I meditate once a day, that is all.
Self-seclusion, but not necessarily rotting away in my home. I’m actually a pretty adventurous person and I LOVE going for long drives to the city or out-of-state.
I’ve TRIED to share my hobbies with others and be social, but God fucking forbid a man is born with autism and isn’t some effortlessly cool and charismatic socialite, and he gets treated like a hideous abomination. So I care for myself by going about my usual active routine, without worrying about other humans.
I vaporize a little weed leaving work, on the way home I find solutions to my problems, I plan my hobbies, I am grateful to be alive and have a job. Of course you don’t need weed for that, there are times where I don’t feel like vaping and I still do it, weed makes things a little easier
On top of the usual things like therapy and trying to be more emotionally connected with my close friends, reducing work hours, stuff like that:
I take a bath almost every day. At least when I physically can, some days I’m restricted to a shower due to time restraints.
Scented candles, glass of sparkling water, a bamboo bath tray, laptop nearby with my current show. It’s also my space that I can force myself to cry when I need it. It’s been a great outlet to be able to cry by myself with no judgement or interference. It was a technique my therapist suggested a while back and it’s been very helpful.
(to self) “Don’t be depressed today. You’re fine. Everything is fine. Nothing looks like that’s true, but you have to think that way. Just put that smile on your face. Don’t let them know what’s going on inside.”
Repeat as many times as needed.
Mowing the lawn, watching movies, just anything to get my mind off of what it’s usually on
Snacks
Drink way too much beer and stay up to late playing video games. Realise I’m fucking up. Work out a lot to try and feel better about it. Then just start all over again in the same cycle.
Live in the moment – everything is transition – give zero fucks about others because that’s what they’ll do about you.
Talk to yourself and be extremely honest and open:)
Workout, long walks, ACT therapy
Laying down listening to ASMR fo relax. Also working out seems to help a ton.
Working out, playing guitar , going for a walk
Extreme looksmaxing, workouts and occasional battles with myself on going back to my ED ways. Remembering that what upsets me today most probably won’t matter in 5 years.
Working out, minding my business.
Working out and deep meditation
Music, working out, extreme hygiene routines, THC, and sleep.
oooooohhhhhmmmmmmgofuckyourselfoooohhhmmmmmm
Crossword puzzles, watching TV and if I’m alone, a little “self-pleasure”, if you know what I mean
Comfort food and a crank of the hog.
I take daily walks and it gives me time to think about my day. Also I say what my current goals are at the end of the walk to affirm them. Otherwise it’s mostly just watching my body change from exercise, petting my dog, and talking about things with my friends and therapist. I also take some time to play video games if I’m feeling up for it
Sleep.
Meditation
Good sleep, walk the dog, gym, cooking, reading or gaming
I think self-care is thrown around a lot and most the time it’s used to justify spoiling yourself, which definitely has its place. But I think the type of self care most people need is taking care of their responsibilities. Paying bills on time, saving money, getting work done on time, etc. these things lift a great deal of pressure off your shoulder and give you better mental clarity.
Quick example: I had a friend who took a trip last summer in the spirit of self-care, and came back from the trip stressed because she didn’t have enough for her tuition. Her actually planning better financially and taking care of her needs first would’ve paid off more mentally than the trip. In reality she was actually practicing self- abandonment because she wasn’t there for herself when she needed it the most.
With that said, here is how I practice self-care daily:
Making sure my apartment is clean before I go to bed.
Walking 30-45 mins.
Breathing exercises.
Being social – reaching out to at least 1-2 people.
Waking up early, so I don’t feel rushed starting my day.
Hot shower, stretching, and time with the massage gun before bed.
Journaling and planning for the next day.
Spending time on my appearance – taking pride in how I present myself to the world.
Sticking to my budget daily as much as possible.
Sleep 8 hours, drink water, avoid ultra processed diet, exercise, follow manly purpose. Cue inner serenity
Take a walk & a hot shower then go to bed early
Medication, therapy, sleeping before midnight, showering every day, being active when the weather permits it, talking to my online friends, listening to music and rotating other hobbies on a daily basis.