Have you explored outside the type of person you’re normally attracted to or stick to what you like?
What is your ‘type’? And have you only dated within it?
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Have you explored outside the type of person you’re normally attracted to or stick to what you like?
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I like intelligent, introverted, shy(ish) guys. Funny is a big plus :’)
Yes. Especially the intelligent bit – I’ve only been attracted to and dated within it hahahaha
I like big buff guys. Gym bros. Dudes who look like they could borderline be a bodybuilder.
This is just my preference, I am still attracted to other types of men and have dated them.
I like a few types – My favorite however is really intelligent men. I love nerds and I love strategists, thought in some cases you have to be careful with these types too depending. Like anyone, some can be toxic, paring those two traits together is not cute. I’d say I’m good at telling them apart from experience.
Think characters like Thrawn from SW – Looks don’t bother me as much, it’s the attitude. Like *damn*.
These types of men are just scrumptious to me, I don’t know what it is.
My usual type is bisexual gamer nerds, and that’s primarily what I’ve dated – I’ve hooked up occasionally outside of that type, but that’s my bread and butter lol.
Hood Mexicans with tattoos. Intelligent. Funny. Dark hair and a beard.
If I placed my past crushes, people I used to talk to, and my boyfriend under the same umbrella, I get a bunch of clingy guys with interesting career choices.
I switched types after my divorce lol I used to only date white guys but now I prefer black and Latino
Big fan of smart and funny men!!! I have dated all sorts of people though
If you’d asked me my type six or seven years ago, my answer would be completely different to my now husband. So yes, I did explore outside of the type of person I usually went for and it worked out very very well. I am of course very very attracted to my husband, but he wasn’t the type I imagined going for. I used to go for quite shy, ‘lanky’ guys, academic university library dweller bookish types. My husband is very broad, heavily tattooed, very hands on – but he is my ideal guy, I just didn’t know it until I met him.
Definitely my own profession. The ones I find interesting don’t really belong to any other subset. I have tried but they’re all too boring and definitely can’t relate to me or my struggles or my niche interests.
Pale, skinny, nerdy and funny. Even my mom used to get confused if I’m dating someone new or is the same guy lol
I have a very specific type and all my past dates have looked the same. I still hook up with different types but to date only that very specific type and they seem to love me too
Intelligent and nerdy. If I’m not able to nerd out with them about at least a couple of franchises then we aren’t meant to be, hahaha.
Has to be smart as well, though that comes in more forms than just academic. If I think they’re unintelligent then it won’t work.
My current boyfriend and I met by bonding over videogames.
I’ve tried dating outside that type and it’s never made it past a few dates.
lol my type is kind of heavy set and darker, meatier men. My husband was muscled up and toned and slightly darker than me, lol slipped through the cracks somehow thankfully. 🤭
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I have 3 types:
Masculine with a pretty face. Secure, a bit stand-off-ish, secretly wants to be liked, helpful, smart and curious… loves animals.
My first boyfriend loved animals… and that’s it.
First gf was almost perfect… but was insecure.
Bf 2 wasn’t helpful or curious.
Handful of people who wouldn’t commit… usually missing 2 or 3 traits, always loved animals though.
My husband is perfect 💜 at least by these standards lol he has his issues, but don’t we all?
Funny, kind and patient men. I seemed to find the opposite in the dating world so I stopped dating
My type has always been nerdy, and that’s the type I ended up with. I’ve dated other types, but it never ended up working.
Kind of weird, but I’ve dated three preacher’s sons and married one of them… They’ve each had a rebellious attitude while still brought up with good morals. Its funny to me, I am very far from belonging to any church, and I definitely didn’t go looking for them!
I have historically liked pretty boy, broken, creative types.
But, I married a very mellow, gold retriever, boy scout type.
My type wasn’t really my type but that doesn’t mean that toxic pull isn’t still there.
Looks: Soft dark hair, maybe a little bit of graying, glasses, bearded, average height, a little older than me, an intellectual vibe.
Personality: politically conscious and intellectually curious, thoughtful and cautious. Has at least one woman besides his mother who he cares about deeply, like a sister or long time friend.
In general I have limited dating experience because it’s just never been a priority for me, but I think I’ve stayed within my type for the most part.
Tall guys who are afraid to commit 🤦🏻♀️
Body build wise, I like men who have a big body build and have huge muscles. On the other hand, personality wise, I like men who are smart, humble, and calm.
Honestly, I’m having a hard time dating right now and my past lovers didn’t fit much of the criteria.
Pre-divorce? Engineers.
In my post-divorce dating, I found my type is very liberal current or former military officers.
Why? They’re almost always smart, intellectually curious, funny, self-sufficient (they don’t need a woman to mommy them), nerds (sometimes closeted, others out and proud), mellow AF under pressure, and in shape. Being in shape isn’t a requirement, but it’s certainly nice when they’ve got sexy arms.
I was married to someone in my profession (we met during undergrad), and he was all of those things except he was someone who needed me to mom him around. Post-divorce, I’ve dated all sorts of guys, and that’s how I’ve found I have a new type.