What kind of relationship your soon to be SO has with his/her mother would you consider a red flag?

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What kind of relationship your soon to be SO has with his/her mother would you consider a red flag?

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  1. Icy_Insides Avatar

    If she always defends or excuses bad behaviors or shortcomings.

  2. Electronic_Fox_6383 Avatar

    Incestuous – whether physical, emotional, spiritual, mental, financial….

  3. Louisianimal09 Avatar

    Too involved or not involved enough, by choice of course. You want that Goldilocks zone.

  4. stressandscreaming Avatar

    Mothers who do everything for their son, making their son an incompetent man child.

  5. ancientevilvorsoason Avatar

    Nothing in the behaviour of the parent corresponds to the attitudes exhibited by the child. Had a partner like that. They had so many complaints and while I empathised it also felt like an excuse. 

  6. OppositeResponse6474 Avatar

    She still provides for him financially. Had a friend whose ex bf was like this. The man was almost 40 but his mommy bought him everything.

  7. enchantingcat Avatar

    Overbearing, lack of boundaries, and if the relationship involves him lying to her.

  8. CruelTasteOfLust Avatar

    His ex’s have hit his mother. He’s okay with it.

  9. bearyweek Avatar

    One of two ways, but varying levels of red flag. One way is if he has zero relationship with his mother. Like, if he’s cut her off. That one depends heavily on why he did so, but in my (very heterosexual) experience it’s usually because of some non-reason, like she didn’t let him do whatever he wanted when he was younger. There are absolutely 100% good reasons, but I do have a red flag pop up whenever a guy I’m seeing says something negative towards his mother, especially as we’re new into a relationship.

    The other way is if he’s too close to her. Like, calling her multiple times a day to ask her opinion on things in his life. It seems sweet, but the enmeshment will be an issue later on. Especially if she sees you at all as a threat. 😬

  10. genehartman Avatar

    When I first got married we had trouble with her parents meddling in our marriage. I actually sat down and talked to my mother in law and told her that she was not going to come in my house snd criticize me!

  11. highly_uncertain Avatar

    My husband hated his mom. I couldn’t figure it out because she seemed so lovely. I used to give him shit for the way he was with her. 14 years later, it all makes sense.

  12. princess_kittah Avatar

    a man i was dating told me that he wore the same dirty underwear for a whole week, because he just didnt “feel like doing laundry” and then he got mad because his mum offered to do it for him?

    i couldnt take him seriously anymore. my mom has thrown tables at me and i was supposed to feel bad for him because his mommy wants him to wear clean underwear?

    why would you even tell a woman who youre trying to sleep with that you have been wearing the same undies for a week?!

  13. trUth_b0mbs Avatar

    overbearing mothers who act like NO ONE is good enough for their “baby”.

    mothers who do everything for their grownass son ….. and he lets them.

    their son can do no wrong.

    if he treats her like garbage. Once he leaves that house, that behaviour will turn onto you.

  14. YerMomsANiceLady Avatar

    When he tells her about your relationship problems and listens to her more than you.

  15. throwitawayyy1234567 Avatar

    Not having or barely having a relationship with his mother. Saying he doesn’t like her. Especially the last one

  16. ElectricMarcy Avatar

    Not being able to make decisions without her input. Being at her back and call.