It’s my male cousins 18th birthday soon. Along with the usual money and whatever gifts, I wanted to give him a card but write some little bits of wisdom and advice I’ve found most useful over the years. Mindful that I only have the perspective as a women, wondered what men would have to say.
I know I’ll prob get a load of answers about always wear protections etc etc (which I agree with lol) but some other points would be nice to hear too 😅
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It’s my male cousins 18th birthday soon. Along with the usual money and whatever gifts, I wanted to give him a card but write some little bits of wisdom and advice I’ve found most useful over the years. Mindful that I only have the perspective as a women, wondered what men would have to say.
I know I’ll prob get a load of answers about always wear protections etc etc (which I agree with lol) but some other points would be nice to hear too 😅
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Don’t get anyone pregnant.
The world will offer you very little. You will have to find what you need on your own. Your family will help as they can, but ultimately everyone is selfishly motivated.
you don’t have a place in the world until you carve it out for yourself
Be open to new experiences and people, don’t worry too much about zeroing in on a career right away.
Don’t do drugs
Think for yourself. Nobody can be right all the time and it’s on you to judge right from wrong.
Also, you don’t have to make up your mind now. It’s ok to decide later. Take your time and be honest with yourself.
Avoid the clap – Jimmy Duggan
Be a slut, the right woman will come along and you will no long want to be a slut. Or you’ll be sluts together. Mostly, enjoy being young
Have fun, be kind, and have empathy for people around you.
Don’t use porn.
Important for everyone, but in my experience especially for young men:
Stand up for yourself.
Treat yourself like the best friend you can imagine.
Embody strength, but let violence be your last and most justified answer.
Lower expectations, watch your back, question everything and be happy with who you are.
The world is not black and white. It operates in the gray.
and the life of a man is miles different from the life of a woman. The sooner you come to terms with that, the more of your sanity you get to keep
Unless you think you have a shot with Taylor Swift, I would start learning about getting snipped. Then sit on it for ten years and see if it’s still for you. Because that is the single greatest investment a man can make in his life
Life becomes so easy once you learn to control your lust
Take care of your back and teeth, your future self will thank you.
If you want to know a person’s truth, don’t listen to what they say, rather watch what they do.
Have a good work ethic: show up to work when scheduled, ask what needs to be done and don’t leave a task half finished.
Don’t be afraid to show emotions with people you love. Real men cry.
Focus on yourself until you’ve built yourself into financial stability, mental stability, happiness in yourself then focus on women
I’m only 19, but I’ve seen pictures of guys at this age and how much weight they gain over time despite little deterioration in lifestyle on their part. So I’ve taken it upon myself to enjoy the metabolism for as long as I have it.
Take care of your knees and back. You might not feel it now, but in 20 years it’ll catch up to you real fast
No one will truly care like you think they do.
If she offers to do anal, she’s a keeper
– Never be the shirtless one in the videos online
– Go by actions not words
– Look after yourself as no one else will
– Dont fight life, if it shows your not getting something, dont ask twice, take the first answer and live with it
Don’t marry before 35
Don’t have long relationships on ur 20s.
Practice an sport or workout consistently.
Read books about ur main interests.
Be good at your job.
Be kind.
Make sure to take days off.
Don’t isolate yourself from the world, try new things and create…
For the love of God, take care of your teeth
This was given to me by a friend when I graduated and it speaks to me on different levels all the time. I have it memorized now but the original was a poster I received. The book is Desiderata of Happiness. You can get the poem printed and framed or get the book.
I know it is just a poem but if you really read the poem, it has some great wisdom.
Desiderata by Max Ehrmann
https://www.desiderata.com/desiderata.html
Watch what they do, ignore what they say.
People’s actions will tell you more about them then their words. If they say they’ll do one thing but do another, then believe your eyes not what they’re saying. Doesn’t matter if it’s a girl that says she loves you then does stuff she knows you don’t like, or a “friend” who says he’ll pay you back but never does. How they talk about other people behind their backs is how they’re theyre talking about you.
“After a piss, one shake is fine, more than one and you’re just playing with it”.
Put every paycheck into trading options
“To batteries and buttholes. Things we shouldn’t lick but do anyways.”
Try not to get distracted by a pretty face. Stay focused on your educational, career and financial goals
Ancient Chinese proverb:- Go to bed with itchy bottom, wake up with smelly finger.
“A ship doesn’t sail on yesterday’s wind”
Don’t carry negative things into the next day and nothing positive you did yesterday means nearly as much today (if anything)
“Cynicism is a disease”
It starts off looking and feeling like practicality and defense mechanism, ends up robbing you of the ability to trust anyone’s intentions or find joy in any interaction.
Wrap it before you tap it, don’t trust “I’m on the pill”
You can retake a class, but you can’t retake a party
It is only when mosquito lands on testicles that man realised violence is not always the answer
Think about college very carefully. Practically as full of as much care as one can muster. Even more so if you don’t have well off parents to provide for you.
Try everything, only then will you truly know what you like and don’t like
INVEST.YOUR FUCKING.MONEY
r/bogleheads
Begin asking yourself the big questions. Who are you? And, what do you want?
Take time, maybe years, to answer those questions. It’ll be well-worth the effort!
Don’t listen to what society wants you to be
Make decisions that your future self will thank for you later
Before making a big decision involving women, jerk it, then let the clarity do its thing
Prioritize male friends. They will give you camaraderie, companionship, and support
“If you wait until you’re ready to do something you’ll never get anything done.”
“It’s never too late to stop making a bad decision.”
“The biggest barriers are mental. Nothing is more powerful than a made up mind.”
“Set your mind to where you want to be, instead of what you going through right now.”
“You can find a lessons in your mistakes if you choose to or you can continue moving forward making the same mistake over and over.”
“There is a price to pay for everything that you gain. Nothing in life if free everything comes at a cost and the price you pay is not always money.
“When we want something, we must be willing to pay the cost to achieve it. And if you’re not prepared to pay the price, you don’t deserve the reward.”
“Progress goes when you go & stops when you stop. You don’t get better without losing.”
“Even if you believe that you don’t have any talent what you do have is time & the more time you spend on something, the better at it you’ll be.”
“If you want something then do it and don’t let anyone tell you it can’t be done. However it will take a lot of hard work.”
“There will always be a level of uncertainty when trying something new even if you’re “ready” learn to trust yourself, be patient with yourself have your own back & learn to adjust to chaos.”
“Health and life are fleeting you do not have all the time in the world focus on what you want and what matters to you. You do not have as much time as you think. It’s scary, but that’s what also makes it special. Time is going to pass and you’ll either have something to show for it or not we are all on a crash course with death enjoy your ride.”
Happy Birthday to your cuz!
Don’t get any advice from Reddit
When you see a man of worth, think how to rise to his level. When you encounter an unworthy man, look within and examine yourself.
You are going to worry about what people think of you – the actual answer is both disconcerting and reassuring, most people don’t think of you.
When you look at someone and think damn he/she has their life together – you are seeing things from only the outside, you aren’t seeing that they have all the same insecurities/doubts that you do – this also applies to social media.
Don’t listen to random people from Reddit
Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can put off until the day after tomorrow.
1.) Don’t sweat the petty stuff and don’t pet the sweaty stuff
2.) Time is the real currency
3.) invest 1/3 (33%) of your paycheck into savings every payday
Never go ass to mouth. That’s medical advice not a joke.
Look after your teeth and if you’re curious about trying it, make sure it’s got a flared base. Unless you like telling tall tales to paramedics, nurses and doctors.
We find them rather amusing.
You can never be ready for life’s challenges and events. If you have to do it, you have to do it. And figure things out later.
What you give your attention to expands.
Learn to not give a fuck without being careless.
Don’t get to the end and wonder ‘what if I had’ve’, get to the end and wonder ‘’what haven’t I?’ I missed so much from being fearful and hesitant.
Be yourself and pay no mind to what others think but listen to constructive criticism
Put a little in savings every paycheck and don’t touch it.
Move your body every single day. Doesn’t matter what you do but get moving.
Save early. Even small amounts early on can compile over time.
Never stop learning. No matter the profession, knowledge is power.
There are 3 things you never lend anyone:
If you ever find yourself the big fish in a small pond, it’s time to find a new pond.
All the lyrics from Simple Man
“Don’t chase women.”
EVERYBODY is going to tell you how to live your life.
EVERYBODY is going to have an opinion of you regardless of how much they know you.
Your life begins when you choose who to listen to and who to walk away from.
Love is spelled T-I-M-E. Spend time with the people you love because you never know when you might not be able to again.
Don’t waste your time chasing women. At the first sign of trouble, walk away from a woman!
Start investing now!
—Save money. Like literally do a direct deposit of a portion of your paycheck to a savings account. That way you won’t yearn for it.
—Set aside one hour a day to work out. Be it cardio, lifting, martial arts, whatever. But make sure you do it.
—Set aside another hour to do something intellectual. Maybe an instrument. Reading, Writing. Exercising your mind is just as important as your body.
—If something takes less than five minutes to do, do it immediately.
—Do. Not. Get. A. Tattoo. Yet. Wait until you’re 21. And never get one on your face, neck, hands, throat, or fingers.
—Do. Not. Get. A. Piercing. Yet. Either.
—Do not chase trends. Baggy will be out, skinny will be in. Skinny will be out, baggy will be in. Wear straight cuts.
—Get rid of any graphic tees. Start wearing shirts and t-shirts that are plain and without logos. It makes you look much more mature.
—Stop being so picky with women! Short, tall, skinny, big, shy, loud, dark, light, nerdy, goth — date them all. There’s lots of men out there who complain about loneliness and only want to date one kind of woman. Date them all.
Nobody remebers cards, let alone from a loser. Write ‘shave ur balls weekly’ or something like that. Otherwise quit being a fuckin’ pussy douche
Follow your gut. Your instincts. They’ll be more right for you than wrong.
Eyes, ears and fingers, you only ever get one pair of each so take care of them best you can.
We live in a world with nearly any information available through a simple Google search. You can learn anything in mere moments. Try doing things yourself before paying someone to do it for you.
you need friends, the world is not survivable alone.
Success isn’t amassing wealth, sleeping with 1000s of women, acting “alpha” or driving a nice car.
It’s being comfortable with you, supporting loved ones, being dependable, being true to your values and trying to do some good in the world.
You are what you eat, find a friend in a woman first (friend zone is a myth), your action define you not your world. Making a choice is not a problem you can always reverse it. Changing direction all the time will lost you, Take a decision and if you are wrong change otherwise stick to it, it takes time to see result. When older people tell you things it is not to piss you off but to help you see what you don’t, the truth sometime hurt you must learn to don’t act on it aggressively. When life give you lemon make lemonade, means : when something happen to you that change your plan, don’t fight it and make the best of it. When you don’t know what to do,$ control the way you act instead. When something bad happens, try to see that there is always worst. It will help you adapt your reaction to the event.
spend less then what you earn.