What love language does your spouse speak? And is it one you actually understand? 😆
What love language does your spouse speak? And is it one you actually understand? 😆
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What love language does your spouse speak? And is it one you actually understand? 😆
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We’re both a little of each. Mine is sympathetic dialogue, which falls under acts of service. I think his is probably a mix of acts of service and quality time.
However we both love all of them. I think neither of us are predominantly, physical affection, but we are still affectionate.
I’ve always thought it’s best to show every love language to the person you love, because they’re all pretty awesome. They’re also usually really fun.
His love language is food, which I completely get.
Gift giving, food making, lots of hugs and always telling me he loves me.
Generosity. He is a giver, if anyone says anything about wanting or needing a thing, its his mission to get it for them.
He is Autistic and does not show feelings or emotions, or communicate feelings. This is his way to show love, and it took me a while to learn to accept it, without feeling guilty.
His is physical touch. That’s a bit of a struggle for me.
It took me years to figure it out, but act of service and quality time. Every day, in so many ways, he shows his love. He’s given me space to spread my wings, supported me, respected me, and been my safe haven. I try every day to be the same for him.
He is acts of service and quality time through and through.
And yes it is absolutely ones that I understand because they are the ones that I need.
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Acts of service and gifts. Mine’s quality time. So there’s a mismatch sometimes.
Giving gifts and physical touch, which is great because I like getting gifts and cuddling, lol.
I’m unmarried but am in a long term relationship with an amazing guy. This is pretty different compared to others, but we often make random noises that aren’t even from or similar to an actual language. We know what the other person means just because of how long we’ve done it for. He also gives really sweet presents.
He’s a hugger. I’m all about that.
Our shared love language is food. His love language is rage baiting I think(?) he loves annoying both me and our cats. My love language is just any form of affection cause I got both mommy and daddy issues and just want to be loved.
I wish everyone would actually read the book. Our love languages are about our unmet needs from childhood. We ideally would “speak” and “understand” all of them pretty fairly. The unmet needs lead to prioritizing one or 2 over the others. It’s an incredible couples counseling resource.
Mine are words of affirmation and gift giving. My spouse’s is touch. He sucked at speaking mine for a long time. We definitely developed the classic “mismatched” thing where he felt very loved and I felt starved. He’s been putting real effort into speaking them though and now he often shares things he loves about me, points out my strengths and shows lots of appreciation (words of affirmation), and pays attention to little things I like or need and randomly surprises me with them, or with my favorite little snacks 🥰 (gift giving). He’ll do it in small thoughtful ways like remembering I’m out of my favorite bedtime tea and stopping by the store on the way home to grab some.Â
I speak his (touch) with lots of little surprise hugs, playing with his hair, hand holding in public, rubbing cuticle oil into his nails for him, lots of snuggling, etc. When he wants to speak “touch” to me, he likes to brush my hair, which puts me in a relaxation coma lol 🤤 and most importantly, he never ever coerces me into sex in the name of his “love language.” Touch as a love language is physical affection, not sex. Just in case anyone else needs to hear it 💚Â
Yes i understand his completely
Physical touch and quality time!!! I speak the language very well
Compliments, lots and lots of compliments. Physical touch. Quality time. I do feel loved, so I guess I do understand his love language 🙂
His is physical touch and words of affirmation. Its easy for me. Mine is gift giving and acts of service. I love to find the right gift for him and others. He gives me great gifts most of the time but struggles with helping me do the dishes and other little things.