Anything that made you wonder or made it fully click that the feelings you were developing for someone was in fact earnest romantic love, and not infatuation or deep friendship?
What made you realize that you were truly falling in love for the first time?
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I felt calm around her. True, deep, peaceful calm. Yes there was heart-racing, tear our clothes off chemistry. But I felt like nothing could shake me with her. I knew we could face anything together and get through it.
I never felt anything like it with anyone else. The second I opened the door was like I finally found the missing piece in my life and everything all of a sudden felt calmer. That still hasn’t changed. The first thought that crossed my mind when I saw him was “It’s you. It’s going to be you.”
It really was a case of when you know, you know because we were living together within the month probably and we’re four years strong. Life has been really hard this past few years, but we’ve been strong and solid. I couldn’t imagine going through all this shit with the world alone right now.
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I had two previous relationships before him and i thought i knew love, but i definitely didn’t when i realized how at peace i felt with just his presence, how comfortable and safe i felt in his arms, how full my heart felt being loved by him. It’s been about 3 years together so i can’t remember an exact moment. I think that it just progressed and we both acknowledged how easy it was to be together. He had his bad experiences as i did in the past but together everything clicked. We were first friends when we decided that we loved each other and just went for it.
Able to be myself fully around him and I started actually imagining my future in a relationship. (Marriage etc.). I was young and had never had thought past college before. Met at 19 & 20 still together and married at 35 & 36.
To this day, I don’t understand what came over me. I call it my one-time, sudden onset turrets episode. It was horrible. I never wanted to feel that way again.
I immediately felt calm and safe with him. And within two dates, I had zero interest in continuing to date anyone else even though I had spent the previous 10 months extremely serious about not getting into another relationship anytime soon, totally adamant entirely that I didn’t want any kind of exclusive Boyfriend at all.
But I couldn’t help how I feel. I just wanted him, all the time, no one else. And every interaction we had was so healthy and positive and excellent. And the physical chemistry is like nothing I’ve ever experienced
I let him play a Phish CD in my stereo. Lawd, I hate that hippie, noodly shit.
Hmmm I always knew.
But I guess the feeling that I always have with love – real love – is a lack of anxiety. A lack of insecurity …
It’s like my whole body calms down.
I had this ex and he actually called me up when we were first dating and he said he was miserable.
I was shocked and he said, “ all I can think about is having sex with you. It’s consuming my life and I am totally fucking miserable. So look. If we don’t have sex soon, I don’t want to date you anymore.”
Hahahahaha
I know it sounds so bad – but he really meant it. He was brutally honest all the time- so … and I loved it.
I don’t know if I would have waited – I was kinda like just playing it by ear but … I knew he wanted to have sex with me- and I had this steady anxiety you know before I got there … like nervousness the first time etc – and insecurity – we all have that- right?
But I got to his house and I remember thinking .. I have none of that. It’s just calm. It’s just peace.
I am totally safe with him.
It was the reverse of insecurity.
It was complete safety. It was this calmness and peace and like –
I belong here. I was born to be here.
I was made for this man. For this.
That’s how it feels to be in love.
I knew crush, lust, infatuation, and had loved in the past. But the deep warmth, excitement, comfort, and pull I had toward my husband was next level. And those feelings never faded. We’ve been together 8 years and I still feel those things. Also, I never cried during weddings until I met my husband lol. The first wedding I went to with him was almost embarrassing since I needed so many tissues lol.
The night we met in 2008 we had drinks, and sang sublime songs together from his MP3 player by sharing a set of ear buds. I’d never smiled or laughed as genuinely as I did that night.
Love? Is that real? I thought that it was made up for the holiday seasons.
Well this is shocking. I am shook. Shook I tells ya!
When I cared more about him and how he felt, over my feelings.
I started to just want to nap on him forever. I couldn’t look at him for too long before getting overwhelmed with tears. I just love him lots.
when they just become a part of your life and you would rather be around him then away from him and you start allowing yourself to be vulnerable to him.
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I saw him in black outfit on a wedding when I was a teenager, he’s a year older than me. Though I had seen him before but never thought of him like that, but all of a sudden that day on the wedding I fell for him. I was 12 then and I’m 32 now. Even though I’ve moved on, but I still remember the nitty gritty of every interaction.
I realized that I always feel comfortable being myself around him. I was never the type of person to mask or fake politeness or think twice before I say some stupid thing, but sometimes I’d get that „oh damn this person must think I’m gross”. With him I never got that feeling. I never felt the need to impress him. I never felt the need to slow myself down or push myself to act differently. It was full comfort of just being myself. He was always just so accepting and understanding, caring about the sаme values, open at communication, aware… We got that amazing communication and that’s what makes me feel free as a person. He feels like a cozy bed for my soul.