My friend had left a child unsupervised while in her care, he walked out onto a main road, got taken to police, she didn’t notice til they showed up, then she lied about it, and my other friend, her sister, covered her for it.
He was going further and further down a Jordan Peterson (this was pre-Tate and he’s too old for that anyway) / men’s rights / ‘white men are the most persecuted people on earth’ rabbit hole. Married a foreigner then divorced, and was going anti-immigrant. Just no fun any more.
The most common. I was the only one putting effort into the relationship. I would be the only one texting, scheduling hangouts, updates etc.
We were great and we just drifted apart. Complete apathy that was gradual, but it still felt like night and day when I came to the realization.
It’s crazy to think someone could care for you so much within a year and then the next nothing. They already moved on and you saw it happen slowly until it was gone.
The plans we made together, the lists, memories, nicknames. All gone.
I realized when I was going through some tough, but really personal issues that no one had reached out to me for some time. Many months. I was very much tied up with these issues on a daily basis. It was not realistic to reach out to a number of people at that time, so I figured sooner or later one person from this group would eventually reach out and they’d relay the rest to the others. But since not one did, no one knew. As time went on and the issues grew, I realized this same group wouldn’t know what’s happening, wouldn’t know if I was ill or even dead. It was an eye opener. My family and other friends were there for me and offered their moral support. I realized who had my back and who let me drift away. After another year went by, I still haven’t connected with any of them. I wish all of them well, but time is precious and I know to only spend it with those invested in me.
Multiple times arranging plans and going places without me. I would always find out randomly and when it would be too late to join, or I’d just see it on their social media.
When I left her fiancés alcoholic best friend. When I got into a new relationship she stopped messaging or checking in when we used to talk every day. She also stopped reacting to any fb post involving my new partner.
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Said no to getting Blackout drunk on a tuesday 🤧
She back stab me
my friend was abusing his wife
Their actions.
As my life improved and I started to succeed, she took a step back by the time I owned a house and was married she would barely talk to me.
Encouraging my addictions,
when i realized that they weren’t growing as people, and that was holding me back.
She’s stupid
When they texted me and said “WE HATE ALL STRAIGHT WHITE MEN”
When I was always there for them, but they were never there for me — that’s when I knew.
My friend had left a child unsupervised while in her care, he walked out onto a main road, got taken to police, she didn’t notice til they showed up, then she lied about it, and my other friend, her sister, covered her for it.
Both in the trash.
Blaming me for “choosing depression”.
Engineers get played left and right. Know your worth ladies and gents.
When they laughed way too hard at a joke about me I didn’t even finish telling.
He was going further and further down a Jordan Peterson (this was pre-Tate and he’s too old for that anyway) / men’s rights / ‘white men are the most persecuted people on earth’ rabbit hole. Married a foreigner then divorced, and was going anti-immigrant. Just no fun any more.
When my life went downhill for a time, all except one of them chose to look the other way. After I wad always there if they needed it. Bye bye!
When I only heard from them when they wanted a favor…
When I told them something personal and they turned it into a group chat meme.
They thrive off petty drama in their 30s. I just didn’t have the energy to deal with it.
The most common. I was the only one putting effort into the relationship. I would be the only one texting, scheduling hangouts, updates etc.
We were great and we just drifted apart. Complete apathy that was gradual, but it still felt like night and day when I came to the realization.
It’s crazy to think someone could care for you so much within a year and then the next nothing. They already moved on and you saw it happen slowly until it was gone.
The plans we made together, the lists, memories, nicknames. All gone.
They threatened to kick my new puppy because they don’t like small dogs
Ended two longtime friendships because they’re both too f’d up. Always problems and drama, always excuses for it.
When you’re 20 and have drama, it’s not necessarily a red flag. When you’re 50 and still having drama…the problem is YOU, not everyone else.
I would rather have no friends than be around people who can never seem to get their shit together.
I realized when I was going through some tough, but really personal issues that no one had reached out to me for some time. Many months. I was very much tied up with these issues on a daily basis. It was not realistic to reach out to a number of people at that time, so I figured sooner or later one person from this group would eventually reach out and they’d relay the rest to the others. But since not one did, no one knew. As time went on and the issues grew, I realized this same group wouldn’t know what’s happening, wouldn’t know if I was ill or even dead. It was an eye opener. My family and other friends were there for me and offered their moral support. I realized who had my back and who let me drift away. After another year went by, I still haven’t connected with any of them. I wish all of them well, but time is precious and I know to only spend it with those invested in me.
One guy said I wasn’t a productive member of society because I disagreed with his racist immigration views.
When I discovered the group chat about me wasn’t the one I was in.
Multiple times arranging plans and going places without me. I would always find out randomly and when it would be too late to join, or I’d just see it on their social media.
I blocked them and don’t look back anymore!
When I left her fiancés alcoholic best friend. When I got into a new relationship she stopped messaging or checking in when we used to talk every day. She also stopped reacting to any fb post involving my new partner.
Downplaying other people’s success
When they wouldn’t respond to working on the relationship.
When my ex husband had an affair and they all stayed friends with him and his affair partner
Cocaine. Makes people annoying and mean.
People who just talk about themselves and dont listen to you at all when you talk for more than 5 seconds.
After a while you realise that it’s not really a friendship anymore, you just are in the same room.
Noticed early signs of crab mentality, but I ignored it until it got worse, that I have to slowly detach myself from them.
They only showed up when they needed somethin