Having a child shifts the energy of your loved ones. I won’t say I regret having a child, but I sureeee wish people would remember that I am an individual too .. and that when I do finally want to do something for myself, that I don’t need to be reminded about my child because my life revolves around my baby already and I feel guilty when I try to take a step back. So bringing up my baby just makes me wish I hadn’t taken that time to myself. Bonus points if they don’t constantly tell me to take a break because I need it 😂
I will say I wouldn’t use the term regret but my main reason for thinking it wasn’t the best idea to have kids.
First child I was 17, 2nd I was 21-I didn’t know what I was doing. Had no clue and feel immense guilt. I tried my best but I didn’t do all the things I know I should have. I feel like I screwed them up.
3rd child I was 34- while I am a better mother, now that I’m fully grown I see how much pain the world can cause. It’s horrible here and now my kids have to endure hatred, mean people, constant chaos, and unstable economy, so on and so on. I think it’s extremely selfish to bring children in this world. But alas here they are. I love them and for that reason I wish they didn’t have to endure such a horrible place/people.
I’d say there have been waves of regret that come and go, thankfully.
Wave #1: second child developed chronic illness that took over our lives for almost 4 years. Guilt at not being there as I would have wanted for first child, anxiety, so many sleepless nights all added up to waves of regret.
Wave #2: first child becoming a teenager… IYKYK, cannot put into words the feelings this will give you.
I’m grateful these waves always dissipate, but they sure are hard to ride out.
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Having a child shifts the energy of your loved ones. I won’t say I regret having a child, but I sureeee wish people would remember that I am an individual too .. and that when I do finally want to do something for myself, that I don’t need to be reminded about my child because my life revolves around my baby already and I feel guilty when I try to take a step back. So bringing up my baby just makes me wish I hadn’t taken that time to myself. Bonus points if they don’t constantly tell me to take a break because I need it 😂
I will say I wouldn’t use the term regret but my main reason for thinking it wasn’t the best idea to have kids.
When I stepped on a LEGO at 3 am and saw my life flash before my eyes
the father
I’m a super pacifist and I’m empathetic to the point that it’s a detriment.
With the backstory out of the way: when my kids treat each other badly. Which is like, a lot.
I’d say there have been waves of regret that come and go, thankfully.
Wave #1: second child developed chronic illness that took over our lives for almost 4 years. Guilt at not being there as I would have wanted for first child, anxiety, so many sleepless nights all added up to waves of regret.
Wave #2: first child becoming a teenager… IYKYK, cannot put into words the feelings this will give you.
I’m grateful these waves always dissipate, but they sure are hard to ride out.