I’ve noticed a pattern online that I find really interesting, especially on social media or forums. When someone (usually a woman) shares an experience where a man’s behavior made them feel uncomfortable—like being followed, stared at, or approached in a weird way—many replies seem to lean toward defending the man. Things like, “Maybe he’s just socially awkward,” or “You might be overthinking it.”
What I find curious is that people will often defend someone they don’t know at all, even over the person sharing their personal experience. I’m wondering what drives that reaction.
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Dude, she was wearing a see-through bra and a gstring, walking around like it is normal public clothing.
Context is key.
Edit: typo
Depending on the post, if there is little to no info people what to point it out “maybe we need more info, who knows what really happned”.
In case there is detailed and seemingly objective description then a decision can be made and the comments tend to be in line with the situation.
A lot of it is a lack of context, empathy, projection of their own issues/prejudices I think.
The recent insanity over the “I’d choose the bear” thing.
Like I’m a bloke but I have a missus, female relatives and female friends, you hear their stories and you start to think “I’d consider the bear as well”.
We’ve somehow arrived where the worst of all sides of an issue frequently have the loudest voice online, where it’s better to be certain than thoughtful – it gets a bit old.
You don’t have to accept someone’s viewpoint to see the world from their point of view.