What makes sexting feel more intense or exciting than real sex for some people?

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What makes sexting feel more intense or exciting than real sex for some people?

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  1. Korina-Korina Avatar

    I think it’s the confidence you get from being behind a screen. It’s the same thing with social media. You can be whoever you want to be. It’s easier to hide what you think a flaws and you can be as open as you want without the in person judgment.

  2. Agreeable-Tourist599 Avatar

    I feel like it’s more exciting because you can’t be with that person immediately so you have to wait and day dream about what you will do once you’re together, makes sex that much better

  3. Ok-Criticism6874 Avatar

    I like to add hit points to my sexting.

    I came so hard = -45hp

  4. Used_Candy4357 Avatar

    I’m not sure but I’m totally down if any females wanna sext.

  5. merchantaccounted Avatar

    When u actually know them or u just go a little bit into detail. Also when they have a bf and uk he ain’t doing shit

  6. WhackyToast Avatar

    Sexting is lame.

  7. AdditionalClient2992 Avatar

    Your imagination going to work

  8. Barduwar Avatar

    The fact that all you have to do is talk the talk and you don’t have to walk the walk.

  9. Pleasant-Caramel-384 Avatar

    I feel like I can say dirtier things than I ever would in real life (since I’m a little bit shy). Also, it’s just the fantasy aspect of it.

  10. duhvorced Avatar

    The chance you accidentally send it to the group text that includes your in-laws.

  11. Mindless_Can_5259 Avatar

    it’s not as cringe because you don’t have to hear yourself talking dirty

  12. g1n3k Avatar

    You can be something false. In any case, this is far from the excitiment of real vulnerable intimacy. It’s something rather pathological.

  13. duchessisdying Avatar

    It’s all in the imagination. You get to focus on what you like, them too. And you guide each other to say and pretend to do what you each like, unlike real life where I assume, communication is less present

  14. femalerose Avatar

    In my opinion sexting never can be more exciting or better then real sex… its just like a teaser

  15. throwaway_hotgirl Avatar

    You can be anything you want

  16. CodeVirus Avatar
  17. Soggy_Nectarine6571 Avatar

    Personally, I wouldn’t say it’s “more” intense or exciting than irl sex. But I absolutely LOVE sexting for the sheer anticipation of what’s going to come next! Especially quick, line by line sexting is super hot to me (not being kept waiting too long).

    Also- I genuinely believe that sexting is basically a form of art. I don’t care what anyone else thinks. It takes a lot of time and effort to write something thoughtful, especially if you gather info on what the person is doing at that moment (work/home/etc.) and work something up.

    I say it’s a form of art because (me personally) I really like details. The more detailed it is (but also quickly written), the better. It’s also the reason why I prefer purely verbal sexting to photographic exchanges. The anticipation is hotter.

    Also, you learn so much from a person on how they sext. It’s so fun seeing what gets them off as they write to/for you. You get a nice insight into their fantasies and kinks. All of this is awesome if the vibes are vibing btw.

  18. Dizzy-Research893 Avatar

    Think it’s just the buildup

  19. LongjumpingLet6892 Avatar

    Sex is mostly in the brain, for me it’s where foreplay begins before we get to the physical aspect of sex plus the freedom to be anything and lety mind go anywhere makes the overall experience enjoyable

  20. Impressive-Big-2009 Avatar

    The freedom to say anything I want

  21. DarthPlayer8282 Avatar

    It’s a mind fuck 🤯

  22. Independent-LINC Avatar

    Sometimes the words GRAB your imagination and it takes you to the promise land.

  23. FranksAccount42 Avatar

    I always felt like using my imagination set the settling of what I want and look. So it’s perfect for me. And of course some excitement in doing something naughty.

  24. Six-Foot-3 Avatar

    The confidence to say whatever one wants to say. 2) no consequences in sexting. It’s not difficult to undo what you say, or atleast move on. 3) the thrill of knowing that your words have a magical affect on someone

  25. myotheraccount2023 Avatar

    You can be who you want to be, do what you want to do and it’s a great way of meeting exciting women and then cutting right to the chase.

  26. Own-Guess4361 Avatar

    Because I only sext with the same person and we are incredibly attracted to one another. There’s no script or format to follow we just talk about our desires to each other and how we’re feeling in the moment— videos and photos here and there (with sound). When you’re in love with someone everything about them turns you on. Their body is perfect no matter how it looks or changes, their voice/moans, and just knowing the way they’re feeling is because of the thought of you…it’s amazing.

  27. AzrisMentalAsylum Avatar

    My grandma would have a fit I said those things to her in person

  28. HX_Junior Avatar

    The anticipation, our mind is incredible.

  29. Words4Play Avatar

    For me the mind is the most important erogenous zone. If my mind is stimulated then everything else follows and the sex is amazing whether physical or virtual. If it isn’t then physical sex might still be good, but it won’t be mind blowing 🤯.

  30. Key-Fix6989 Avatar

    Words can paint the better picture than our bodies could ever do

  31. DaBigadeeBoola Avatar

    More intense and exciting??? 

  32. falcoriscrying Avatar

    Same concept in Plato’s forms that win concepts become things they then become fallible and can’t be a perfect ideal of what lies in our mind

  33. stratof3ar89 Avatar

    Knowing there’s an FBI agent spying on our texts.

  34. Wasabiaddict666 Avatar

    The fact you can be doing it simultaneously with 3 or 4 girls at a time and they don’t know.

  35. Martin_084 Avatar

    More intense and exciting? What if the other can’t come up with actual words to make the experience intense and exciting?

  36. The_Sedgend Avatar

    The allure, beef is tempting until you see ket

  37. wolveskin Avatar

    You get more time to think about what you want to say.
    There’s more anticipation from waiting on a response.

  38. Brownangel71 Avatar

    I’m shy 👉🏽👈🏽. I can’t ever get the correct words face to face out to build up the anticipation. When I text though. My thoughts are composed and said with more assertiveness.

  39. Amezyann Avatar

    The creation of a slightly unspeakable fantasy and much easier in sexting! Solitary pleasure is different from pleasure in pairs and the two are not comparable 😊

  40. musashi-swanson Avatar

    Anticipation that you don’t get to release.

    Good sex also has lots of anticipation, IRL. Make them wait, make them really want it.