I’ve always believed that physical beauty mostly depends on body weight.
Like… if someone is overweight or obese, I automatically see them as unattractive because of that. And if someone is not overweight, then I assume they’re not ugly.
But lately, I’ve noticed people who don’t have thin faces or slim bodies — full cheeks, thicker hips, rounder features — and they still look really good. That’s been messing with my beliefs.
I keep thinking: “If your face isn’t slim or defined, you’re just not attractive.” And I hate that I think that way.
I’m already going to therapy and working on this, but I’d really appreciate hearing from regular people:
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It has to deal with aesthetics but also how you carry yourself. A toxic person loses.
Beauty is subjective but I’m one of those people who can see faces as art. Each face is different and unique and I just don’t believe in ugly. I think a smile makes someone attractive.
Clear skin and decent facial symmetry.
But for me, a degree of physical fitness is also important.
You know why they make so many cars? Because everyone finds different things beautiful. Some people prefer certain heights. Some people are ass men, some boob men. Some guys like tight model, some like athletic, some curvy, and some bbw.
Don’t define it, that doesn’t help. Do you find the person attractive or not. That’s all that matters.
As an old phrase goes “I know it when I see it.” And that’s all that should matter to you.
Completely subjective. What I like will differ from what others like.
You do have a better shot if you’re physically fit though.
I genuinely have no idea what makes someone not attractive or attractive. Every time I think “I just don’t find <insert trait> attractive” someone comes along that crushes that concept.
Statistically it’s someone with a very symmetrical face that looks similar to you with deviations leaning towards ‘average’ (average shaped nose, eyes, etc)
What people find physically attractive in another is subjective and the non-physical elements contribute to that. You can be hot AF but if you have the personality of an ice tray, you’ll be less attractive physically.
It’s so subjective and includes everything physical about you, and your personality, how you carry yourself, body language, etc.
That being said…as a woman I care way more that you: a) trim your fingernails, b)clean yourself with soap, c) have good breath, and d) wear clean clothes that fit* than have any particular physique.
*Your clothes also have a huge impact on how your body looks! It’s very easy to go to a store or a stylist and get someone to help you figure out what sizes and shapes are right for your body.
I don’t know why this just popped into my head but when I was younger I didn’t think any women were beautiful at all. Even the most beautiful women I thought were ugly and I don’t know why to this day. I even thought that I was ugly myself and all of my family and any woman I ever saw. I don’t know why, it was strange.
You’re noticing you’ve got a faulty view, let it work itself out.
Look at it this way. A single note isn’t attractive or ugly. It’s just a note. But how you put them together can make a good song or a bad one. So it’s strictly about composition, and that’s what your brain picks up on subconsciously. It just tells you what it worked out from all that as “ugly” or “not ugly”. Hell even once you have a song, someone will hate it and someone else will love it.
Attractiveness absolutely exists, but it is just about the most subjective and vaguest concept you’ll ever come across. Saying being fat is what makes people ugly is like saying being 22.3cm is what makes string string because Jeff at the post office thinks so.
I think having confidence makes people more attractive