I believe a person is shallow when they focus too much on appearance, wealth, or social status and allow those things to shape how they view others or themselves. While such factors may hold some significance, life should never revolve around them.
When a person makes opinions about someone else as though they’re reading a resume, they’re shallow. You want to give everyone a shot at an interview before deciding if they’re worth your time. (Obviously, being shallow about real resumes in a job setting is probably okay).
The most shallow person I met was very insecure and needed to make themselves feel better by constantly calling others fat behind their backs. I think a shallow person lacks a lot of self-esteem.
I met a couple people who were shallow. They judged potential boyfriends by if they had visible abs, how tall they were, if they had a full set of hair. It seemed like they didn’t care about the character and personality of the other person
Basing someone’s worth on their looks or money. It’s one thing to be attracted to someone or not attracted to them, but someone’s worth has nothing to do with looks. As far as how much money someone has, it’s shallow to base your opinion of them on that no matter what. Yes, I’ve met plenty of shallow people.
Being shallow usually means caring more about appearances, status, or surface-level traits than actual character or substance. I’ve met people who drop friends the second they aren’t “aesthetic” enough or only date for clout. It’s like… there’s no depth, just validation. Exhausting.
Shallow is someone disconnected from emotions and passions. They do everything in the name of external approval or power (due to trust issues). They focus on appearance, money, and hierarchy in everything they do. They also often struggle with addictions, drama, and inauthentic behaviors. Always looking over their shoulder with a pessimistic mentality.
Yes ive met plenty of shallow people. They’re easy to spot because they tend to be the most negative and guarded person in the room. They also have backstabbing behaviors, where they act hot/cold.
Everything is about them and what they want bin their own eyes they can never do anything wrong and it’s always someone else’s problem. For example I have a coworker who once came in and was super happy. She announces she’s pregnant. People are congratulating her. Someone asks her if her husband is as excited as her. She makes a face. And starts off with no he is really mad at her and she can’t understand why, he is thinking he might want a divorce. Some of us know the husband and he is super mellow so we asked why he was mad. It turns out that she decided it was time to have kids they had talked about it before and he had said he wanted to finish paying off debt and safe some money. She decided she knew better and decided to go off birth control when she got a positive test she went out and bought a bunch of baby clothes to let him know. So he was super surprised by the news and got mad when he found out she had intentionally gone off birth control. Even then she couldn’t understand how she was in the wrong or why people stop talking to her. Same girl a few years later got surgery to lose weight. She became even more shallow. This woman started cheating on her husband (yup same guy she assaulted) she started doing it kind of openly bragging about it at work she kept saying how she was just hot, and could
Have any guy she wanted and it would be a disservice to keep it all to herself. She eventually got fired when it came up she had slept with a few coworkers husbands (her so called close friends) and they found out. Turns out she was also sleeping with a few dads (we work in a daycare) and one of the wives found out. And she still couldn’t grasp what she did wrong. She started making herself the victim. Turns out when she was fired she was also pregnant. Last I heard her husband finally divorced her. And she was still online making herself the victim calling out her husband for not being more understanding and not wanting to help raise that child. She is by far the most shallow person I’ve met
Shallow is just a person who focuses solely on external wants and validations. For example, a person thinks having expensive things equals a personality or a person who only talks to people with a perceived social status.
The point is that it is all about appearance. There isn’t any depth, which is to say that they don’t have any form of internal wants or desires.
Internal fulfillment comes from self growth, having a connection to your core values, and finding meaning/joy within yourself.
The way you can tell if something is shallow is more based on the “why” of something vs. what the “thing” actually is.
Example of a Shallow Person: A guy who wants a 2025 Lamborghini because it provides him status.
Example of Non-Shallow Person: A guy who wants a 2025 Lamborghini because it was his father’s dream car, and he grew up working on cars with his dad as a kid.
In these examples, they both want the same thing. The difference with the shallow person is that he wants external validation, and the second one wants internal validation. For the second guy, it’s not about the car. It’s about his childhood nostalgia, a connection with his father, and (ultimately) ties to his own identity.
I had an ex friend that would not date a man unless he was: tall, very good-looking, rich, had an expensive car and he took her to the most expensive restaurants. She was good-looking but was a lazy trust fund baby. Never had a job. Just expected to be spoiled and pampered. She didn’t do housework and didn’t know how to cook. She is 65 and has never been married.
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I believe a person is shallow when they focus too much on appearance, wealth, or social status and allow those things to shape how they view others or themselves. While such factors may hold some significance, life should never revolve around them.
When a person makes opinions about someone else as though they’re reading a resume, they’re shallow. You want to give everyone a shot at an interview before deciding if they’re worth your time. (Obviously, being shallow about real resumes in a job setting is probably okay).
The most shallow person I met was very insecure and needed to make themselves feel better by constantly calling others fat behind their backs. I think a shallow person lacks a lot of self-esteem.
I met a couple people who were shallow. They judged potential boyfriends by if they had visible abs, how tall they were, if they had a full set of hair. It seemed like they didn’t care about the character and personality of the other person
Basing someone’s worth on their looks or money. It’s one thing to be attracted to someone or not attracted to them, but someone’s worth has nothing to do with looks. As far as how much money someone has, it’s shallow to base your opinion of them on that no matter what. Yes, I’ve met plenty of shallow people.
Being shallow usually means caring more about appearances, status, or surface-level traits than actual character or substance. I’ve met people who drop friends the second they aren’t “aesthetic” enough or only date for clout. It’s like… there’s no depth, just validation. Exhausting.
Shallow is someone disconnected from emotions and passions. They do everything in the name of external approval or power (due to trust issues). They focus on appearance, money, and hierarchy in everything they do. They also often struggle with addictions, drama, and inauthentic behaviors. Always looking over their shoulder with a pessimistic mentality.
Yes ive met plenty of shallow people. They’re easy to spot because they tend to be the most negative and guarded person in the room. They also have backstabbing behaviors, where they act hot/cold.
Seems like low self esteem or lazy parents.
Everything is about them and what they want bin their own eyes they can never do anything wrong and it’s always someone else’s problem. For example I have a coworker who once came in and was super happy. She announces she’s pregnant. People are congratulating her. Someone asks her if her husband is as excited as her. She makes a face. And starts off with no he is really mad at her and she can’t understand why, he is thinking he might want a divorce. Some of us know the husband and he is super mellow so we asked why he was mad. It turns out that she decided it was time to have kids they had talked about it before and he had said he wanted to finish paying off debt and safe some money. She decided she knew better and decided to go off birth control when she got a positive test she went out and bought a bunch of baby clothes to let him know. So he was super surprised by the news and got mad when he found out she had intentionally gone off birth control. Even then she couldn’t understand how she was in the wrong or why people stop talking to her. Same girl a few years later got surgery to lose weight. She became even more shallow. This woman started cheating on her husband (yup same guy she assaulted) she started doing it kind of openly bragging about it at work she kept saying how she was just hot, and could
Have any guy she wanted and it would be a disservice to keep it all to herself. She eventually got fired when it came up she had slept with a few coworkers husbands (her so called close friends) and they found out. Turns out she was also sleeping with a few dads (we work in a daycare) and one of the wives found out. And she still couldn’t grasp what she did wrong. She started making herself the victim. Turns out when she was fired she was also pregnant. Last I heard her husband finally divorced her. And she was still online making herself the victim calling out her husband for not being more understanding and not wanting to help raise that child. She is by far the most shallow person I’ve met
Shallow is just a person who focuses solely on external wants and validations. For example, a person thinks having expensive things equals a personality or a person who only talks to people with a perceived social status.
The point is that it is all about appearance. There isn’t any depth, which is to say that they don’t have any form of internal wants or desires.
Internal fulfillment comes from self growth, having a connection to your core values, and finding meaning/joy within yourself.
The way you can tell if something is shallow is more based on the “why” of something vs. what the “thing” actually is.
Example of a Shallow Person: A guy who wants a 2025 Lamborghini because it provides him status.
Example of Non-Shallow Person: A guy who wants a 2025 Lamborghini because it was his father’s dream car, and he grew up working on cars with his dad as a kid.
In these examples, they both want the same thing. The difference with the shallow person is that he wants external validation, and the second one wants internal validation. For the second guy, it’s not about the car. It’s about his childhood nostalgia, a connection with his father, and (ultimately) ties to his own identity.
Yes. I have met shallow people.
I had an ex friend that would not date a man unless he was: tall, very good-looking, rich, had an expensive car and he took her to the most expensive restaurants. She was good-looking but was a lazy trust fund baby. Never had a job. Just expected to be spoiled and pampered. She didn’t do housework and didn’t know how to cook. She is 65 and has never been married.