I’m with someone who initially showed great interest in me but slowly this faded with time. I see him show up a lot for a female friend of his. I recently learned that he was trying to distance himself for a month without telling exactly why. I think he was trying to break things off. We talked and he said he wasn’t speaking to me because of the way I behaved. And I found out it was because I said something about his female friend so essentially he was punishing me for her case. We both agreed there are things I seriously need to work on, but this whole thing just made me curious.
What would make you show up to a woman this much?? Things like when she asks him to drop his plans and do stuff for her he does. When she’s upset and ignores him, he tries to make it up to her. And when I said something about her, he had the desire to punish me for her.
At one point when I told her this friend said horrible things to me and treated me like crap during one of her stunts, at that time when he was more into me, he told me “who would dream to hurt you? I will get back at them for you”, to which I refused.
I don’t want opinions about my relationship. What I want to know is what makes you as a guy with show up like this for a girl?
Is it love? Or something else? What qualities makes you this dedicated to her and loyal? Ready to get out of your comfort zone for this person?