What motivates you to be nice and kind to people?

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What motivates you to be nice and kind to people?

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  1. h0rny3dging Avatar

    Theres no motivation, its the bare minimum required of you as a person to function in a society

  2. LoganP2203 Avatar

    Being mean just feels wrong

  3. Ok_Method_988 Avatar

    I had great parents that raised me right ▶️

  4. Anewnegative1 Avatar

    Them.  Look at them—they’re bad ass—you can’t see that? 

  5. Real-Purple-6460 Avatar

    I like making others feel good.

  6. 3gkz Avatar
  7. Few-Regret4002 Avatar

    it feels good to be good to other people. definitely can be super mean but only when deserved lol, always good to have balance

  8. Admirable_Average642 Avatar

    It takes far less energy to be kind than it does to have confrontations, so I guess I’m just lazy.

  9. Used_Rhubarb_9265 Avatar

    I am just trying to keep my sanity. 

  10. Hot-Bar-4381 Avatar

    Knowing we are all struggling with something

  11. Cute_Knowledge8071 Avatar

    The idea that being kind and nice makes others happy makes me feel happy….

  12. External-Good7590 Avatar

    Nothing lol
    I’m just scared to offend anybody

  13. kind_heart_girl Avatar

    Karma. I believe in both bad and good.

  14. Tiny-Cat-5111 Avatar

    It happens naturally for me. It’s a gift, and a curse. 😪

  15. Jupiter_Matthews Avatar

    It’s simple. I just don’t want to hurt anyone. Being kind, helping others, doing things for people makes me feel good and I genuinely enjoy it.

  16. Zurichtown Avatar

    My core values, plus kindness fills your cup just as much as it fills another’s.

  17. Prestigious_Beat6310 Avatar

    I’ve been hit in the face a lot.

  18. LiveArrival4974 Avatar

    I don’t really have anything for motivation, I just do it.

  19. TownZealousideal1327 Avatar

    It’s the world I want to live in. I believe in doing the right thing.

  20. Windystar Avatar

    Treat people how you would want to be treated

  21. Low-Whole-7609 Avatar

    I genuinely like people. Not mean people, though.

  22. FugginGrangstah Avatar

    They’ve experienced pains you may never yourself

  23. FugginGrangstah Avatar

    They catch glimpses of the good and amazing in life and always fight to propagate that

  24. Chance-Wonder-5022 Avatar

    My daughter

    realizing everyone is someone’s kid and how badly i want the world to be kind to my kid.

  25. spiderweb_enthustist Avatar

    Why do we need motivation to be kind? Everyone deserves basic kindness and respect, there’s nothing that motivates me to kind, everyone deserves kindness, it’s simple as that

  26. The_Boy_Is_Odd Avatar

    The selfish desire to be treated in similar fashion.

  27. Which-Article-2467 Avatar

    I actually hope that that would make people like me.
    But that’s for some reason not how it works. The biggest jerks have the most friends.

  28. OkWanKenobi Avatar

    I think there’s a difference between being nice and being kind.

    As a people pleaser I was nice because it’s how I got approval and acceptance. So you could say nice, with strings attached. This of course ended up building resentment when all the nice things went unnoticed.

    Being kind on the other hand is being just that, with no strings or expectations attached.

    I’ll be kind, but not nice anymore. Nice me would never say no to anything, ever.

  29. Grand_Willingness639 Avatar

    I try and be respectful. Just the way I was raised.

  30. HexedShadowWolf Avatar

    People were not kind to me so I strive to be better than that

  31. 2PersonVA Avatar

    Being the positive change in the world I want to see.

  32. Miss_Flower_White Avatar

    Karma theory. As you sow, so shall you reap.

  33. Writer_feetlover Avatar

    Good karma and hate for drama.

  34. Bright-Invite-9141 Avatar

    The smile on receiving face

  35. zombifications Avatar

    I care to be kind to others. Treat people how you want to be treated.

  36. Own-Lion6537 Avatar

    I had to stop doing that actually, you dont owe anybody anything but yourself. Reserve kindness for your family and friends. To strangers be polite.

  37. Novel-Variety8248 Avatar

    When I compare nice people to rude people, it is obvious. The nice people have a better energy. And I am drawn more towards them than the rude ones.

  38. sowdirect Avatar

    I’ve had people who have started by being mean. When you break it all down it rarely has anything to do with you. Anyhow how I maintained calm is realizing this person has probably been through something or just started their day wrong and usually asking them if they want to talk, you see their shoulders drop and the tension leave their face. People just want to be heard and seen and that’s easy to do. I’ve also gotten a lot of new friends this way. Lots of hugs too.

  39. Iggy_McLulz Avatar

    I’m not sure. Maybe because I know how much it sucks to be treated badly 🤷🏻‍♀️.

  40. Radio-Shack7 Avatar

    Everybody – and I mean everybody – is going through some SHIT. Looking at people as humans with their own issues, makes feel like being mean and nasty unnecessarily is such a waste of time

  41. Fantastic-Fudge-6676 Avatar

    The faint hope that they’ll pass it on.

    I have no one, grand gesture that will change the world or even improve it. But maybe with a million little ones? Who knows. Anyway, as Phil Daniels once said, “it gives me an enormous sense of wellbeing”

    Peace x

  42. Accomplished-Lie2447 Avatar

    I feel so motherfucking good when I know I did my bit to help someone

  43. normalizeequality0 Avatar

    Life is too hard. Kindness is the best gift you can give a stranger

  44. King0fthewasteland Avatar

    because it would be a nicer place to live if everyone is just nicer to each other

  45. samdaz712 Avatar

    For me it’s just realizing how much a little kindness can change someone’s day. Sometimes people are going through things you can’t see and even a small gesture a smile holding the door or just being patient can make all the difference. I also feel like it creates this positive energy that comes back to you even if it’s not always in the same form

  46. No_Put3342 Avatar

    Just wanna see how kind I can be. Never know the limit.

  47. XBLVCK13SCVLEX Avatar

    Everyone is fighting a silent battle you dont know about. I try to treat others how i would like to be treated

  48. Kaikeno Avatar

    More often than not, being a dick to other people is just shooting myself in the foot

  49. FridayFunTime_ Avatar

    Kind is the default

  50. mediumperfect1 Avatar

    The golden rule: do unto others as you would have others do unto you.

  51. Professional-Bit3475 Avatar

    The urge to be mean isn’t there most of the time. Iunno… Being nice to someone is much more enjoyable!

  52. wheresthefuckinfaith Avatar

    It feels good to be good

  53. anothercrazydoglady Avatar

    The world awful enough place as it is so I don’t have any desire to add to the shitiness of it

  54. Proud-Tip301 Avatar

    Honestly karma and God and the pain of not treated well also like why to hurt any soul and when someone treat me not well i always think in back of my mind there must be some reason of doing so and it’s true also.

  55. Beneficial_Tip3082 Avatar

    Literally nothing lol that’s just how I was raised I guess

  56. Benjamasm Avatar

    It is just who I am, I enjoy helping people, even when it isn’t something that they will notice. I’m not religious in any way apart from wanting to be kind to people and hoping the world will be a better place.

  57. ken830 Avatar

    Why would you need motivation?

  58. nowaynolife Avatar

    It’s my character and what’s more, I was raised very well 😁

  59. RevolutionaryCard512 Avatar

    I treat others the way I like to be treated. Also, seeing someone’s face transform into a smile makes me feel happier. Kindness isn’t always easy, but I give it randomly and as generously as I possibly can, even when I’m miserable

  60. SkysEevee Avatar

    Because being mean makes me feel sad.

  61. DeadbeatGremlin Avatar

    I’d hate to be the reason someone’s day got worse.

  62. frank26080115 Avatar

    it’s now built into my muscle memory, the benefit is that I am confident that I am welcome and respected in all situations, I have no anxiety about going anywhere

  63. BrettWP Avatar

    The world’s already filled with enough assholes. Why add to it? Be kind

  64. TwinFrogs Avatar

    Because for every shit ass person I’ve met, I’ve met 20 more really good, kind and nice people.  

    Also, fuck you, Josh. I hope you die of scabies and impetigo. And maybe Typhus.

  65. ClassicCare5038 Avatar

    Thinking of GOD…

  66. SneeKeeFahk Avatar

    It’s the world I want to live in. I can only control my contribution so I try and do my part. 

  67. InsertCleverName652 Avatar

    Love makes the world go round.

  68. Friendly-Abies-9302 Avatar

    Nothing. Its just who i am and i would rather hve more friends than enemy.

  69. IdeasAreBvlletproof Avatar

    Empathy.

    Understanding how shit someones circumstances are

  70. sausagematt Avatar

    Life’s too short to be rude and mean

  71. CatMomma2324 Avatar

    Because I had a horrific childhood and I try to do everything in my power to make sure others don’t experience that pain. Especially caused by me. It is easier to be kind and you never know what some people go home to. Maybe if I put others first and am kind then eventually the world will actually be a place worth living in.

  72. Top_Shoe_9562 Avatar

    Kindness, decency, the thought of my dad’s voice living inside my head. You know, the usual.

  73. FarBlackberry4634 Avatar

    Iv been treated like im an asshole and that sucks and iv had some rly mean ppl around and for some I js felt bad for cause this ain’t a world where we need enemies and idk any other way to bring people together than by being friendly

  74. Popular_Rent_5648 Avatar

    Cause why not(: unless they absolutely don’t deserve it.

  75. Menn019 Avatar

    A good convo and a hug, i crave those, especially the latter one, more than a ‘good night sleep’.

  76. Pluviophilism Avatar

    Guilt. If I’m mean to people I feel bad about myself. When I say something that hurts someone I am ashamed.

    On the flipside, I feel good about myself when I am kind and especially if there is a noticeable improvement. It feels fulfilling.

    Wait, is this not how most people feel?

  77. Doomsday_Taco_ Avatar

    no reason not to

  78. Dodarit Avatar

    I know how it feels to be mistreated, and wouldn’t like others to feel the same. And also because it’s easier to be kind than to be petty. Being an asshole requires more mental energy, which I don’t have to begin with.

  79. BoysenberryOk5580 Avatar

    Having been bullied as a kid, and knowing what kindness, or the lack of it can do to a person.

  80. jimminyx Avatar

    trying to be the person i want my daughter to see

  81. Destinlegends Avatar

    You don’t need a reason to help people.

  82. bdublu51978 Avatar

    The idea that none of us know what the other person may be struggling with and who knows… your actions or words just may push them past that edge they were holding onto to avoid suicide. Conversely, being kind may keep alive when they’re fully intent on ending it all that day.

  83. MelancholyBean Avatar

    It’s innate and I also don’t want people to feel how others have made me feel

  84. Glad-Passenger-9408 Avatar

    I treat others exactly like I would like to be treated

  85. Potential-Rabbit8818 Avatar

    Nothing, it’s just inside.

  86. ChartCheap7829 Avatar

    Because the energy u give out, comes right back at u, it bites u in the ass.
    I am not a spiritual person, but one thing I sure believe is good and bad karma.
    I don’t want to suffer from what people suffered from because of me.
    It’s true that some good people have it tough, but they always get rewarded and gifted in a way we don’t get to see 🙂

  87. ErroneousAdjective Avatar

    Treating others the way you’d like to be treated & aligning oneself with that which is good

  88. LordCommander-66 Avatar

    treat people the way you wanna be treated

  89. GingyBreadMan420 Avatar

    A healthy fear of God

  90. Raven123x Avatar

    I don’t need to be motivated wtf.

    What motivates you to be cruel and mean to others

  91. M1ssUsed Avatar

    Every time people treated me wrong. I don’t want to be like them

  92. TucandBertie Avatar

    My day is better when people are nice and kind to me.

  93. ThrowawayGwen Avatar

    I know how it feels when people are nasty and wouldn’t want to inflict that on someone else.

  94. adevilnguyen Avatar

    The golden rule. It’s the first thing I remember learning. Also, it just feels right.

  95. International_Boss81 Avatar

    I don’t want anyone to feel as rejected as I have felt in my life.

  96. MISKINAK2 Avatar

    I don’t like seeing people hurt or in need.

    It’s more selfish than you’d think. I can’t enjoy my own if some one else is without.

  97. neohylanmay Avatar

    If you need to be “motivated” to not be an asshole, you’re doing it for the wrong reasons.

    Not being an asshole should be your default setting.

  98. AccomplishedOwl2155 Avatar

    remembering that everyone’s life is as complex as mine

  99. Secure_Breadfruit562 Avatar

    Being miserable is pretty exhausting also you never know what someone is already going through

  100. Milogoestothestore Avatar

    I truly enjoy making people’s day better. You never know what someone is going through so if I can make them smile and forget about their troubles for a minute I really dig it.

  101. bunnux Avatar

    Isn’t it the basic common sense not to be a dick and why would one even need motivation for that?

  102. coffeetalkcafe Avatar

    Because the world has too much negativity I should not treat others like that

  103. darkbarrage99 Avatar

    Remembering that no single conscious living thing on this planet was brought into existence by its own consent

  104. cordIess Avatar

    Because I learned that being nice isn’t always just about wanting to but also being able to. A nice person has been treated well, has mistakes overlooked, and has been supported. They’ve been treated with respect.

    I don’t want to give away that I’ve been mistreated.

  105. _Morvar_ Avatar

    Being kind feels good, acting unkindly feels bad…

  106. Thrillseeker0001 Avatar

    Uhh, just basic human decency? I don’t need motivation, I do it because it’s just the right and normal thing to do.

  107. VHDT10 Avatar

    Because I’d rather have people be nice and kind to me. It’s very simple.

  108. biggdogg2019 Avatar

    Cause that’s how I like to be treated …. Until proven otherwise

  109. Buzzlight_Year Avatar

    It’s just so damn easy

  110. WeirdImprovement Avatar

    Nothing. It’s just natural instinct

  111. Martinonfire Avatar

    I was brought up not dragged up

  112. DearAirMedia Avatar

    Being an asshole is for idiots.

  113. throwawaypatien Avatar

    Being nice to people feels nice. Being mean doesn’t feel nice.

  114. likmakok69 Avatar

    Cause some people has to go through crazy shit in a day and if one kind conversation with them can make them feel better then i would gladly have a good nice conversation with them

  115. TheBackOfACivicHonda Avatar

    Nothing. What qualifies as “nice” and “kind”? Basic manners? It’s stuck with me, because I was raised right.

  116. Traditional_Trust_93 Avatar

    Bringing others Joy brings me joy. Plain and simple.

  117. iamthebirdman-27 Avatar

    Nothing,it is who I am,until you screw with me or my family,then I become someone completely different.