Not advice as such, but always stuck with me as a wise thing for someone to say: I asked a monk (not exactly a monk, but effectively) if it had been hard for him to give away all his possessions to take a vow of poverty when he became a monk. He said no, giving individual things up is hard, but giving everything up was easy. I think about this a lot.
When something bad happens look for the teachable moment in it. What is the key lesson? Shad failure is providing you, grab on to that and release all the emotions. This is how you learn from your mistakes versus wallowing in the grief and sorrow and, completely missing the lesson, thereby wasting more time of your life.
Perfect isn’t attainable, so don’t wait to try and make it ideal. Just release something shitty because shitty is still better than nothing at all. Keep making things, and you’ll eventually get better.
Our statistics professor always was a funny guy who takes his job seriously, one day, out of no where he was talking about probability and made an example with life, he said “humans live on average 60-70 years, a lot of stuff can happen in that duration, u might lose a loved one or everyone, u might lose ur life’s work and your fortune, but it is no reason to give up, you still have your whole life in front of you, you can always rebuild” of course I’ve always heard the never give up advice from literally every successful man, but the way he said it…was different in a way that I cant explain.
Not a piece of advice, but when I was doubting whether I should move to Europe for a year, my mom said, “I wish I was in my 20’s, having these opportunities.” And that really stuck with me. I try to remember how cool it is to be young and try to do everything I can before it’s too late.
Advice: never set yourself on fire to keep others warm
Wisdom: we all judge ourselves by intuition and others by action.
So it’s not how you meant it that matters it’s how it’s seen. Do too many things that look shady and now nobody trusts you even when you’ve done nothing technically wrong.
Don’t go living your life in accordance with what other people think, but don’t be all upset when you have a reputation you don’t think you deserve.
My grandfather told me “Hang around people who are better than you”.
Meaning that you should talk to people that have the results or lifestyle that you want to achieve.
An ex girlfriend once told me. “Don’t be a man of all talk no action”
I failed to understand this when I was with her but years later I fully understand it.
So for anyone reading this, please learn from the foolishness and mistakes of my past.
The well off business owner of a food service franchise I gave 20 years to but only ever met in person twice, and they didn’t know who I was the second time anymore than they knew who I was the first:
Make yourself obsolete
Don’t try to do it all and be the hero, learn to do it all and teach someone else to do it, then repeat. Eventually you’ll have enough people being “you” that you’ll achieve more than you ever thought possible.
“Life’s a bitch. Sometimes you just gotta fuck it.” I don’t even necessarily think it’s the best advice I have received it’s just the one that stuck with me the most.
Never tell anyone 100% of what your going through. Never tell anyone what you make. Never run off at the mouth. Back yourself up. Only you have yourself at the end of the day, no one is coming to save you.
My dad used to say, someone has a problem, but you don’t need to make it your problem. This isn’t to say you don’t help out friends, family, and even strangers, but you just don’t let it overrule your life.
Another good piece of advice was from a friend, who said, we can’t live the lives of other people. In other words, people are responsible for the choices they make.
Ok it’s not advice but it was something my grandpa presented to me as I neared 17. He took me along to go pick up something from a friend’s house. We got there and the house is a mess. He’s stopped cleaning anything. He used paper plates and plastic cutlery for every meal and ate all of them in front of the TV. He was giving away this thing we were picking up. Everything was cordial until we left in the truck and my Grandpa turns to me and says
“He’s the kind of person just waiting to die.”
The idea of being so disconnected from life that you’d start standing in line to die struck me right in the face. Some people live lives of quiet sorrow, just patiently waiting to be relieved of the burden of getting up in the morning. I spent a good week thinking about what that meant to a 17 year old kid. How that might change how I choose to live. I won’t be waiting to die. If I’m lucky, I’ll be busy when it gets here
When I got married, my professional mentor gave me this advice:
“In your marriage, don’t focus on keeping contributions equal — aim to give 60%; whether it’s physical effort, cleaning, finances, in any argument, etc.
Because some portion of your partner’s effort will always be invisible to you. If you both focus on giving 60%, you’ll have a shot at making a partnership of equals”
23 happily-married years later, I can honestly say it was the best advice I’ve ever received
I was once told take care of yourself,
There is no one coming to save you.
If you don’t work you don’t eat.
It was some of the best advice I ever got.
It inspired me to make a living in the entertainment industry for 31 years.
Best advice I’ve ever gotten and has been on my mind every day is: I was asked to raise my hand, and so I raised it slightly above my head. I was then asked to raise it even higher this time, so I raised it as high as I could. And then they asked me, “Why don’t you give 100% the first time?”
“Guys have underestimated me my entire life and for years I never understood why – it used to really bother me. Then one day I was driving my little boy to school, and I saw a quote by Walt Whitman, it was painted on the wall there and it said, ‘Be curious, not judgmental.’ I like that.”
“So, I get back in my car and I’m driving to work and all of a sudden it hits me – all them fellas that used to belittle me, not a single one of them was curious. You know, they thought they had everything all figured out, so they judged everything, and they judged everyone. And I realized that their underestimating me – who I was had nothing to do with it. Because if they were curious, they would’ve asked questions.”
Don’t dwell over the past. Seriously, you’re not living in the past, so don’t be stuck there. Past mistakes, etc., just move forward and do better now. You’ve fucked up and learned from it. It’s not worth losing your mind over. I used to constantly stress about my past mistakes and it drove me insane. Now, I think of it as “I’m a completely different person now today than I was then, or even last month, last week, or even yesterday for that matter”, time doesn’t stop, life goes on, just focus on bettering yourself and don’t repeat the same mistakes
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Today is not forever
My grandfather told me
Don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm
Not advice as such, but always stuck with me as a wise thing for someone to say: I asked a monk (not exactly a monk, but effectively) if it had been hard for him to give away all his possessions to take a vow of poverty when he became a monk. He said no, giving individual things up is hard, but giving everything up was easy. I think about this a lot.
“You can always use [drug of choice] tomorrow.”
Never self deprecate, people will start to believe you.
This thing that we call life was defined by people no smarter than you.
Two always stick to my mind…
You can’t control who comes into your life, but you can control who says in your life…
Your brain’s job is to keep you alive, not make you happy. If you want to be happy, you need work on it.
KISS – Keep It Simple Stupid
Changed my life
When something bad happens look for the teachable moment in it. What is the key lesson? Shad failure is providing you, grab on to that and release all the emotions. This is how you learn from your mistakes versus wallowing in the grief and sorrow and, completely missing the lesson, thereby wasting more time of your life.
It’s not what you know it’s who you know
Advice I was given regarding creative pursuits:
Perfect isn’t attainable, so don’t wait to try and make it ideal. Just release something shitty because shitty is still better than nothing at all. Keep making things, and you’ll eventually get better.
You can do anything you want, but you can’t do everything you want.
Love is easier to find than compatibility.
When you hurt yourself in your teens, you’ll forget it in your 20’s and remember it in your 40’s.
Divorce won’t make you happy, but it will open the door for you to find it on your own.
“Just be yourself and do the things you enjoy” – the most dogshit and outright destructive piece of advice ever given
Our statistics professor always was a funny guy who takes his job seriously, one day, out of no where he was talking about probability and made an example with life, he said “humans live on average 60-70 years, a lot of stuff can happen in that duration, u might lose a loved one or everyone, u might lose ur life’s work and your fortune, but it is no reason to give up, you still have your whole life in front of you, you can always rebuild” of course I’ve always heard the never give up advice from literally every successful man, but the way he said it…was different in a way that I cant explain.
Your pull out game is not as strong as you think
Never stop chasing your wife. Always treat her like you’re dating.
If I ever get married again, I will always keep this advice in my head.
Not a piece of advice, but when I was doubting whether I should move to Europe for a year, my mom said, “I wish I was in my 20’s, having these opportunities.” And that really stuck with me. I try to remember how cool it is to be young and try to do everything I can before it’s too late.
Always run from a knife fight
Don’t be an idiot
Changed my life
Advice: never set yourself on fire to keep others warm
Wisdom: we all judge ourselves by intuition and others by action.
So it’s not how you meant it that matters it’s how it’s seen. Do too many things that look shady and now nobody trusts you even when you’ve done nothing technically wrong.
Don’t go living your life in accordance with what other people think, but don’t be all upset when you have a reputation you don’t think you deserve.
Wear sunscreen
Forgive yourself, because they dont have to.
Know when to shut up
A friend of mine told me “I just try to be better than the guy I was yesterday.” Ever since I applied that to my life I have been a happier person.
My dad always told me to pick your battles in relationships.
Never lie to make her/hum your gf/bf.
The less you care, the better off you’ll be.
Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and beat you with years of experience.
Don’t fall in love with potential
My grandfather told me “Hang around people who are better than you”.
Meaning that you should talk to people that have the results or lifestyle that you want to achieve.
An ex girlfriend once told me. “Don’t be a man of all talk no action”
I failed to understand this when I was with her but years later I fully understand it.
So for anyone reading this, please learn from the foolishness and mistakes of my past.
I wish you a successful life
Two- my grandmother said this
Familiarity breeds contempt!!!
Loose lips sink ships!!!!
Don’t stick your wick into anything you are not prepared to marry…. From dad on my first date!
Be yourself, cuz everyone else is taken.
“Think inside the box”
I never forget my own advice. There will be constant rejections in daily and parts of life.
The well off business owner of a food service franchise I gave 20 years to but only ever met in person twice, and they didn’t know who I was the second time anymore than they knew who I was the first:
Make yourself obsolete
Don’t try to do it all and be the hero, learn to do it all and teach someone else to do it, then repeat. Eventually you’ll have enough people being “you” that you’ll achieve more than you ever thought possible.
“Life’s a bitch. Sometimes you just gotta fuck it.” I don’t even necessarily think it’s the best advice I have received it’s just the one that stuck with me the most.
My father told me get a job that you love or you will be unhappy
Led Zepplin 4, side 2 😉
Never tell anyone 100% of what your going through. Never tell anyone what you make. Never run off at the mouth. Back yourself up. Only you have yourself at the end of the day, no one is coming to save you.
Advice I got from an older friend right after I filed for divorce:
Stop doing those things, and going to those places, that you know might hurt you.
My dad used to say, someone has a problem, but you don’t need to make it your problem. This isn’t to say you don’t help out friends, family, and even strangers, but you just don’t let it overrule your life.
Another good piece of advice was from a friend, who said, we can’t live the lives of other people. In other words, people are responsible for the choices they make.
Only the mediocre are always at their best
Neverland out money you can’t afford to lose
Fitness isn’t everything but everything is easier when you fit.
Never trust a junkie.
Told to me by a junkie I trusted after I confronted her for what she’d done.
Ok it’s not advice but it was something my grandpa presented to me as I neared 17. He took me along to go pick up something from a friend’s house. We got there and the house is a mess. He’s stopped cleaning anything. He used paper plates and plastic cutlery for every meal and ate all of them in front of the TV. He was giving away this thing we were picking up. Everything was cordial until we left in the truck and my Grandpa turns to me and says
“He’s the kind of person just waiting to die.”
The idea of being so disconnected from life that you’d start standing in line to die struck me right in the face. Some people live lives of quiet sorrow, just patiently waiting to be relieved of the burden of getting up in the morning. I spent a good week thinking about what that meant to a 17 year old kid. How that might change how I choose to live. I won’t be waiting to die. If I’m lucky, I’ll be busy when it gets here
Know your value
When I got married, my professional mentor gave me this advice:
“In your marriage, don’t focus on keeping contributions equal — aim to give 60%; whether it’s physical effort, cleaning, finances, in any argument, etc.
Because some portion of your partner’s effort will always be invisible to you. If you both focus on giving 60%, you’ll have a shot at making a partnership of equals”
23 happily-married years later, I can honestly say it was the best advice I’ve ever received
Listen to your parents.
Don’t let your left hand know what your right hands doing
Don’t take criticism from someone you wouldn’t ask advice from
You can be mad, but don’t be stupid
A mentor told me;
“You can stack a pile of bricks perfectly but if you keep piling, they will eventually fall”.
Miss the guy.
Keep your fixed costs low
Don’t put your dick in crazy.
Do more, eat less.
Honesty is the best policy.
Don’t take criticism from someone you wouldn’t take advice from.
Don’t listen to what they say, watch what they do
Never play leap frog with a unicorn. Self explanatory.
You’re not that important
Going back to an ex, is no different than digging through the trash… why?
“Never let a woman fuck up your money”
Never eat anything bigger than your head
You never know what others are going through. Be kind. Be aware.
You are not paying for sex, you are paying for the girl to leave.
“Don’t get married until you are 30.”
I didn’t get married until 34 lol
“Never attribute to malice what can be explained by ignorance or incompetence.”
Or more simply: “Assume positive intent.”
“In order for something greater to begin, something great must end.”
Peace of mind is priceless, but it’s also simple: Be honest, and never lie.
I was once told take care of yourself,
There is no one coming to save you.
If you don’t work you don’t eat.
It was some of the best advice I ever got.
It inspired me to make a living in the entertainment industry for 31 years.
Don’t be the senior person to know about a problem.
Know your fallacies and biases. Critical thinking isn’t until then.
Watch what they do, not what they say.
Best advice I’ve ever gotten and has been on my mind every day is: I was asked to raise my hand, and so I raised it slightly above my head. I was then asked to raise it even higher this time, so I raised it as high as I could. And then they asked me, “Why don’t you give 100% the first time?”
You cant reason a person out of something they didn’t reason themselves into.
No matter how hot she is, somebody out there is tired of her shit.
“Guys have underestimated me my entire life and for years I never understood why – it used to really bother me. Then one day I was driving my little boy to school, and I saw a quote by Walt Whitman, it was painted on the wall there and it said, ‘Be curious, not judgmental.’ I like that.”
“So, I get back in my car and I’m driving to work and all of a sudden it hits me – all them fellas that used to belittle me, not a single one of them was curious. You know, they thought they had everything all figured out, so they judged everything, and they judged everyone. And I realized that their underestimating me – who I was had nothing to do with it. Because if they were curious, they would’ve asked questions.”
IYKYK…
I got two, “When money talk, bullshit walk” and the second, “It is better to be alone than in bad company”
My Dad, to let it all roll off your back, like a frog in the rain.
Someone else’s lack of planning is not your emergency.
You are not your thoughts
Wear. Sunscreen.
Got a few…
An unwanted emotion must be replaced by another emotion. You can’t think your way through it.
You’re not reacting to the event at hand, but the trauma it reminds you of.
Almost all anger is usually a projection or transference.
Anger is fear disguised to you. Remove the disguise, and anger disappears.
“What are you afraid of?” my friend would ask. He was always right, always wise. Passed away a few years ago.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did.”
I heard that about 20 years ago.
Pick your battles – Not every battle is worth fighting, even if you win.
Don’t dwell over the past. Seriously, you’re not living in the past, so don’t be stuck there. Past mistakes, etc., just move forward and do better now. You’ve fucked up and learned from it. It’s not worth losing your mind over. I used to constantly stress about my past mistakes and it drove me insane. Now, I think of it as “I’m a completely different person now today than I was then, or even last month, last week, or even yesterday for that matter”, time doesn’t stop, life goes on, just focus on bettering yourself and don’t repeat the same mistakes