M17 and F17 me and my current gf dating for the past 5 months, recently she went on a car ride on her own with a guy let’s call him pat.
I’ve expressed my concern about me not liking her hanging around guys on her own, but she insisted that she was controlled in her last relationship and didn’t want that anymore so I agreed giving her more freedom and trust.
But on Thursday this week she’s told me she “wants to spend more time with her friends” so she won’t probably see me this week. I ended up asking who are these plans with on Thursday and she said with pat and she doesn’t know who else.
When I asked if we can see eachother on Wednesday shes said that she’s already made plans with pat to go on a car ride although before she said she didn’t know. Now it’s Sunday and she’s whent round to his place “with friends” without telling me prior only when I had to ask.
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Men and women can be friends. Either accept that or end the relationship and stay single forever.
confront her about it, if there is actually something fishy going on, ur gonna tell by her reaction, if she starts going in circles and beating around the bush
Have you hung out with them together what’s he like when your around ? Does he come off flirty with her or awkward around you?
Aren’t you friends with her friends? You would think she would invite you to come along to these gatherings, at least to get to know them if you don’t already.
You have to decide if you are okay with it. For example, I was with a woman and had a very good female friend. She was gay but I knew she wasn’t out so I never would say that to anyone. There’s a balance.
As long as they are respectful of you guys being a couple, and your gf respects you, it’s up to you if you are okay with it. It’s just a person.
She’s riding alright
Many would disagree but I wouldn’t approve that behaviour from GF either. I believe that’s a recipe for disaster. You don’t have to pay for your GFs past, and if you do the cost is the future…
You don’t get to tell her what she can and can’t do ever! If you don’t have trust in her it is you that has an issue.
Edit: just as she can’t tell/demand what you can and can’t do as well!
The thing is, people are gonna do what they’re gonna do. If she’s going to cheat, you can’t stop her. My advice is to trust her, until she gives you reason not to. And if that happens, well it’s up to you to decide if you’ll ever be able to trust her again. And if you can’t you end it.
Hounding her about things like this can really only go poorly. Maybe have a conversation about it, but in the end, you have to have that trust
Shes softly dumping you for Pat. Move on young buck and hit it when you can.
You’re both young & have a lot of changing ahead. She’s being upfront with you. I hope you take a girl for a ride too. Or dancing. Or for a coke. Be the best you that you can be & whoever you’re destined to be with will see how fabulous you are. Good luck & enjoy life.
Move on your being disrespected
You’re gonna have 20 more girlfriends man. Worry about those ones.
Drop her. You don’t need her in your life.
Your insecurities are going to push girls away. Time to grow up, and trust her or kick rocks!
You’re 17. You are too young to be stressed over shit like this. Move on, you are ginna realize there is a whole big world out there that you need to experience.
Either trust her or break up. Controlling behavior is a shitty look.
Dump her